My long term relationship with my partner appears dead.
We are only together for sake of our son.
I love him more than words can say but I am living a lie it seems.
Help!
2007-01-23 05:38:10 · 20 answers · asked by stelun1986 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You may say that you are living a lie, but I say it would be a bigger lie to leave your son. Do whatever it takes to stay with and raise the child you brought into this world. This is your responsibility and your privilege. All other concerns are secondary.
2007-01-23 05:51:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can leave your partner without walking away from your son. You have the right to maintain a relationship with him regardless of the status of your relationship. Never stay together with someone for the sake of a child. It always ends up in disaster and the kid ends up more miserable when they are in the middle of a bad relationship. Your son would rather see you and your partner happy living separately than miserable and fighting under the same roof all of the time...
2007-01-23 05:42:33 · answer #2 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could take him with you.
Okay on a serious note, if things are not working between you and your wife consider what would be a better environment for your son.
A) A home with two bickering parents
B) Two homes with two happier parents
Both are hard situations. If you moved out, would you stay in town. Assuming you'd still want to see your son, would be be able to live with only seeing him on weekends? Holidays?
I had a friend in high school who rotated between houses every other week as both parents lived within the same school district.
Best of luck
2007-01-23 05:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by sunnyd_137 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there a reason why you can't leave your partner but still have a relationship with your son.
You ABSOLUTELY CAN NOT walk away from your son. It's your child. He would be devastated if after 6 years his parent up and leaves. Divorce/separation is hard but if dealt with correctly, it can be worked through. Abandonment of a child on the other hand is something that he would never get over nor would he ever forgive you for.
I would STRONGLY suggest that you support your child through this difficult time, not abandon him.
2007-01-23 05:55:17 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leaving a relationship and walking away from your son are two completely different things.
Have you tried counseling? Mayeb you shoudl try a good marriage counselor or a good Christian counselor. But if you still can't make it work, then just concentrate on keeping things as normal as possible for your son. Make sure that you put him first and that you continue to spend as much time with him as possible so that you can help him through this and he knows that he still has both parents who want to be a part of his life.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-23 05:45:24 · answer #5 · answered by CPA2B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can walk away from the relationship WITHOUT walking away from your son, and trust me, because I know what I'm talking about. You will NEVER be able to get time back that is lost with your child. Just because you end a relationship doesn't mean that you can't still be in your child's life. People do it all the time.
2007-01-23 05:44:43 · answer #6 · answered by a_lot_smarter_now 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are not happy in your relationship then just leave. But you don't have to stop seeing your son. Leave in good terms. If she gives you a hard to time get a lawyer. But I thing staying together just just because you have a son together is worse. You hurt your son sooner or later. He will realize it.
Move on and keep being in your son's life.
2007-01-23 06:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by Christina L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please do not stay in a broken relationship for the sake of a child; nothing is more cruel to that little boy. He can sense that things are not right at home, even if you have never said it outright, and most children blame themselves for domestic strife. Two happy parents living seperately is far, far better than two miserable ones in the same house.
More and more states are beginning to recognize the rights of same sex partners with children, and more than likely there are legal recourses if your partner refuses you the right to see your son. Remember that the day you became a parent you entered a world in which the well-being of that child is more important than anything else.
2007-01-23 05:46:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious Gryphon 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
i replaced into interior the comparable difficulty with my ex and his 5 365 days old son. Our courting could no longer stand the tension of battling over him and we broke up. even however we've been residing mutually i did no longer experience like I had the main suitable to act by way of fact the mum parent and self-discipline him by way of way his father could react. in the experience that your adult males' perspectives are that a techniques aside then i think of you're in for a lifelong conflict.
2016-12-16 11:40:42 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love your son, and you walk out on him, it will damage him for the rest of his life. Have you thought about getting a divorce, and sharing custody. That way, you can still, have your son, and also move on to a better relationship.
2007-01-23 05:44:25 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋