my best friend and her boyfriend are like the weather, one day they are so sweet and the other they are in a fight.. as a result, my friend always cries to me and rants...
i wasn't really minding it for she is my best friend.. but recently i've been on my wits end.. she knew that i have my mid-term exam on saturday 9am and she knows it's a major subject.. i also told her that i've been sleep deprived for the last three days... but then i received a call (sat, 4am) from her, sobbing and asking if she can come to my place.. i told her every excuse i could just to not let her come but still she did..
i just hate it that i'm always out of the picture when they are in good terms, but when problems arises i'm the one she bothers...
i just want to tell her that she's already being selfish, it's already being all about her... i have my own life too... but i'm afraid i'll hurt her badly because she's so emotional and takes things too personally and she can sometimes be narrow minded...
2007-01-23 04:42:42 · 2 answers · asked by wattawes 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
I suggest you take a harder stance and shut her out for a while. She's taking advantage of the openings you give her. It's like showing your neck to a vampire.
When you have less going on, approach her and try to talk about the problem. Just explain that you are there for her but you also need your space. If she can't respect that, then maybe you can't be friends. Friends respect each other's needs.
2007-01-23 04:55:28 · answer #1 · answered by pao 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't already have caller ID, you should acquire this technology immediately. There is nothing wrong with being available to your friend, but you should not let her drain you of the energy to manage your own life. If you cannot say no, check the caller ID display and if it is not a good time, don't answer the phone. If she has a physical emergency, she call call emergency services, ambulance etc, for herself, so don't worry for her safety. She will only respect your boundaries if you reinforce them. You don't have to be mean, just don't answer the phone if it is a bad time.
2007-01-23 12:55:13 · answer #2 · answered by Addie M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋