2007-01-23 03:00:06 · 64 answers · asked by See it as 3 in Entertainment & Music ➔ Television
i think it shouldnt be a serious problem...but one thing that you need to realize is that as guys, we have little common sense(omg...im such a traitor) and dont really stop to think about how our actions affect those around us(not right away,anyways)
but DONT try to get him jealouse,that will only cause trouble, now im not sure if i have an absolute solution for this, but as a guy,im just telling you that you have a right to be upset, but at the same time,it's not something you should really be worried about...have a talk w/ him and tell him how you feel about what he's doing, and if that doesn't get to him,tell him that you feel inadequate...this is a small problem,but it does have potential to get out of control...
2007-01-23 03:14:08 · answer #1 · answered by jedi_stigma 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Is it common for men to drool over actresses or is it common to feel inadequate about it? I would say that the first one is pretty much a given. But the second one, why let it bother you? They drool over these actresses because they are the unattainable. If they were to meet in real life, which is very unlikely, the actress would either not give them a second glance or would chew him up and spit him out.
These women are often only as beautiful as the airbrush and 50 tons of Maybelline make them. Looking at them with his tongue hanging out is the closest he's going to get to them. Why not find some equally gorgeous actors to drool over yourself? At least you will feel more equal and he might begin to feel inadequate himself.
2007-01-23 03:08:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Fiona I don't mean to be nasty but maybe your man has a little bit of a problem if he can't get going without the use of porn. Personally I don't see the attraction in it, something which I have received stick for countless times through the years. Goes back to catching my Dad with the old one eyed snake and a video when I was very young, disturbing image which left me scarred. I have never encountered any problems sexually and feel that any relationship that I have been in has been one of success. I am on good terms with anyone that I have ever dated. I treat women with respect. Whether this is due to being anti-porn I am unsure. Demand your self-respect woman. Tell your man no more porn. Why should you be made to feel inadequate? If every time he removed his shorts you pointed and laughed I am sure he would not be a happy camper. Tell him how it is making you feel and that it is detrimental to your relationship. Ask him if he is serious about you or if he would like to have hairy palms. I am sure that you are an attractive woman, and you certainly sound as if you have a good brain, so let him know he is a risk of losing you. Being honest a one of those on a TV screen or a real life stunner what is he going to choose. Make him! You are worth it, don't be down trodden. Stand up Girl, make him take notice!! If he can't perform without the porn, then he don't perform. Believe me he will ditch the porn very quickly. People on here have mentioned addiction and yes he may be, but that is no excuse. It sounds as if he has little respect for you or himself. Something that you will both need to work at. Tell him to try taking you out for a meal and an evening at the theatre, get dressed up, enjoy yourselves, discover the use of verbal foreplay during your evening, teasing one another, then lots of touching and loving gestures, by the time you get home he will be putty in your hands. Sorry poor choice of words. But I am sure that you catch my drift. Discover each other again, don't let it go stale. Enjoy yourselves. If he can't go without the porn, end the relationship and move on before any more heartache comes from it. Good luck.
2016-03-28 22:41:36 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not so much drool, but pining over an actress/actor ina film is common. The characters they play make people fall in love with them, and yet, it's not even them.. Good example is any-every tabloid magazine. Now think of all the people buying those up drooling over the coverstory and such.
No need to feel inadequate, so long as your partner isn't postering up their walls with whoever they are pining over. O.o
2007-01-23 03:09:59 · answer #4 · answered by ZombieFace 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There is an unspoken rule that you can drool over the "stars" that's okay and don't feel inadequate. Their job is to look beautiful and they work very hard at it. However do be concerned if your partner is drooling over females (actual females) in your presence whether its family/friends/or strangers. This is the area that requires the "respect-factor" no drooling but Stars...smile
2007-01-23 03:17:55 · answer #5 · answered by Sweetgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is common for men to drool over actresses in films. There's no harm in it. The men would feel differently if they were watching the actresses taking out the trash, doing the laundry, placating a screaming toddler, etc.
There is no reason for you to feel inadequate about this. Your Partner is with you, not the actresses. You need more self-confidence.
2007-01-23 03:13:05 · answer #6 · answered by Alex 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's normal to feel this way but you shouldn't feel inadequate. He/she can drool all he/she wants to, but he/she will NEVER get the actresses. Let he/she drool all they want, it doesn't make a difference and who are they with? Don't you ever look at someone on TV and think, "They're hot." Well, I know I do, but I still love my boyfriend and he knows I do.
2007-01-23 03:14:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Pretty common really. There's the odd actor or singer that when they appear on the telly I sit with a silly grin on my face throughout. But it's not like I'd have a hope in hell of meeting them, never mind anything else, and i wouldn't want to either really. As Father Dougal said in Father Ted 'You should never meet your idols, you'll only be disappointed'.
Most people have the odd crush on someone on the telly or whatever, but it's pretty much harmless, it's if he only drools and goes on about actresses and seems lost in that world that you need to worry about him.
As for you, these actresses are probably video edited, airbrushed and digitally touched up and that's after hours in make up and getting their hair done. They probably look like his nan in the flesh whereas you're the real deal. He should count himself lucky to have a real woman!.
2007-01-23 03:48:12 · answer #8 · answered by black cherry 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact that your partner is looking at actresses is completely normal. The thing that is dangerous is if you get jealous at them. The are movie stars and will most likely never meet your mate. So don't worry about it. If nothing else pop in a good movie with a yummy actor in it and feel better about the whole situation.
2007-01-23 03:18:54 · answer #9 · answered by princess_heather43787 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes.. its natural to feel that way. But don't let it bother you.. actresses are supposed to be beautiful (well, some are).. It happens to guys also, trust me.
What you should remember is, even though your partner drools over the actress, the chances of him going out with that actress is probably very slim. So... relax.. let him drool. ;)
2007-01-23 03:10:23 · answer #10 · answered by Think Richly™ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋