How do I forget?

Question

My girlfriend of three years and I broke up three months ago. Most of the time everthing was great except toward the end when things started changing. Now she is already with someone else and is getting married, but I haven't even tried to find someone else yet, and I miss her really bad. How can she forget about me so quickly, and how can I do the same thing?

Answer 1

Thank your lucky stars, you're feeling what you're feeling. She is probably making a mistake of marrying someone on the rebound.
In the meantime, please try to involve yourself with the things in life you enjoy. You CAN and WILL snap out of it, if you put your mind to it! AND stop dwelling on the past.

Answer 2

Some people never make a truly deep connection with another and so they can jump from relationship to relationship. Usually people without a conscience or who are with someone just to be in a relationship are relationship-jumpers.

I was in a situation similar to yours and the only way to forget and feel better is time. You probably will feel hurt and confused for a long time, but know that this is HER deal and not yours. You were the innocent victim caught up in the middle of someone who is apparently a little shady.

Just try to focus on your health, hobbies, family, friends and don't even think about getting into another relationship until you are really over your ex. I know it sucks, but just hang in there and things WILL get better...I promise. Just don't spend time dwelling on how she could do this to you and what went wrong because that will just keep you in the past. Look forward to the future and get yourself back to a place where you can meet someone and get into a healthy relationship.

Answer 3

Be wary of anyone who goes from a three year year relationship to being engaged to someone else within 3 months. That just isn't reasonable in my book - maybe it happens and works out... maybe.. but what's the rush? Be glad she's not in your life anymore.

You would be helping yourself by not trying to get into another relationship so soon when the past is still hurting you. Just don't try, when the time is right it will just happen for you. Get involved with other activities, groups of friends, travel, have fun... the new activities in your life will eventually distract you from what you're dwelling on. It's true, time (and practice) will eventually get you away from missing her.

Answer 4

maybe towards the end she was already dating that same guy. If she was some one is going to do that to her. Don't be a fool time heals everything. Who's to say that's the one for her he might do the same thing to her that she done to you. What goes around come around. You might be hurting but it will pass, try to find some friends some one that you are cool with ask her out. go ahve fun ,don't dwell on waht happen . It is only going to make you hurt more. Get out exhale a bit. Buy some new clothes renew your self and find out want you want. See some people feed off others dissappointments and fears. Go find you somebody, stop dwelling on her it's not the end of the world.

Answer 5

I know that it has to be hard on you, but please try and forget about it, for your own well being. Try and keep yourself busy so you don't dwell on it. Go out with friends and have fun. You are a new and free man now. You have to be strong and stay positive. Life is not over. It has just begun. Eventually you will meet someone and all of this will be a passing memory. Believe it. I wish you the best of luck and love in the future. You can do it! Good luck!

Answer 6

mine did the same thing. and is doing the same thing. and i am doing the same as you. but i know that they aren't going to work out and that helps. because i can be there to laugh when he comes back to me crying, however immature it seems. i'm not going to take him back, and in the end i will be the happy one while he ends up alone. but right now it's hard being alone, and i hope i will find the right person eventually.

hey. you sound like me, like exactly. it's kinda weird, my ex's new girlfriend was with this guy richard before him, and they broke up 3 months ago...is it you? this is like a horribly weird coincidence.

Answer 7

You must be hurting pretty bad, especially because she found someone else so quickly. Right now, your pain is still fresh and so it is hard for you to start over with someone else. This is ok, give yourself some time to get over your current situation. Be sure to get emotional support from friends and family. You will see, you will get over this and one day be happy it all happened. You want to be loved for real and she did not offer you this.
Best wishes to you!

Answer 8

U don't forget, u just deal with it one day at a time. She may have moved on but she has not forgotten. Take as much time as u need to get over her, just don't mope around; go hang with your friends, keep yourself busy. After a while u won't even realize that you're not missing her as much as u use to.

Good luck sweetie!

Answer 9

As far as her forgetting about you so quickly? You can't speculate or dwell on that. And it's gonna take time to get over her. I know it hurts. It's going to for a while but it will get better. It just wasn't meant to be and you will find the one for you.

Answer 10

You'll never forget her but you just have to move on, especially since she has and there is no chance of you getting her back. You two just weren't meant to be together. You'll move on eventually and find "the one" and be amazed at how much more you love this woman because she's who you were meant to be with. Take this as a learning experience and try to be happy! : )