2007-01-23 05:38:21 · 49 answers · asked by FUSIONMASTER 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It sounds like you have your mind made up, YOU LOVE HER. Have some regard for your spouses! If you and your mistress love each other, fess up and face the music together. Why drag it on? For the sake of all involved, life is to short, you are wasting everyones time, by staying in a relationship that is a lie. Your husbands and wives deserve the truth, If you love your mistress, be with her.
However, Is it love? I hope you are sure. You can not compare an affair to a marriage, as far as love is concerned. In an affair it's all excitement and enticement. There is no children, mortgages (bills), responsibilities, or commitment involved. It tends to operate strictly "on the pleasure principle". If you throw reality in the MIX sometimes it is not all that you thought it would be. Either way, your current marriage is OVER. Good luck.
2007-01-23 05:54:43 · answer #1 · answered by NeNe 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't want to seem as if I am judging you at all just have a few questions for you to ask yourself. But what is "love" to you? Did you love your wife when you married her? What does it mean when you love someone? Do you stick it out until you fall for someone else? Do you fight through thick and thin? You obviously had to love your wife for something she offered otherwise you would have never married her. Same with this other girl. People don't marry without loving or having some feelings for the person that you've married. If you say you love each other, but you both married someone that you "loved" how fair is it for the innocent people on the other end. They took a vow cause they loved you both as well. But you have decided to give up on that love to have some fantasy love. It is going to lead to all kinds of hurt, resentment, and since right now you both don't seem to have a clear idea of what love means to you, cause if you did you wouldn't be cheating on your spouces, you would be better off trying to discover within yourselves what it really means, before you go on hurting people. You must respect your marriages, remember it took two people to say "I Do" And it takes two people to make it work. If you both walk out now , you will both walk out for the same reasons later.
2007-01-23 06:06:22 · answer #2 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to grow up. Both of you are committing adultery and that is a felony in some states and should be in all , maybe it would make people think twice about getting involved with other people. You were in love with person you married , if you would work as hard at your marriage as you do sneaking around you would still be in love with your spouse. What makes you think this person will not fall out of love with you in a few years and cheat on you. You are fooling yourself if you don't think that will happen. The grass is not always greener.
2007-01-23 05:58:22 · answer #3 · answered by springer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your question can't be answered without more information, my friend. Are you both happily married, one or the other, or neither of you? Are you having an affair? How do you know you are in love and not just physically attracted to each other? Are you compatible? Are there children involved? Religious beliefs? What's the price you'll pay if you both get divorced in order to be together and will it be worth it? You have a lot to consider.
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2007-01-23 05:52:23 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
RUN!! Far and fast from this woman! You made a solemn promise before God that you would be faithful. Why doesn't this matter to anyone any more!!??
Do ALL you can to save your marriage, while staying completely away from this other woman, and in the end, if your marriage doesn't make it, you will have a clear conscience that you did all you could.
Can you live with the pain you will cause by adultry, or by leaving someone who has given their life and love to you? What kind of a person does that? A SELFISH one. Don't be that guy.
Consider this: If this other woman doesn't respect the vow to her current husband, what makes you think that she will stay with you? Do you want to wonder that every day with her? She doesn't show strong character if she is a cheater. That won't change for you, honey, don't delude yourself.
2007-01-23 05:48:12 · answer #5 · answered by Loring 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like infatuation to me.Do you think you would feel the same way if you both weren't married ? It is all well and good when the thrill of the seek is there but when it's over then what? You are playing games with your spouses as well as yourselves. Grow up and do the right thing!
2007-01-23 05:55:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise both of you to forget about each other . If you people really loved each other you would have married long back. Now it is only nostalgia that is tempting you. Do not fall for it. You both will be disillusioned. Then she will charge you for destroying her happy married life and you would also feel guilty.The currents have separated .Now let them flow smoothely. You will also find a suitale match if you persevere enough.Best of luck.
2007-01-23 05:46:09 · answer #7 · answered by Prabhakar G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should stop the affair and go home and talk to your wife and resolve the first situation. I assume you love her too since you married her. Do you think she desereve to be put in this situation!! You really should brake the affiar off and make some serious decisions and man up!! How can you be in love with someone else when you are not free to be with her.
2007-01-23 05:49:31 · answer #8 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
take a good look and decide what it is you really want. you say that you are both in love with each other but in reality you both love the excitment of running around behind your partners back and the thought of getting caught is turning you on all though you may not realise that. chances are that if you hook up with your mistress you will soon get bored of each other and its only a matter of time before one of you cheat again
2007-01-23 06:02:31 · answer #9 · answered by mum of 2 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Discuss it with eachother, then decide what you want to do. But DO NOT start to see eachother without first ending your marriage. This does not mean that you have to be 'divorced' first, but you need to be clear and honest with your spouse about the situation before you begin another relationship. It's the LEAST that you can do if your no longer in love with your mate. Show them that decency and respect. You will thank yourself for it later.
2007-01-23 05:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋