Hi, I'm 19 years old and I have this HUGE crush on my friend I've known him for two years now, and we're simply just friends.
He's 15 years older than me, and I sorta want to be more than friends with him, the problem is that I'm not sure if he has the same feelings. He does flatter me sometimes and such stuff..........but I don't know
we don't meet a lot, but we talk online very often. I just don't know what I should do to make a 'move', like what should I do, ask him for a date? lol
what would you do if you were in my shoes?
One more thing, I feel sometimes that he likes me more than a friend and wants to take our relationship to the next level but he's just afraid that I might reject him because he's older or something.
Do I sound like a 13 year old who wants to go out with one of her class mates? LOL
2007-01-23 03:34:48 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
No gosh, I didn't meet him online.
2007-01-23 03:50:13 · update #1
just let him know how you feel about him and then take it from there ,you never know where it could lead you to if you don't try
Good Luck
2007-01-23 03:38:45 · answer #1 · answered by Silverearth 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is so common and I always say take the risk, you have nothing to lose by letting him know that you have feelings for him. What is the worst that can happen?...if he doesn't have reciprocal feelings although the heartbreak may take a while to get over...you will still have his friendship which does not need to be weird at all...that is if he is as loyal and true of a friend as you think he is. I am sure you will get lots of responses about this 15 year age difference...yet I think that one is a hard one to comment on due to not knowing you or the guy - maturity levels, etc. Take the risk, live a little as life is too short and good luck!
2007-01-23 03:41:20 · answer #2 · answered by chick33 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think at some point or another, EVERY female who has ever had a male friend has had one she has 'feelings' for. I know I have! Most of my friends are guys, and I have had my share of crushes. (I am 24).
At risk of sounding like your mother, I have to point out the obvious: 15 years is kind of a big difference in age. This man, although your friend, is in an entirely different state of life than you, simply because of life experiences...
Now, that said it depends alot on if you know him regularly in your personal life (work, school, whatever) or if you met him online (which is what it sounds like). If you met him online PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be careful. I am a smart woman, and don't fall sucker easily, but I have fallen sucker. My college roommate met a guy online, had him fly in from NJ and he brought a friend, and the friend date raped me. I also had a guy into me that was completely psycho (he seemed normal for well over two years) and then stalked me and threatened to kill me. You cant be too careful.
Motherly advice aside :) If you are interested in him, my best advice is to take it slow, if you think you can trust him, let him know you are interested (flirt back, ask him to go somewhere with you on a date, whatever) and see where it goes from there.
Just be careful, and obviously don't do anything you dont feel comfortable with--a womans intuition is her best protection! Good Luck!
2007-01-23 03:45:40 · answer #3 · answered by reauxmarie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well this sounds so familiar to me because I was sort of in the same situation. I suggest that you invite him out to catch a bite or to the park and while your both there you just come out and tell him how you feel. Tell him that you would want something more than friends and if he doesn't feel the same then just tell him that you don't want that to ruin your relationship as friends. But seriously I know its kind of hard but just be confident about yourself and tell him. I think things would be much better if you tell him. Good Luck
2007-01-23 07:18:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not start with small things go for walk in the garden, hold his hand, lean on him, there are all sort of non-verbal communications to tell someone you like him. Start meeting him as often as you can. And DON'T straight away go to the last step, first try kissing him. Usually a kiss is enough to tell whether you want more or not.
2007-01-23 03:45:29 · answer #5 · answered by curious 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
lol, you don't sound thirteen, It's cute that you have a crush on this guy. Just tell him that you saw a preview to some movie and tell him that you two should see it together. Don't sound nervous, act as casual as you normally would.
2007-01-23 03:39:51 · answer #6 · answered by Mel 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
take the lead and ask him out,what can he say.he probably thinks you feel he is too old for you.convince him otherwise and you will have your man.
2007-01-23 03:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
right a letter of how you feel and aks him to be your boyfriend.
2007-01-23 03:40:24 · answer #8 · answered by i,m here if you need to talk. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋