Ok, I have a question about an ex-girlfriend that I really want to get back together with. We've been apart now for about 6 weeks and she ended the relationship because she felt certain things were missing. I know realize that she was right and I know realize that I want all the same things she wants in a relationship and I want to show her that I've truly changed, not just for her but for myself. My question is, how do I go about showing her these changes and showing her what I would do differently if right now she wants her space and doesn't feel comfortable seeing me right now?
2007-01-23 05:16:31 · 11 answers · asked by frankfurter27 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
If she wasn't crying when she left or the day after, then you just got fed a line.
If you've ever been dumped by someone you love, you would know. It stings, but there's no getting back. Face it, there's nothing you could have done better. If she loved you or cared, she would have stayed to let you work on it.
"so it's either here just drinking beer,
or home rememberin' her."
- Alan Jackson "Pop a Top Again"
2007-01-23 10:19:56 · answer #1 · answered by DeanPonders 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can't force her to want to be with you right now, you already know that, right? Just show her......like you said. Don't tell her a bunch of crap, show her that you will be there for her, that you care about her, show her that you have changed. You could call her at least once a day to check up on her, and don't ever lie to her.....even if it's something small....like don't tell her you'll call her back and then not do it. That's not someone who is trying to get someone back. Just don't screw it up this time, and maybe she will just figure out that maybe you have changed and that she would love to have you back!! Good luck!!
2007-01-23 13:27:26 · answer #2 · answered by Littlemissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm willing to bet that she is simply not interested seeing you anymore, changes nonwithstanding. Not all relationships have a happy ending. If she told you in no uncertain words that she "needs her space" and "doesn't feel comfortable" seeing you - this only means one thing: STAY AWAY. Chances are, what you've learned in this relationship can apply to others. Implement your changes, and go looking for another woman.
2007-01-23 13:57:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd say not to waste your time. As a female that has broken up with guys in the past, I have no interest in them if I go so far as to actually break up. If she wanted to stay in the relationship with you and work on things, she would have done that...but she didn't. She is gone and I doubt anything you do can bring her back. I think you should move on and not waste your time on someone who doesn't want to be with you.
2007-01-23 13:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by JJ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well son you got to wait, you can't force no one back. What you should do is give her that space she needs and ease your way back in. Be smart about it do things that she has been asking when she does decides to see you again.Don't get back wth her to do the same again,you'll only burn ya briges.Be honset with youself and true. Then pray to god that she come back to you. Send her flowers, cards write to her, nag her in a good way. Not to much ok ,but in a good way.
2007-01-23 14:05:16 · answer #5 · answered by creamy k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try telling her what you just told us? Sounded good to me. Beg her, get on your knees, do what you have to do to win her back. Just make sure that you really mean it. Otherwise you are not being fair to her and this breakup will happen again. It's worse the second time around, the breakup that is.
2007-01-23 13:22:46 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I AGREE WITH THE ANSWERER WHO TOLD YOU TO ASK HER OUT AND TRY AGAIN, BUT BE 100% SURE THAT THIS IS WHAT YOU REALLY WANT TO DO AND DO NOT PRESSURE HER TOO HARD. THAT WILL ONLY PUSH HER FURTHER AWAY. PRINT THIS PAGE AND SEND IT TO HER IF SHE WON'T TALK TO YOU RIGHT NOW. THE FACT THAT YOU ARE TRYING TO GET ADVICE FROM TOTAL STRANGERS SHOULD TELL HER SOMETHING! GOOD LUCK AND MUCH HAPPINESS TO YOU!
2007-01-23 13:32:12 · answer #7 · answered by tammie b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just ask her out on a date then take things from there, like starting over again.
2007-01-23 13:24:04 · answer #8 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What exactly does this have to do with marriage and divorce, since you are neither. Try the correct category, Singles and Dating.
2007-01-23 13:20:32 · answer #9 · answered by javelin 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
give her time. she probably won't trust you for a while anyway, and that is the only thing you can do to fix it.
2007-01-23 13:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by pikachu 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋