My boyfriend is very sweet and affectionate when he wants to be but I really want him to be like this all the time and not just when he wants to.The problem is I kinda feel like I am being selfish about it because I really love his attention when he gives it to me and I really love sweet things and affection. So tell me am I wrong for wanting that. Honestly.
2007-01-23 05:16:58 · 13 answers · asked by bluemami06 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
As long as you treat him like a king there's nothing wrong with wanting him to treat you like a queen.
2007-01-23 05:22:13 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you are being a bit selfish. People are affectionate when the idea comes to mind, and they are not worried about job, stress, life in general, things they worry about etc...
When your boyfriend kisses or hugs you, that is when in his busy mind, he stops to say, "hey you are special and I just thought that you are great to be around." Basically he is taking a break in his head to stop and smell the roses, and love on ya!
Now, you can't have it all the time. Anyone that shows that much affection is obviously a independently wealthy dude, that doesn't have anything else to do, or a person that really needs a hobby.
Enjoy the times he is affectionate, and then when you want affection, say, "hey can I have a hug and etc etc." Tell him what you like.
Its not wrong to want affection, it is wrong to need it and obsess about it.
Now if he never shows affection, its probably time to have a talk with him, he is probably scared to get too deep, and maybe holding back.
Good luck to you!
2007-01-23 05:32:24 · answer #2 · answered by laotzuistruth 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you given any thought to what you're giving him? Would you do sweet and affectionate things for him all the time and not just when you want to? If the answer is 'no' then you are being selfish and greedy.
If you don't appreciate who he is when he is not doting on you, then you don't really love him, you're in love with yourself. The poor guy deserves better than that.
The honest truth is that a healthy relationship has both give and take, in equal amounts, and a certain amount of patience and cutting each other slack when you need it. If someone doted on me all the time I'd be a bit afraid of them because that's mentally unbalanced. I'll take just being loved in spite of my flaws.
2007-01-23 05:27:46 · answer #3 · answered by KC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not as long as she treats him like a king as many times she´s expected to be treated like a queen. Every king needs a queen.
2007-01-23 08:50:36 · answer #4 · answered by God Still Speaks Through His Word! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He should treat you like a Queen everyday, but it takes two. If he is treating you like a queen, you have to make sure that he feels cherished, respected, loved etc. Treat him like a king I guess. Make him his favorite meal, watch football with him, whatever, but remember if you want to be treated well, you should treat him great also.
2007-01-23 06:08:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think there is anything wrong with high expectations, as long as you are dealing out the good stuff too, and not whenever you feel like it either. Chances are that you two just aren't a good match.
2007-01-23 05:24:24 · answer #6 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why should you feel guilty? You're giving him the rare oppurtunity to treat you like a queen? He should feel honoured!
2007-01-23 05:25:26 · answer #7 · answered by Girly girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. The relationship shouldn't be all about you. It may not be, however that's the impression one gets when reading your question. Also, remember that too much sweetness causes cavaties. You'd get bored eventually.
2007-01-23 05:30:13 · answer #8 · answered by JB 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The problem with chicks, example 101.
2007-01-23 05:20:53 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly??? it give and take , dont feel selfish if you treat him like a king
2007-01-23 05:22:27 · answer #10 · answered by kitty 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋