i love my wife but i still want sex with other women..why do i do this self destructive behaveor???
2007-01-23 06:03:01 · 25 answers · asked by MARCUS G 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It's your gender. Do the best you can with what you have to work with. At least you have self-knowledge going for you.
2007-01-23 06:06:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You CAN be faithful to your wife... the problem is that you CHOOSE not to be. Everyone experiences temptation. Do you think that as soon as you get into a relationship all of the other desirable people in the world wither up and die or something? There will always be people out there who are tempting or potentially compatible with us... but if you have CHARACTER then you refrain from acting on your every impulse. You practice maturity, dignity, morality and SELF-CONTROL. In short ... you grow up and realize that just because you want to do something doesn't mean that you do it. Don't put yourself in situations in which infidelity is a possibility. And if you're intending to continue giving in to your every hormonal whim... show at least a TINY bit of character and let her know so that she can leave you.
2007-01-23 15:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by DawnRenee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you lack self control. Why do you not kill people when you are angry with them? Why do you not beat children? Why aren't you living on the street because of drugs and alcoholism? Because you have some self control. To have any chance of stopping this behavior that you hate you must exercise self control. However, sometimes it is impossible to find the strength within yourself and you must turn to God for help. First, you must tell God that you agree that your behavior is bad and a sin. Second, you must go through torment and anguish of truly admitting to yourself how destructive your behavior is to your family to God and to yourself. If you truly cannot deeply consider the consequences of your actions you will never change. If God sees that you genuinely hate your behavior God will not consider it as repentance. This process should bring you to the point where you hate and despise your conduct. At that point you can then ask God to have mercy on you, forgive you and help you change. God will step in and give you the strength to exercise the necessary self control. If you still cannot turn from your sin you must try harder because there is no forgiveness without true repentance. This is extremely difficult and painful and you will remember it for the rest of your life. It is possible if you will trust God to give you the strength to do it.
2007-01-23 06:17:54 · answer #3 · answered by Larry62 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you're not holding yourself truly accountable...and not even attempting to put your feet into the other person's shoes.
If you love her, WHY would you keep hurting her? Maybe you have some addictions too that you could be counseled for. Mostly, every single one of us, have that precise moment when faced with a decision to do the right thing or the wrong thing. We should see the faces of our loved ones in our minds at that very moment, and consider what we'd hope THEY would do. Now the question is, what are YOU going to do? (Growing up might be a start...no offense intended.)
2007-01-23 06:07:51 · answer #4 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you need therapy or some self control probably both.This behavior will eventually kill your marriage.No one here can tell you why you do what you do only give their best guess based on the little info you gave.By the way if you really loved your wife you would not be doing this too her.Maybe you should take more responsibility for your actions because deep down you must now the real reason why.Remeber it all up to you your choice!
2007-01-23 06:07:29 · answer #5 · answered by Jenny O 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Because you have not gotten counseling and help for this to break this vicious cycle in your life and family... You had better get help for the problem and try to change so tha tyour kids do not grow up and do what you are doing. You do this and want this because you have been raised by someone who did it so in the back of your mind is it okay to do so even though you know it is wrong.... You need to get help before this gets worse and you lose your marriage and wonderful wife over it!
2007-01-23 06:09:48 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I must have been married to your brother who is now 61 now. He has only been married about nine times. No, I didn't know when I married him. He lost and you will too if you don't change.
If you're out of control, you need help. Have you thought about the fact that you may be putting your wife in danger of contracting a disease?
2007-01-23 09:49:27 · answer #7 · answered by Sally 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of ppl would probably answer if you love her you wouldn't cheat on her. My response, maybe you are lacking something emotionally or sexually and are trying to fulfill these needs by having affairs, my suggestion seek therapy to get to the bottom of things and although it may cost you, your marriage tell your wife.She has the right to know expecially if you are having unsafe sex with these other women.
2007-01-23 06:12:32 · answer #8 · answered by jessica p 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You can't love your wife and cheat on her too. It's called a lack of self control! You act like an animal instead of a human who has control!
2007-01-23 06:07:42 · answer #9 · answered by wish I were 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You're a sex addict. You need to join SAA to get help breaking this habit. You'll be glad you did, because otherwise you will ruin not only your life, but your wife's as well and any kids you may have.
2007-01-23 06:37:54 · answer #10 · answered by janetrmi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you may have a sex additcion and like the newness of the affair and how it makes you feel, if u truly love your wife you need to get in therapy and find out where this is coming from..
2007-01-23 06:54:03 · answer #11 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋