I have this guy friend who is also my husbands best friend that has been telling me that he is in love with me. He has beat my husband up for calling me a ***** before. They still hang out. but he told me he thinks my husband is an asshole and that he hates him. I don't understand if he hates him so much why they are still hanging out? Can this guy REALLY be in love with me or is it just lust. I have never done anything with him sexually, nor have I lead him to believe that I would. Real love or lust?
2007-01-23 05:09:25 · 10 answers · asked by Destiny 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yup, he can be in love with you even though you two have not had sex together. I already knew I loved my wife and that I was going to marry her before the sex!
2007-01-23 05:14:11 · answer #1 · answered by Doofus B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you need to find out what true love really is and isn't. Read in the Bible, I Corinthians 13 "The Love Chapter" where it says love is patient and kind and seeks not its own way at the expense of others. Love isn't boastful or proud and always believes in the positive. This love is such that it will gladly give its life to save the life of another. If love dies, it wasn't love in the first place, but something else. It says of faith, hope and love that love is the greatest. This kind of love has kept my wife and I married for over 28 years. We never had sex before the honeymoon.
If you don't have this with your husband, you need to develop it together with him or your marriage might fail. You also need to stay away from this other guy because he will cause your marriage to become more rocky. No man likes another man to tell him how to treat his wife, even if he is wrong and your husband might think the other guy is trying to take you away, which actually might be his plan. He seems to be a knight in shining armor who suddenly appears out of the blue to defend your honor. There is some other reason than to just make sure you are treated right. In any case, he is trouble for your marriage and you need to keep away from him.
2007-01-23 13:36:26 · answer #2 · answered by Captain Cupcake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not trust this guy and it is neither love or lust seems like a revengne in nature of some sort.
2007-01-23 13:14:46 · answer #3 · answered by JoJoBa 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Men DO NOT fall in love at any age OK. they just feel lust. so just play with it, have fun and put you feeling to a side
2007-01-23 13:30:57 · answer #4 · answered by RED ROSE 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it's weird but possible but it depends what kind of guy he is, oh and love and lust are two way different things you can sleep with someone you hATE AND LOVE SOMEONE YOU DO.
2007-01-23 13:14:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok, i'll explain... he Does love you, but its more like the "big brother" syndrome... do you remember when you were a kid and someone had a brother that you just adored? its like that... if you had got the guy, it wouldnt have been as good as you thought.... its the same for this guy
2007-01-23 13:16:17 · answer #6 · answered by bronzebabekentucky 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
lust
2007-01-23 13:13:27 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay away from him..He's an ****** trying to make it with you while pretending to be your hubby's friend. Do Not Trust Him. He just wants your sweet spot.
2007-01-23 13:33:50 · answer #8 · answered by nalla 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are confused and confusing me. So what are you looking for?
2007-01-23 13:18:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
sex is not a requirement in love.
2007-01-23 13:15:30 · answer #10 · answered by Peachie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋