You need to talk to your friends and let them know that it bothers you when they exclude you. If they are truly your friends, they will listen to you and care that they are hurting your feelings. They may not be doing it intentionally and may not know that it is hurting you. Just let them know and go from there. If they continue with this behavior, then you will know how much your friendship means to them.
2007-01-29 15:41:25
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answered by ? 7
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You have to talk to them and let them know how you feel. They may not even realize they are ignoring you that way. If you talk to them and nothing changes, then I'm sorry to have to say it, but they're not real friends. A real friend would never want to hurt you.
Pay attention to what's going on, and what you're doing, when they are being so nice to you, and then watch for the same thing when they go out without inviting you. Do they go places or do things that they know you don't like? Are you fun to hang out with? Do they use you in anyway? Are they only nice to you in school?
A real friend is nice to you all the time. It doesn't matter what the circumstances are. They are there for you when you need them. They don't judge, they encourage, they give advice, a shoulder to cry on, an understanding ear, and a helpful hand to pick you up when you fall. Are you a good friend? You first have to be a good friend to have good friends.
If they do not want to be your friends, don't waste your time. Find some new friends who like you for yourself. Never change who you are for someone else and never conform to a lifestyle that goes against what you believe in just to keep a fake friend.
Get into some after school activities, join a club, invite some friends to your house, etc.
You're young, enjoy this time in your life, stop stressing about it. It will all work out, be patient, but make some new friends.
2007-01-30 16:18:15
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answered by coolkatt 2
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Why is it important that these friends like you? What do you do differently on the days their nice to you versus the days their mean to you?I'm not going to say to heck with them because you're obviosly set on being their friends no matter what, but maybe try to make some additional friends, or take on a hobby or join a club so you don't notice it as much when they blow you off. You may realize on your own that you don't need them as friends after all.
2007-01-23 06:43:04
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answered by firecracker 4
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It does sound as though they may be playing games with ur feelings. I am guessing you are a young female, maybe still at school? I remember it well and i now have two girls, at school they can be very fickle with who they want to hang around with from one day to the next. I think you would benefit from one special best friend who will be more with you but also part of the same gang. Try talking to a different girl, get to know her and invite her to join your lot at some point. Then you wouldnt feel so excluded, but still remain mates with your current ones. x
2007-01-23 06:44:01
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answered by babyshambles 5
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Miss, your friends are good ones, but they're not ignoring u it's just that life is busy and one gets so busy that he or she doesn't have time to call his or her friends.
Try to call them and say hello. Remind them of ur days spent together and tell them that u wish those days would come back again. So, u only need to talk with them to understand what's going on.
Sometimes, one gets upset about something but we never say. so find out by conversing with them and hope it works.
Note. suggest places to meet in that would be a great idea.
2007-01-31 04:12:56
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answered by drfarfour 2
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Ur the token friend that they use to hang out with when the others aren't available.
i used to be that girl that got used like that.
it goes away after u find one real good best friend.
sounds like Ur still young.
dont waste one more second stressin about it.
dont continue to dwell on it.
that way u will have less chance of bad memories affecting ur self-esteem in the future.
2007-01-30 04:12:58
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answered by j 2
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i will understand your thoughts yet now and returned it happens to every person , even it occurred to me. My acquaintances now and returned pass away me on my own and forget approximately me. in case you're like me, quiet and not too social (properly I didnt was) then may well be human beings dont discuss with you as lots because of the fact of that, or may well be they ask you issues and you probably did no longer hear and that they think of you attempt to forget approximately them. Thats what my pal reported i became doing by ability of twist of destiny! may well be in case you're clever additionally, or have a high quality that they want, they're going to forget approximately you because of the fact of their busy schedule too. yet i did no longer care lots because of the fact I went with different set of acquaintances . so because it is it. Take it cool. do no longer forget approximately them, that makes no difference between you and them. Do desire them on their birthdays, anniversaries, particular activities and on different significant days :) desire this helped! :) thank you.
2016-11-01 02:29:22
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answered by atalanta 4
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Moody friends are the worst !!! That's why it's good to widen out and have alot of different friends, don't get stuck in a click. My wife and I are a young couple but we have older friends from Church and we love their wisdom and good advice and association.
2007-01-23 06:51:34
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answered by Jason W 4
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well, okay. You could try inviting them to something big or simple. See what they say! then maybe you'll know if they are real friends. If not, ask somebody whose not so popular like in the movie 'clueless'.
2007-01-29 07:31:50
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answered by ? 6
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Occupy yourself with things they might want you to include them in. And you'll have the upper hand. Be more aggressive and make more friends without replacing them and when they come around you can either include them or not.
2007-01-31 06:33:03
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answered by lil Trouble 2
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