all the black girls ever tell me is that i should be white, because my name is sarah, i have a white boyfriend, and i know how to talk proper, i am quiet for the most part and then they sometimes say i am not shaped like a black girl because i am not thick! i cant help that im skinny, i have a fast metabolism. i dont try and act like anything i am myself, my mom raised me to not be ghetto, she grew up like that and refused for me to be that way. being ghetto gets you no where!!!! my mom taught me how to talk not white, not black but proper, i just dont get why its a big deal, you would think that most black people would be glad there is someone who defeats our stereotypes. i am smart, i get good grades, i have a very good job!
can someone please explain this to me???
2007-01-23 04:52:57 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
how can u act a race is my question too, just because a black person acts a certain way in the u.s. doesnt mean that they do in africa or in the UK
2007-01-23 05:01:55 · update #1
The question is: why should it matter whether youre white, brown, black, or green (tho if youre green go see a doctor)? Acting civilized using inteligence, instead of the opposite should get you far. Dont pay any attention to those who are jealous of you and attempt to drag you down.
2007-01-23 04:57:05 · answer #1 · answered by aaron_tx2 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Part of stereotyping of a select section is only effective when the stereotype is bought into by the people being stereotyped - i.e,, "If all these people say it, it must be true".
So in essence, your friends and people around you have bought into a certain stereotype and have adopted it as gospel - we have all heard them - black people can't speak with good ediction, black people are uneducated, hard to understand, etc. etc. etc.
It's such bull.
You almost never hear this said about African Americans from England or Canada - it's not so much because of education or speaking properly as it is about being in a geographical area and adopting the language of said area.
Most of your friends sound like they come from urban depressed areas where this stereotype is commonality.
Just continue along down the path you have chosen and never worry what people say to hold you down - you just rise above it!!
2007-01-23 04:59:39 · answer #2 · answered by degendave99 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had an identical venture turning out to be up. there is lots you are able to say yet little to make a distinction of their opinion. regrettably human beings trust that particular races talk one way and yet another race speaks otherwise that basically isn't the case. It takes both an observant and knowledgeable individual to do not forget that this is environmental. once you've a black individual raised in a rural area they are going to talk an identical as whites raised interior of an identical area. So it stands to reason once you've a white individual raised in an city area they are going to talk an identical as a black individual raised interior of an identical area. U can attempt to coach them that being black has no longer something to do with the way you talk, act, dress or what variety of track you pay interest to. more effective than likely any variety of "authentic talk" will fall on deaf ears. basically be who you're and examine out to dismiss the adverse comments coming from those who can not replace your existence besides.
2016-10-17 02:55:58 · answer #3 · answered by doreen 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what others tell you. Sometimes people like to put you down so they can feel better about themselves. Sounding EDUCATED is going to get you farther ahead in life because people are more likely to assume you are intelligent. I don't know what kind of career (if any) you are interested in or where you want to go in life, but there will be many times when someone you don't know (e.g., a potential employer, potential client, etc.) will size you up in an instance, so when it's key to making a good impression you'll have all the tools you need. Your mom sounds like a smart woman. Besides, it's more than appropriate to speak more casually or slangily with your friends if you want to and how you speak shouldn't matter with good friends. Believe in yourself; you sound like you have a good head on your shoulders.
2007-01-23 05:03:27 · answer #4 · answered by °ĠיִяĿỵ° 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's not a big deal unless you make it one. Just be yourself and behave in a way that is most comfortable for you. Some people feel that people of their race need to talk or act a certain way, or else they are refusing to identify with their heritage. It happens to all kinds of people. Sometimes white kids who live in a predominately black area are criticized for being too "ghetto" as well. We are who we are, and people who don't accept us for who we are need to get over themselves.
2007-01-23 04:59:04 · answer #5 · answered by true blue 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You go Girl! (I can never pull that one off.... )
Seriously...most people try to attack you when you are a success at something. It makes them feel better for not being the same. If the other girls are making fun of you, it's probably because they are jealous that they didn't have as proper of an upbringing. You should thank your mother for giving you the education and poise that you were given. Don't allow what others say bother you because you are who you are, and if your "friends" are trying to discount who you are because it's not the "same" then they aren't true friends.
2007-01-23 05:00:09 · answer #6 · answered by Stephunny 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry I don't have an answer for you, I just wanted to say good for you for being your own person! Sometimes when we are young we have a hard time with the people we have to be around. Stay true to yourself and who you are and when you are all done with school you will be a success in every way that matters!
2007-01-23 04:57:23 · answer #7 · answered by pgilley30 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why is good diction, enunciation being white? If they spell phonetically that is their problem. This is appalling! It is a shame that the stereotypes of the rump shaking Trashinistas and their mantra of ebonics is accepted as truth about everybody! Apparently they do not know their own pre-slavery history and they are still shackeld by the brain! It's racism!
2007-01-23 05:00:50 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It isn't a big deal as long as you don't let it bother you.
Your "friends" are either simply joking, or jealous, or simply too narrow-minded to accept someone different from themselves.
I wonder if they have a similar problem with white girls who behave in a "ghetto" manner? It might be worth asking.
2007-01-23 04:58:24 · answer #9 · answered by MarketingAnalyst 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry about what anyone else says, let them all talk all they want and you continue your path. Go to school, study, network with the right individuals and one day you will be successful... In 5 or 10 years when you have your nice job, driving your nice car you will know it was all worth it- Good luck!
2007-01-23 05:01:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋