my sister has a one year old son and an eight month old daughter, and she's pregnant again!!! i told her to get on birth control or get a IUD, but she says, "so what, you think i'm stupid?" i DON"T think she's stupid, but she should just be more careful... how can i tell her without her getting pissed? she's only 15. I'm 17 and pregnant, but, crap, at least i wanted to have a child!
2007-01-23 05:09:02 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have seen this happen before, it is possible, people!! Also, tell her she's being stupid, and if she tells you something about YOU being pregnant, tell her that yours was planned, i assume she is spoiled, and that is why your parents haven't told her anything. also, maybe they just really like taking care of babies....
2007-01-23 08:32:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whether you think she's stupid or not, she's sure acting like she is. Maybe she's doing it on purpose, for attention. When she's pregnant, she probably gets special treatment.
I guess she got pregnant for the first time at 13? The very young girls I know who got pregnant, it was by an much older boy, usually 18 or older, so I hope if that was the case with your sister, the guy is in jail.
Also, maybe she thinks breastfeeding is a form of birth control. Someone may have told her that and she believed them, so maybe the second or third pregnancy was an accident. My brother-in-law has a brother 11 months younger than him because someone told their mom that breastfeeding kept you from getting pregnant.
I knew a girl in high school who moved to my town as a sophmore. When she came here, she already had a one year old, and by junior year, she was having a second baby. Senior year, she was telling everyone that she was trying now to get pregnant with #3, and that she and her boyfriend (Daddy of baby 2) were going to get married. I don't know if the did, but she always seemed to need the attention.
Where are your parents? Maybe your mom or dad needs to force your sister onto birth control. Make her get the shot. That way, she can't take it out like she could a Nuva ring, and she can't skip pills. An IUD is very effective, but if she's getting pregnant on purpose, there's the chance she could try to take it out herself and need to be rushed to the hospital.
I think being also pregnant and telling her to be more careful is kind of hypocritical. I got pregnant at 19, so I know what you're trying to say, but I think it would be better coming from someone else.
By the way, how many months is the 1 year old? Gotta be almost 2 by now.
Good luck, and congratulations on your baby!
2007-01-23 05:57:17 · answer #2 · answered by Queen Queso 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm pregnant and married got a house the whole 9 yards. I made sure i was stable before i got married and ended up pregnant. I even graduated 2 whole years ahead of time so i could get on with the rest of my life. I came from a home where you gotta make your own way and take care of your own self. My point is you should have been trying to make a stable home for you before you started making babies. What is wrong with you 2. Don't you realize a child is a big responsibilty! You 2 should have been trying to play with friends at the mall rather then boys. And having babies that close together not possible unless she's a mouse because they have a gestional period of 29 days. I think you should let your sister know she's stupid. Don't worry bout pissing her off. Look at it this way those babies come first and if she can't take care of them the goverment will take them away. if she keep poping them out every time she have one they will take it. Then she will feel stupid cause she had her babies taken away cause she couldn't provide for them! I know that cause it happened to a childhood friend of mine she had 4 and kept having them they took the baby everytime she had one cause she couldn't take care and provide for them. Still minors and can't by cigs yet but having babies please be smart about making life choices. Not everthing you do has just and effect on you alone it affects your family too and the people around. Your parents need to bring that to her face not you cause you're not her mother or father. I understand that you mean well trying to talk to her but you need to know your place as a sister. I agree with the other people your sister should be sterilized..... cause it doesn't seem like she's gonna realized that what she's doing is gonna have an affect on those poor babies. Those babies are gonna suffer because of her stupidity. Honestly think about it she's 15 she's gonna get pissed no matter how you put it. So just say what you gotta say and if she takes it to heart ok if she doesn't then let her continue to ruin her life. As for you i can only hope that you at least graduated frm high school before you got pregnant....
2007-01-23 05:53:14 · answer #3 · answered by Lil Mama 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just wanted to let everyone know.. the ones who are saying that it is impossible for her to have a 1 year old, and an 8 month old... it's not impossible.. She is not saying that one baby is 12 months old, she said a year. I became pregnant with my second child a month after my first turned 1. When my son was born, my daughter was still 1.. so I had a 4 month old and a 1 year old at the same time.... do you understand now? It is possible to have a 1 year old and an 8 month old, if she had became pregnant when her 1 year old was 7 months old... she could have an 8 month old and a 1 year old..
My grandmother had her third baby, two months later she found out she was pregnant again.. they are less than a year apart.. so she had 2 baby's the age of 1 year, who weren't twins.. they were just 10 months apart.
2007-01-23 05:32:01 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow, thats all i can say. She's 15 and with her 3rd kid, tell her she needs to be on birth control, and yes i do think she's stupid, what the heck was she even doing having sex that young anyway? Tell her she needs to be thinking about the kids she does have, the state will be watchin her closely now being that young, after this 3rd comes talk to your parents about making her get on it, and yes they can she is a minor no matter how many children she has. talk to her and tell her you don't want her interrupting you while you speck that she will also have her time to tell you, i know 15 year olds can be stubborn and not want to listin (i was this age 5 years ago lol) but make her its important not just for her but for her kids as well. I'm sure she wants all of her children with her and not with foster parents which will happen cuz she is not even old enough for a job. Lock her in a room with you if you have to or even take her out to eat. Just make sure when you start don't make it sound like your attacking her or she'll put up a defense and the talk will go no where. Good luck and i hope she stops poppin out babies soon!
2007-01-23 05:27:26 · answer #5 · answered by sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no way to tell her. Honestly, she needs to turn her life around to see what she's doing. It sounds like she could benefit greatly from some therapy. I had my first child at 16, I wouldn't ever advocate that but it really changed me. I know I grew up in a not so normal family and loved the attention I got from men. I'm sure it's similar with her. In the end, it's her life and not yours and as hard as that is, you're just going to have to let her make her own mistakes. It's hard to do when you really love someone!
And no, the state will NOT tie her tubes if she's not married! What kind of non-sense is that?? The state can't force sterilization on anyone, even though there are some cases I'd consider!!
She could have a 1 yr old, a child who is not yet 2 but isn't necesarily 12 months, could be a 19 month old or something. I'll admit that the topic does sound odd...
2007-01-23 05:14:24 · answer #6 · answered by Trouble's Mama 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
thats how I want to have my children..one right after the other but Im nearly 20 years old. So first of all your parents need to do something about this..after this kid is born since she is still underage they do have some say in the matter. You need to not worry about hurting her feelings and just tell her how stupid it is to keep having kids that young..although i believe you may have the ages wrong because theres not exactly enough space between the 1 year old and the 8 month old....She needs to learn to keep herself undercontrol and use protection.
2007-01-23 05:17:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Goodness gracious. I had my 1st at 16, never in hell would I have been able to handle 3 before I was old enough to buy a pack of cigarettes. Sounds like she is a little on the stupid side, apparently looking for love in all the wrong places. And you can spare me the crap about not understanding her/your story ect, I had 2 kids by my 19th b-day. I tell you what the 2 of you should seek mentorship, education and counseling. Nobody should want to have children they really can't take care of!
2007-01-23 05:15:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 5⤊ 0⤋
you are both seriously in need of some birth control and brains!
i highly doubt that your sister has a one year old and an eight month old.
and yes, your sister is stupid, you can tell her i said that. did she not learn after the first one? stupid girls. i pity your parents for having to stress about their two stupid daughters.
2007-01-23 05:21:54 · answer #9 · answered by stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, you're *both* too young to have kids, but that's a separate subject. But about your sister, she is being stupid, but that's her choice. If she wants to have a bunch of kids right after the other, that's on her. Your parents need to talk to her, but since it's obvious that they haven't or won't, there's nothing you can do. Live your life and let her live her's.
2007-01-23 05:14:22 · answer #10 · answered by alimagmel 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋