and if one is experienced in that relm and the other is not how do you open them up to the idea?
2007-01-23 03:09:39 · 11 answers · asked by I♥Karma 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the woman is experinced...the man is not!
2007-01-23 03:18:11 · update #1
I can't say that I've ever heard of a situation concerning anal sex where the man was reluctant and the woman said "bring it on" and that would be either inside or outside of marriage. I wonder if this guy even realizes how lucky he is.
I think the advise about watching some porn together and then telling him that your getting excited during an anal scene was pretty good. Failing that, just be open and honest with him and tell him that you want anal to be part of your love life together. If he's a normal and non repressed male and he refuses, which would probably be a first on this planet, you've got an issue to deal with. I'd probably just be honest and straight with him, although I might not stress that you're already really experienced with entertaining visitors via the backdoor. Men can be touchy where that sort of information is concerned and you can do some damage to your relationship if you don't think about what you're saying in advance.. I've learned that the hard way and after some reflection realize that I was the one who was in the wrong.
Interesting question although I imagine that the morality secret police will have it removed in a day or so.
2007-01-23 04:46:17 · answer #1 · answered by Barb S 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It depends who's experienced and who is not.
If the woman is the experienced one, she's just got to convince him to take it easy.
If the man is, he'll already know to take it easy and when to call it quits.
LOADS of lube. LOADS of patience. Everyone has to want it or it'll suck. A LITTLE alcohol might help (NOT drunk). Take it easy and the first time (or several times) you probably will have to stop after a minute or two.
2007-01-23 11:17:43 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What in the world does marriage have to do with anal sex???! LOL!
Also, you mentioned yourself that the woman was experienced, the man is not, so OBVIOUSLY the woman was having sex before marriage anyway................
Hypocrite.
2007-01-23 11:34:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
All for it.Tell him what you want,if he's OK with it,climb on top & go for it.Or let him take you from behind,have fun & good luck.He's a lucky man not many women out there that like anal.
2007-01-23 15:02:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anal is nasty. Poo should have no place in marital relations. Plus women don't have a prostate to make it pleasurable.
A quote from my sister on the subject,"The whole room smelled like poo!"
2007-01-23 11:31:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
well i always told my husband when im married I would do it, have to save something lmao
when i got married i tried but it hurt!! I finally wanted to try agian and I know what helped me was relaxation.......u have to be really gentle and loving.
U can tell her its something you always wanted to try with ur wife...im assuming ur a man lol
hopefully she will think about it.
2007-01-23 11:20:04 · answer #6 · answered by Hi my name is... 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
with the right person and the right lube it can be very enjoyable. if the guy is not experience it , just mention it and he will Be all up for it.
2007-01-23 11:38:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
just bring it up to him - maybe watch a porn tape together where there is anal.
2007-01-23 11:38:09 · answer #8 · answered by livetall1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him what you want. How is he going to know what you want unless you tell him.
2007-01-23 14:22:50 · answer #9 · answered by Monty L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What does marriage have to do with it?
2007-01-23 11:23:50 · answer #10 · answered by Dovie 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋