Who i automatically fell for..........i mean....when i saw her...i just saw us together....well.....we were friends for about six months and i guess i knew she wasnt lez but i still wanted her.....well one day we were in class together and we were writing notes.....she had been trying to set me up with her cousin(boy).....i finally just wrote in the note.."im gay"...she says what? me too!! i swear i almost fainted....anyway...she asked me out....
thats a good thing right....wrong....she got me into pills and E and started lying to me and pulling all this dumb ****! i didnt know what to do..i just stopped talking to her....then later on we got back together....then something happened....we were at my house and i was sick so i didnt want to stay up late...so she kissed me goodnight and went to talk to my brother....PROBLEM: her friend told me that she ****** my brother!!! I dont know what to believe...she has lied to me about everything...so i cut her off without breaking up.
2007-01-23 03:57:59 · 7 answers · asked by adriboho 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Well has she even bothered to ask what happened and why you broke up with her? Chances are she's not as dumb as she's been acting, & she already knows that you know what she did & she's probably greatful that you didnt cuss her a.ss out. Personally, i think you went the nice & easy way, & she doesnt deserve that. I wouldv'e told her off so bad she woulda been tellin the story to her grandchildren. But then that's just me. Do what makes you comfortable but know that you dont owe her anything.
2007-01-23 04:21:03 · answer #1 · answered by Raynebow_Diva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cutting her off not only does not solve the problem, it will make it worse! Communication, Communication, Communication!!! Tell your friend you'd like to have a calm, yet serious discussion about some things that are troubling you. If you want to be exclusive or thought you were, express your feelings. Discuss how important trust and loyalty are to you and VITAL for any close relationship. Cautiously choose words that won't make her feel like she's being attacked, interrogated, or accused of something she might not have done.The tone of your voice and body language will also have a lot to do with your friend either telling you the truth, because she feels like she can, or lying, because she feels like she has to. Be prepared to hear things you might not want to. Play it out in your mind like a movie. Picture yourself obviously upset (in a worst case scenario), yet able to maintain. If the discussion turns nasty, be mature and take the high road (ground?). It took me quite a while, under extreme duress, to learn how to do that and I won't kid you--- it was a real *****! Don't forget to give your friend the opportunity to speak uninterrupted. (I'm still working on this one! Duct tape anyone? *!#!*#*!) If you suspect she has been less than truthful, be able to back up your suspicions with solid evidence. Heresay is just as it denotes (at least in a court of law!). (I'm a paralegal student--Shhhh!) Lastly, always be true to yourself and follow your gut instincts. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you."
Wishing you well, "CaliModel".
2007-01-23 15:32:58 · answer #2 · answered by Me1HotSoCalifChic 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think u should dump her. She doesn't sound like a good person to be in a relationship with.
2007-01-23 12:10:30 · answer #3 · answered by missgigglebunny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's definitely a VERY unhealthy relationship to be in. It's good that you ended it.
2007-01-23 13:10:00 · answer #4 · answered by carora13 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she got you into drugs and now she possibly slept with your brother too?? you should tell her that you don't want to have anything to do with her in the future.
2007-01-23 13:28:15 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
dose she sound worth all that. I would wait and look around for some one you would enjoy spending time with.
2007-01-23 12:49:18 · answer #6 · answered by ladyjamie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell her it's over and find someone new
2007-01-23 12:50:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋