I have already asked this question but I will put it with more detail.My self esteem is way beyond low I am very heavy but I have joined the gym and lost 15 pounds i compare myself to all the other woman in that gym and put myself down a lot. i have a personal trainer he is a dude so it is hard to talk to him plus he never wants to talk about if i bring it up he never seems to support me on how i feel. people tell me how pretty and wonderful I am and when people say nice things about me like a love your hair it makes me feel worse. i sometimes go home and cry I feel hurt and feel like nothing is ever good enough for how hard I work. It seems like I can never accept myself. Iam on boderline of devloping bulima and my mom doesnt understand she was once a bulimic may years ago I go see a threapist but I dont see her until the 8th of febuary is there anyone out there that can give me some advice? remeber your talking to a 16 year old.
2007-01-23 06:18:43 · 6 answers · asked by Izzy 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
As far as the weight thing goes, eat lots of fruits and veggies and lay off the sweet and fatty foods, and get a healthy amount of exercize. Don't overdo it. If you live a healthy lifestyle you'll be at a healthy weight.
Remember that a healthy weight won't be the same for everyone. I weight about 165 and I think that's where I"m supposed to be because of my bone size.
As for your self-esteem, there are lots of things you can do now without necessarily losing weight. Make sure you're dressing for your body type, you'll look better and feel better for yourself. A good place to start is:
http://www.soyouwanna.com/site/minis/mini/dressMINI/dressMINI1.html
Also, wear make-up if it makes you feel good.
Next, write a list of all of your good qualities. They don't have to be physical, just any thing you like about yourself. DON"T STOP until you have at least 10 things. That's an order, young lady.
The best way to improve your self-esteem, in my opinion, is to do good things for other people. Volunteer at a food shelf or homeless shelter. Be a mentor or a tutor for younger kids.
I don't know if you belive in God, but if you do, spending time with Him helps a lot too. When I am feeling down about myself I read my bible and remember that God loves me no matter what I look like or what other people think about me or what I think about myself.
2007-01-23 06:52:43 · answer #1 · answered by brainy_ostrich 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are taking a really big first step by posting here. You are admitting that you have the problem and that you need help. I would advise you to talk to the school nurse about your problems. She has information that will be helpful and can help guide you through this terrible time. You might also want to talk to your guidance councelor. The guidance councelor isn't there for just helping you with college prep- they are there to help guide you through HS. It doesn't sound like your gym is helping much. You may want to see if they have a termination policy. If you can get out of your contract, you may want to find a women's like Curves.
I wish the best and remember- your teen years are hard. They are for most people. Once you are out of HS, life may not be any easier, but people are less judgemental and it's just easier to manage your emotions.
Just wanted to add that I was an over weight teen myself with low self esteem. I am still over weight in my 30's with high self esteem and a good outlook on life. For me- I became confident of myself in college and realized that I can be happy. I just had to give myself permission to realize I was a good person- no matter what size I wore or who my friends were.
2007-01-23 06:40:05 · answer #2 · answered by Lady in Pink 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first of all you have to love yourself. No matter what size you are. And change trainers. Ask for a female. Are you really a large person or are you 110 pounds and thinK your large. There are so many variables here. You really need to talk to your parents or a aunt or another female. And listen to the words. If someone tells you you have pretty hair why would you cry. That's a huge compliment. I have tried for years to grow my hair. I would love that compliment. You have to like and love your self first or its not going to happen. You have to start finding good in you. Quit looking for the wrongs. Look at the goods.
2007-01-23 06:51:09 · answer #3 · answered by rdwngfever 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what i can tell you this is if you dont love yourself you can never love nobody else for example if you are looking cute in dont even know it and somebody else tell you you are cute you are most likely not to believe them. You need to stop thinking about what the world think of you you came in this world by yourself and you are going to die by yourself. Health is a important issue, so you must go further with your exercises and diet and if you do loose weight you can be able to go into a clothing store in by whatever you want and dont have to try it on. so make goals for yourself when it comes down to that department
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