So my period is 2 days late (it's NEVER late)...and i'm thinking it might be a pregnancy. I'm 24, have been in a committed relationship for a year, and we love eachother greatly. We went to a trip earlier this month...and I think that...well u get the pic. My q is whether or not I should tell him...or just go to the clinic myself. He made a comment yesterday about a cute baby on the street (and i agreed), and joked "well do you want a baby," and he gave me a puzzled look...which i understood to be a "no." i'm definitely not ready for a child...no doubt about that...and i know i'll have an abortion...pls advise on whether i should tell him or not..and if so...how?
2007-01-23 06:28:32 · 27 answers · asked by Snki55ed Princess 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
don't listen to these crazy pro lifers please do what you think is right and don't post abortion questions unless you want to take the abuse there heaping on you calm down periods change as you age and stress won't help either i am a parent but would advise you to do what you feel is right there are lots of people out there who just want to impose their views on you good luck .......
2007-01-23 06:51:42 · answer #1 · answered by auntie s 4 · 2⤊ 4⤋
If you are not sure, don't say anything until you are sure you are pregnant. Then, he has a right to know if he is the dad. Are you sure he wasn't looking at you like, are you!? Meaning, maybe he is ready for kids. Bring up the subject again. I'm glad my son's girlfriend finally told him. He told her he thought abortions are just a smooth way of saying murder. He also told her it was her body. I reminded him it was his child. Anyway. She didn't get the abortion and I will be a grandma in a couple of months. They are planning on getting married, which was their wish before they found out about the child, in October. Don't let him have the issue over you that you either lied or hid things from him. Be honest about your feelings and listen to his feed back. Then, make a decision. You are obligated to hear his side of it before you end the pregnancy.
2007-01-23 14:41:01 · answer #2 · answered by gigglings 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
ok a couple of things need to be addressed here
1 you DONT have a serious relationship
2 love is probably more puppy love/lust because if you were in LOVE and not ready for a baby...you would protect yourself from such happening. I mean there are health department that will give you condoms for FREE
3 you don't even know if you are pregnant and you are already not even giving the child a chance. sad that you are immature and foolish and yet your unborn child has to die for it. that is like killing an innocent man on deathrow then 2 weeks later having his name cleared by DNA technology.
4 and yes you should ALWAYS tell the father. Legally he has a say in the baby's life as well. You didn't create this child on your own. Last I check there are no asexual humans in existance. He may change his mind that he doesn't want a baby once he knows there is a little one growing rapidly inside your womb.
Most men say they don't want a baby means I don't want to actively try for one but I will welcome one with open arms if the moment shows itself.
Just think, if you parents decided to kill you just because they decided it wasn't the right time in their life to bring a bundle of joy and love into their lives. Check out the videos below before you make a decision.
2007-01-23 14:38:31 · answer #3 · answered by Summer H 3 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Yes you should tell him and perhaps you should consider a different option other than abortion. But you should definitely discuss it with your bf first. That's an awful big secret to keep from a significant other if you want the relationship to last. Plus an abortion leaves a lot of scars mentally anyhow. Please get some counseling either way you choose.
2007-01-24 12:30:40 · answer #4 · answered by gourmetkid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if u dont tell him then ur relationship will be over no matter what u should be honest with him u never know maybe ur just stressed or somethin but i think to have that kind of relationship and not take care of urself is j ust dumb dumb people shouldent have s*x cause things like this happen there are so many people out there that cant have kids ever think about adopion? prob not i mean im only 20 and if i got pregnate id step up to my responsabiltys and keep my baby its part me why would i wanna kill somethin of me for my mistake not the babys fault i mean u talk like its nuttin to go get one of those things in 20 years im sure ull think about it diff and wish u could go back in life i know i couldent ever forgive myself but then again im a responsable person id keep the baby
2007-01-23 14:43:49 · answer #5 · answered by missmycoco 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Okay, so you made a mistake and now you're sorry and are willing to use abortion as birth control...and you're considering not telling this guy you love...
First, rethink the whole abortion thing...you could always give the kid up for adoption if you're not ready.
Second, if you do go through with it and he finds out later, what do you think that'll do to your relationship?
He deserves to know, as it's his kid, too. Then, if you still decide to do it...together, you can deal with whatever feelings you have about it...together.
In the future, you should probably be more careful to make sure this doesn't happen again.
2007-01-23 14:37:01 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
You make me sad I am so sorry!
People are out there that would give up everything just to be able to have a baby and not be allowed and you want to kill one if you have a chance. I am not trying to be hateful and I am sorry if it's coming off that way but you have the chance to change someones life for the better by bringing a life into this world and sharing a miracle with someone. Ultimately you need to tell your boyfriend it would be his baby too, It's your decision I just ask that you consider the other options first before you have an abortion.
2007-01-23 14:37:51 · answer #7 · answered by neicee 3 · 3⤊ 2⤋
Definitely tell him, he has a part in this too. Women often misunderstand men and if he believes certain things about abortion when it's a personal issue, you might be making a mistake doing it without talking to him. Can't tell you how or when but, trust me you'll find the right moment and time.
2007-01-23 14:38:43 · answer #8 · answered by Fun2010 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Abortion is a personal choice, so wheather or not you decide to do it should be up to you. However you still should consult your BF before making such a move. They have places you can go to that will help you make choice that is non judgemental and best for you. Try your local planned parenthood.
Do you know that you are even preggo yet?? Did you take a pregnancy test??
2007-01-23 15:01:15 · answer #9 · answered by GrnEyedBandita 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i think you need to talk with him, and a puzzled look does not mean no...only the word no coming out of his mouth is a definitive. I am pro choice, and support your right to choose what you do in this situation, but I also believe that the father needs to at least be aware of what your choice is.
2007-01-23 14:43:22 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him. He deserves the right to know. Just say something like, " I think im pregnant and let him know what you plan to do then" but maybe wait till you take a test. For now on make sure you are using a form of birth control, as it is easier to get pregnant again. Good luck to though hun!
2007-01-23 14:33:05 · answer #11 · answered by michaellandonsmommy 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋