only very serious awnsers please about scat?

Question

my bf is into this, i hate it it disgusts me. can hypnosis or something help him get over it? what is the attraction.? i cannot live with this for the rest of my life. if you don't know what scat is then you don't want to. help me, this is ruining our sex life.

some of you dont know what this is.ok, he wants me to **** on him. no, i do not let him do it to me, asshole. ne way, he is really into it, like he will never be satisfied without it. i think, yeah it is a deal breaker, but here's the thing. i didn't know he liked it until after we had children. now i know, and he wants it all the time. if i didnt do it, do you think he would cheat to get his fetish satisfied?

Answer 1

I dont even know what to say to this besides im sorry.. that is absoultely disguisting. I am not sure if somethingn like hypnosis would work.. it might, but he would have to be up for it. If not, he's going to be into that for te rest of his life.. people don't get over their fetishes.. they're life long. Maybe you just need to consider the othe alternative.. although is sometimes seems like the harder option, you might be alot happier in the end if you leave him. Good luck. But just so you know, im sure that at least 98% of women out there agree with you!

Answer 2

Leave...
It's wrong on so many levels... (if you are talking about what I've heard about, man that is nasty!)
All the red flags are flapping in the wind my dear!! Pay attention! Your gut is telling you too... should listen to it, don't ignore it.

If you are disgusted now... it'll only magnify the more serious the two of you become. You said yourself you "cannot live with this..."
Don't continue to expose yourself to that type of behaviour... it's "ruining your sex life" well that won't be easy to recover from.

Hypnosis? He'd have to admit it's gross and unhealthy and say he needs help and wants the help.
For you, you could spend years trying to get through this issue with him to maybe see it won't change or cut the ties and live a happier, healthier life without him and his scat ways.
Depends what kind of time you are willing to devote and his willingness to change. Just make it abundantly clear to him that this type of behaviour is unacceptable to you because of health reasons, the icky factor and it not being a normal healthy human practise.

Good Luck to you... I have to go wash my hands now.

Answer 3

Well, I'm leading a quiet, safe life.
In my day, "scat" was a type of vocal jazz singing.
If your boyfriend does something you cannot life with for the rest of your life, LEAVE- don't try to change him-- not matter what the issue is. If you're going to whine about how much you love him, then you need to make a choice: tolerate his issue and shut up about it, or find someone who does things you CAN live with.

Answer 4

ok.

we all have fetishes and fantasies we'd like to have fulfulled, that our partners might never agree to. This is no different, its at an incredibly different level, but its the same thing.

Any guy you date would WANT to have threesomes with you and another girl, but, a decent guy will respect if you're not into it.

I wouldn't worry too much about him finding another girl to do it, its so disgusting a thing, not like he can buy a girl a drink at a bar and invite her to a hotel to come crap on his chest....

You need to not allow him to talk about it with you. You also need to keep him off the internet. If he sees this stuff, it's going to fuel his fantasies, put it on his mind, and he'll obsess about it night and day.

Do seek therapy together, talk about this. He may not be able to stop thinking thats hot, but, he might learn to control his behavior in discussing it.

You have kids together, you have a long history together. This is far out crazy, but I think its a problem much easier to deal with than the common philandering husband our desperate housewife.

Give my ideas a shot, and if you still can't make it work, then you'll have to go. But, at least then you can go in clean concience, knowing you did everything to keep your family together.

Witholding sex works too, when used properly....If he even mentions scat, refuse sex with him that night saying you're just too grossed out, and if he mentions it during sex, just stop, right in the middle. Women always say men are dogs, sometimes we have to be trained like them.

And, on the bright side, you always have someone who's willing to clean the toilets.

Answer 5

Wow i really didnt know there is an educated word for brown and golden showers. I actually had to look it up and i came across sites like scatcontacts.com and **** like that. Now my question is to you.....how much you are into him? Because if it really bothers you then you need to run and keep running before he **** in your hair. I know this might sounds crazy or funny but its not one of the nisest fetish i ever heard of. I mean if foot fetish itself already freaks me out just because i feel like that person rather suck your toes then even get to bussiness then its just str8 up weirdo stuff.
I cant even think of and you never mentioned in your questions of how important he is to you. I mean i assume you love him if you willing to get some kind of hypnosis on his ***, but i am sorry sweety i just doubt if that will help or even work. So question is how important he is to you? Can you deal with this fetish of his? If not and you know there is almost no chance to change something that he i assume love to do then why stay with him? Have you talked to him? Try. I doubt if he is going to stop for you and he really loves you and stop that madness then i can guarantee you he will find someone on a side besides you and this time someone who likes his fetish too.

Answer 6

It is pretty disgusting to me too... seen some stuff online about it. If he really loves you and RESPECTS you he will understand when you nicely explain that this is something that you really have no interest in even trying and you are pretty disgusted by it, then he won't mention it to you anymore. If it is REALLY that important to him... and he HAS to be involved with that, you might need to make a choice about the future. Personally, that would be a deal breaker for me if I was pestered about it a lot.

Answer 7

Do you mean analingus or scat itself?

I enjoy giving and receiving analingus, but the area should be clean first. It's a good excuse to shower together, or even do some enema play.

If it goes beyond analingus, it may be more of a fetish than an interest. Sexual impulses are a complicated issue, with issues of psychology, family upbringing etc.

If his interests or desires don't mix with yours, it's something that you two should be discussing. On sensitive issues like this, counselors or therapists can help avoid landmines and work to find some common ground.

Answer 8

Hmmm. this is a tough one. It sounds like you have a serious bedroom problem and chances are it is not going to go away. Sorry there is no known cure for fetishes.

I would, if I were you, talk with him and tell him you are never going to participate. He may still try to talk you into it, but stick to your guns and say no. As long as he respects your wishes there should be no problem. If he tries to force it then you may want to move on.

Answer 9

Typically, they go in and out depending on the temperature. But, my Father on the other hand had a problem with that because of the sac not being able to support it properly. If they are hanging unusually low, than go seek medial attention. But really, it means when youre body temp. rises and its "safe" for the testes to come out of the body again.

Answer 10

Get you and your boyfriend into sex therapy. I think that unless his fascination with this form of eroticism is very mild, it is going to cause a lot of problems for your relationship seeing as he is very into it and you are very much NOT into it. I think it is pretty likely that you'll eventually break up over this.

Remember that this isn't necessarily a disease or something that "hypnosis" can fix. You need to talk to a professional couples therapist and probably one that specializes in abnormal sexual fantasies.