Being denied access by a scornfull ex????????????

Question

Can anyone tell me what rights women have to deny their ex partners access to their kids, but somehow they still feel we have the right to pay maintenance. Am I missing something here. Where's my right to deny her access to my money in response. Why can't I put the money into a bank account for my kids until she gets over her scornfullness and realizes hey this is unfair to my kids to deny them their dad???????????????????

Answer 1

take her back to court. That isn't right unless you have shown to be a danger to the kids. I think putting money into a bank account for the kids is a good idea. She sounds like a beeotch.

Answer 2

According to most state laws today, exes are not to be denied access to their children. Go to your attorney (or Legal Aid), and set up a schedule of visitation. If she is ugly about it, file for custody. I would also recommend court mediation and counseling, because it sounds like there's a lot of bitterness on both sides; your child or children shouldn't have to live through that. You suggested a bank account; check with your attorney to see if a trust can be put together for your child or children--with the bank or investment company as executor. Every dime has to be accounted for, so there's less chance of misuse or fraud. Lastly, let the bitterness go. Once upon a time, you cared enough to have sex. You had a child or children. Noone is at fault, because either of you could have opted not to have sex, or use birth control. Both of you. Things did not work out; that can be painful, but it is a fact of life. Now, worry about your children, and the fact that the average child needs BOTH of you. Good luck and God bless.

Answer 3

GET HER *** BACK INTO COURT. I had an ex like that. It was the kids who suffered the most, even though it was her intention to cause me great suffering and anguish.Both of my daughters grew up knowing as they got older what she did and resented her for that.Maybe you should tell her what a slippery slope she is headed down.If she was like my ex it probably still won't make a difference."Some people can't see the forest because of the trees".My ex rarely spent any of my maintenance payments on my children for the things that they needed. That used to really piss me off.Good luck with your situation. Been there and done it.

Answer 4

It is in your best interest and your childrens to always be the bigger person, regardless of the anger you may feel at certain situations regarding your ex. Sometimes it takes a long while for people to grow up,sometimes they never do.Your children,at some point in their lives will see what a good parent youve been and they will respect you for it. You can be setting a great example for your kids through your behavior and actions.Whatever your ex is going through,jealousy,mental disorders,personal problems or just being scornful,she needs to deal with her issues and just grow up,especially for the sake of her children.Both parents are equally important in a childs life.The only exception I can think of would be keeping a parent who is a child molester or extremely violent away from the child.If your not either one of those,I say go to court and get a visitation order and schedule so you can see your kids with no problems.If she continues to be hateful,you should document all of her behavior in journals with dates and times,video cam,tape recording,whatever you can do to keep track and document.I think with a good attorney you can put a hold on her maintenance payments until she complies with any and all court orders.FOR YOUR SAKE :see a counselor to vent all your anger,it really helps!Take your kids with you or go to parenting classes.Hell,ask her if she would be willing to go with you and your kids, not to reconcile your former marriage but to get the therapy you need to resolve past ,present and possibly future issues. Are you Big enough for that, is she? Set all issues aside and do it for your kids!And by the way "womens rights" do not include denying theyre children access to their father.Question is where are childrens rights?Children live in a very frightening world,they have no right to live a life unmolested,no right to a life unabused or neglected, they are rarely believed in a courtroom when they do ask for help.The only time they are believed is when theyre poor bodies and souls are completely ravaged and spirit damaged,by that time its too late.Courts rarely rely on a childs testimony unless theyre older or dead from abuse.Its a shame but its true.Laws need to be changed and judges should always remain neutral between both parties and judge case by case because everyones case is different.Always protect your children and know they are a gift and not property to be disputed over.Like I said before, be the bigger person,I know its hard but you can do it.I know it may sound corny to some people but I even take my children to church,its comforting and peaceful,I do this for myself and my kids.A prayr to your God for your ex to straighten up cant hurt.Ill pray for your situation.I gave you my best answer for your dilemma and hope everything works out for you.I myself am a very caring mother whose been through it all.

Answer 5

My b/f's ex is the same way. Don't make the mistake he did. He stopped paying her for only a matter of weeks and now after four years and 3 months in jail he just finished paying her arrears (due to interest being added every week) Take her to court but whatever you do don't just stop paying it won't be worth the cost later on.

Good luck I hope you stick it to her good

Answer 6

Whatever you do..>DOCUMENT DOCUMENT DOCUMENT!!!
Days, times, what went on etc. Then go to your solicitor and let him send HER solicitor a letter saying you are going to go back to court and she can tell the judge why she isn't fulfilling her part of the custody arrangements. I'm sorry that you are getting the short end of the stick. Don't let her get away with it. Makes me sick to hear women do that. You stick to paying the maintence and do everything by the book. Maybe it will go in your favour when its time to review it in front of the judge. Most importantly...don't trust anyone else's opinions or stories. Use them as guidelines but ask your solicitor. If he/she isn't helpful then find another one who is! Good luck to you....and your kids.

Answer 7

Having access to medical cures is not accepting evolution. God gave scientist the brains to come up with the medicines and the doctors the skills to treat the sick. Evolution is the the belief that you came out of the primordial goo, crawled out as a fish, became an ape and then a man. I believe man was created from the outset.

Answer 8

Your children are not pay per view. Well "Hell hath no fury like a woman scorned" Look at what you did to make her do this. It's not normally for no reason. Try to resolve and compromise. Even if it's all under her terms. It all depends on how much your children mean as to whether you will do this.

Answer 9

This is the way it always seems to work out. Just play her silly game and love your kids when you get the chance. They will come to see what a beeeoooottttch she is being if she keeps it up.

Answer 10

Unless you have done something to put the kids in harm, you have full right to see your kids. Get a lawyer, because this isn't right at all.