My boyfriend cant hold a steady job, we just moved in together and he hasn't graduated from high school or tried to get his GED...we have been together for 2 years but i dont want to nag at him like his mother...his parents dont push him no one does..should i???....do i break things off when the lease is up in may?? He is really smart and has been doing landscaping since we graduated in may of 2006 and has done some snow removal this winter but not much..he cant get motivated i dont know what to do?
2007-01-23 05:14:01 · 10 answers · asked by jessie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is an easy one...break up with him in may and tell him that its not working. You should never put up with this crap. This guy is a loser and this is not going to change, whether you push him or not. You deserve better.
2007-01-23 05:18:33 · answer #1 · answered by jim 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's time to sit down with him and say, "I truly love you, but we are not on the same page. I want better in my life that where we are now...and I don't believe that you are comfortable with change. I wish you the best, but I feel that this relationship has stagnated." When he starts asking why, then be honest and tell him. Let him know that you think he is smarter than where he is now in his life. Gently suggest that he get his GED, and perhaps get a degree in landscape design (they have these, and he'll make more money at it!), then give him a time frame and stick with it. I know you love him, but you have to love yourself more, and be willing to see him change (and enhance your relationship), or be willing to let him go (and grow up). Good luck and God bless.
2007-01-23 13:27:49 · answer #2 · answered by Judy W 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well we all need alittle encouragement! If the lease is coming up than you move out! He's a man he needs to man up!! You may need to leave before you think about having kids or marrying this guy!! Women need to i nvesitgate before we put our hearts on the line!! Let him get himself together and if your paths pass again than you can decide if he is someone worthy of your time and effort ina relationship!! It takes more than love t o make a relationship happy!! It takes love!! and security!! Secuirty coems when you know the other person can pull there weight!! Unless you are those type of people that like to take care of grown people that can take care of there self.
2007-01-23 13:24:27 · answer #3 · answered by sexychocolatecity21 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kind of life can he provide a family if he doesn't even have a High school education? You need to tell him that if he doesn't doesn't shape up or you're gone.
2007-01-23 13:20:36 · answer #4 · answered by DL 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Give him warning, tell him if he doesn't change his ways by May, its over. If he really wants to be with you he will get off his back-side and get a JOB!!!
2007-01-23 13:21:48 · answer #5 · answered by Weiners and Beans 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You dont need to nag him. But you dont need to live together either. You will quickly tire of his irresponsibility. Part ways now, while you still like him. ;)
2007-01-23 13:21:55 · answer #6 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unless you're prepared for the life of losehood - dump him. If he isn't motivated now, he will not get motivated later. You're wasting your time.
2007-01-23 13:19:26 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
only once people stop taking care of him, will he be able to take care of himself. he's not motivated because he doesn't have to be. you have to decide how much of you life you are willing to spend taking care of him. try talking to him and telling him how you feel. good luck to you.
2007-01-23 13:30:44 · answer #8 · answered by fungirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Time to give him the ultimatum. Get ed, job, or out.
2007-01-23 13:37:12 · answer #9 · answered by H.B.K. 2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lose him, and fast!!!
2007-01-23 13:18:40 · answer #10 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋