Help, what should i do about my (so called) friends?

Question

Right I've got these two friends and they are best friend with each other and i'm just like a spare part! They can be so bitchy when their togerther! I have these other friends but i dont see them as much cause they go to a diferent college, they don't like my two friends. But these two friends (l and K) are bitching behind my back and i amlomst feel like they bully me sometimes! But when we get on its great! Are they really my frinds what should i do! They are fine apart and i cant exactly split them up! Please help before i kill both of them!!! xxx

Answer 1

i'm sorry to tell you they are not a friend to you. a friend cares for you, they dont slag you off behind your back. but these girls arent doing this because of anything you are or have done it is because they have to put others down to feel good about themselves. i know its a cliche but thats cause its true. try going to local ammenities, yoga, gym, rock climbing, kick boxing, karate, belly dancing, pole dancing, and meet people there. and dont be afraid to just say hello. on the bus or train as you walk past someone in the street if you try classes, say hi to the people there. i started high school without srong friendships and ended up the third wheel with two "best friends since 1st grade" ers and it sucked, i still see one of them occasionally she is real screwed up and they aren't friends any more but the other girl i have become really close with. but after we got out of school.
i'm askin u to just say hi to people cause i started too a couple of years ago, i just say hello and smile, and people say it back. no big daeal but it make u feel a bit more connected. if you go to classes rather than the pub etc to meet people you will find more stable caring folk than you would in a bar which is good, and dont call any1 a friend to quick, go for a coffee, chat online, after a few months invite them to your home if its all still good, just let it develop, you are better of not trustng someone and letting them in too soon, than letting em in straight away then being messed around.
stay strong hon, you dont need these girls. feel free 2 email anytime, i'm not on every day so it might take a couple days for me 2 get bak 2 u but i will babes.
anni

Answer 2

ok this is for you. its called
Choose Your Audience.
Not everyone is healthy enough to have a front row seat in our lives. There are some people in your life that need to be loved from a distance. Its amazing what you can accomplish when you let go of, or at least minimize our time with draining, negative, incompatible, not going anywhere relationships/friendships. Observe the relationships around you...pay close attention which ones lift and which ones lean. Which ones encourage and which ones discourage. Which ones are on a path of growth uphill and which ones are going down hill. when you leave certian people do you feel better or worst? Which ones always have drama o rdon treally understand, know or appreciate you. The more you seek quility, respect, growth, peace of mind, love, and truth around you hte easier it will become for you to decide who gets to sit in the fromt row and who should be moved to the balcony of oyur life. If you can not change the prople around you, chabge the people you are around.

I hope this really helps you. No body need to fell the way you feel. You are the better friend. When they lose you than thay will see that. Good luck.

Answer 3

Hi there ,those friends have yours sound like fun,i had friends like that who would use me when their other friend wasnt around ,they are making you unhappy and because your associated with them nicer people are staying away cause they think your like that too,you dont need them ,if you dont want a big agurment then just say your busy if they ask you out do that a few times they will get the message ,get in touch with your other friends, and have fun afterall they are suppossed to be friends not enemies ,best of luck xx

Answer 4

This may come as a surprise to you, but these two guys are not your friends. They are two idiots who like to bully and make fun of others. Why would you want to associate with such characters? Is your self esteem that low, or are there no other people in your town? Drop these guys and move on. Understand that we are identified by the company we keep. When you are seen with bums like this, you are considered to be one as well.

Answer 5

Hi these girls are not your friends and you would be better off without them. I wouldnt have nothing more to do with them. I had friends like this before and i stopped speaking to them. One day they will get whats coming to them and have done to them what they have done to you, If you feel like a spare part dont put yourself through it no more and stand up for yourself and tell then you know what they do behind your back and you dont like it. Unless someone tells them then they will carry on doing it,

Answer 6

ok, this EXACT thing has happened to me- twice. Differnet people either time though.... it seemed impossible to get around....

a fact of life is, you always have preferences- you will like one of these people more than the other. what you need to do is talk to your favourite of them seperately. tell them what you think of being treated like s***. this will have one of two possible results:

1. she'll understand where your coming from, fix things and everything will be fine...

2. more likely, she'll tell you where to go/ use this as extra bitching power against you, so you'll feel even worse. if this IS the case youre better off without them. its what i did, found some friends who didnt treat me like crap, and ive been happy since.

good luck! xxx

Answer 7

Have them as aquaintences rather than friends. Don't need any big fall out just be with them when it suits you. Your friends at other college appar to be more true friends. Colleges are big places gradually mix with some others and eventually you will leave the two of them to get on with their sad lives.

Answer 8

noooooooo thats not the way to do it! Im 16 and im taking health right now. What you should do is eat smaller portions of food. Obviously eat the right things and make sure you burn off the amont of calories youve eaten while exercie. If you dont want to eat that much then at leat make sure its something nutritious like a gronolla bar or something, idk! MAKE SURE YOU EAT BREAKFAST! if you don't then that will slow down your metabolism drastically, which makes it even harder to loose weight. I know this isnt the right thing to say but if you are gonna starve yourself, then at least eat breakfast so that when you do exercise, your metabolism is up and it makes it easier to loose weight. Eat some fruit or a cereal bar for breakfast and milk, if you want. drinking water and milk will NOT work. you will either end up gaining extra water weight or making yourself very sick. and if you "friends" dont want to be your "friends" anymore becuase your "fat" then those are NOT friends.

Answer 9

doesnt sound that ur having a lot of fun with these two i think the saying two company three a crowd can be very true move on make new friends i am not saying completely cut them out but i am sure u will meet someone who will treat u as their 1st .

Answer 10

I think you need to lose them. If they are talking about you behind your back they are not very good friends. Think about it would you do what they are doing to a so called friend. Certainly talk to them (individually might be better) but do try and find some other friends that are more genuine