k folks,i need some advise-i truly love my bf and I know he does too.But due to family issues we will not be able to get married to each other.So,we mutually decided we'll stay till the day of crisis hits us.But this guy,he finds girls to talk on craigslist and posts ads like 'lets hang out' and his conversations with xyz females are like 'i had a gf and i broke up with her 6months bac...and now i am single.Whenn was with her i nevr had any time for myself in the weekends' and wat not.But tht wasn't the case! we have fun in the weekends with rest of our frndz and sometimes I tell him he shud go out with boys and have fun but he willingly pulls me in. And now I see all this sh%$ in his conversations. Its unbelievable and it hurts!!When i ask him he says I was drunk and not in senses..but I very well know thts not the case either.
What shud I do with this guy? Should I believe him and give him a chance or he's no more trust-worthy?(oo, i shud add tht this isnt the first time!)
2007-01-23 03:55:05 · 27 answers · asked by yumili24 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
do you remember how you and your first love broke up? you thought the world ended, you thought you lost the love of your life, and you could not do much. But what happened you survived moved on, and now when you look back it is just a memory, not much feeling attached to it.
DUMP THIS GUY! dont even bother to trust or not to trust, you will always find another love, you should not limit yourself to someone who doesnt deserve you. The reason i am saying that is.. if you havent done anything for him to say things like that , then dont let him take the best of you, dont waste your time, because if he REALLY did love you ,he would have thought twice, and i guess from the way you talk about him, you guys have been in a relationship for a while now, so he should know better.
To me, that would only sound like a purpose reason to break up, maybe he just got bored for awhile, or it could be any stupid reason. But since you are serious about him, dont let your feelings to be played. Have some respect for yourself and dump him.
Once he loses you, he will either try to come back to you, or the whole thing will go sour.
If he tries to come back to you, make him want and beg to be back with you , otherwise dont take him. Remember he is not the ONLY one in the world. there are alot of fish in the sea.
If he doesnt come back to you , then you know that he wanted to end it, but he couldnt do it himself.
I know its harsh the way i say things, but it is for your own good, you will pass the pain, you just need to get in control, so he doesnt play with you. This can be also applied to anything you are attached in life, if you dont like change it. Its all up to you.
Good luck
2007-01-23 04:18:10 · answer #1 · answered by Hunnypox 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you have black and white proof that your boyfriend is cheating on you then you need to decide if you want to stay and work it out or leave him and persue a relationship with someone else. It obvious that he lying to other people and telling them things that are not true and then telling something else to your face. In my opinion would be he is not trustworthy but that is for you to decide. Since you know it is not been the first time that he has cheated on you then it seems you got proof that he is done you wrong and that you deserve better. You have decide what you want to do, going with your feeling is best and he could do it to you again, and maybe to another girl but that will be up to her to let him go when she knows he is cheating if she is the type that does not play that game.
2007-01-23 04:04:22 · answer #2 · answered by gordonflames242003 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
MAKE A DECISION. You already said it he havent done it once or it wasnt the first time. So what does that tell you? Probably it tells you that you cant change this man. He dont respect you. He talk shyt about you to other chicks to make them feel sorry for him that way he can get up under the skirt easier. Thats a good trick i guess he figures. But he have a nerve to talk shyt about you and your time together. Break up with him. I know you want to. You sounds like you made up your mind so do your thing. Do this for yourself. You desurve more and you desurve happiness. He is not going to give you either, so make a move girl! Good luck!
2007-01-23 04:03:28 · answer #3 · answered by BK thang 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hon,
First off I don't think it's love that he feels with you. Guys that love you wouldn't cheat on you in the first place, let alone place ads saying stuff about their supposed "ex". My best advise to you is to find someone else, there are other fish in the sea, though you may love him, but can you really actually love someone that is cheating on you? You deserve better than that, if your family issues prevent you from being married than that isn't an invitation for him to cheat. Good luck honey, get rid of the loser and find yourself someone that thinks you hung the moon.
2007-01-23 04:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I am lost here. You guys suppose to be going your separate ways anyways right? Just look at it as he is getting a head start. I think it is very uncaring for him to go about it that way but leave him to his own ways. For him maybe the crisis is already upon you. Either way I know you must be pretty shuck up with all that's going on and about to happen but prepare yourself and stop worrying about a a guy and relationship that is gonna come to an end anyway. Life is to short.
2007-01-23 04:29:59 · answer #5 · answered by Wordsmith 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's obviously moved on and makin himself available to other women (6 months back??), why shouldn't you do the same? True love or not, if this relationship can't eventually grow to marriage...why are you 'exclusively' his? He's not the same for you, so what i suggest is that each of you see other people (and each other). Neither of you should miss out on anything life has to offer, but it doesnt mean that you can't see each other anymore, just that the conditions have changed. If you make plans, dont cancel for him. If it turns out you're both free, then enjoy time together. Don't fret about what he's doing, and he shouldn't either....
Good luck!
2007-01-23 06:53:30 · answer #6 · answered by Soldier 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don;t know what the circumstances are that make it imposable for you to marry but that should be enough for you to move on to another Boyfriend. You can still be friends . It sounds to me like he has accepted the situation and decided to go ahead with his life but is trying to give you time to do the same thing because he doesn't want to hurt you. Move on and find another boy friend. you and he will both have a better life.
2007-01-23 04:06:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should leave him, if you want to maintain your dignity as a person. He has insulted your love and thrown away your trust. I don't think he deserves any such feelings from you. Let him flirt with other girls and do whatever he wants, but don't give him another chance as he definitely does not regard with sincerity.
I know it will hurt, but you have a beautiful life ahead of you and many people who do and will truly love and care for you.
2007-01-23 04:00:49 · answer #8 · answered by curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
move on with your life, dear. Concentrate on your future. Get an education so you can get a good job someday and be independent and have plenty of money. Then find a new guy who can appreciate you.
I am sorry. I know you dont want to hear this, but this is my honest advice to you.
Take care of yourself and your future, that is number one. Then find a good guy to spend time with.
The world is a buffet line of fabulous men. No need to settle.
2007-01-23 04:00:40 · answer #9 · answered by lifeisagift 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since the relationship can't go forward, why stay? Shake off your hurt and pain and move along. Let him do his thang. You need to do yours. Just because you love someone, doesn't mean you have to be with them. Especially, when its dead-end.
2007-01-23 04:15:51 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋