Since they already have a VERY good idea we are planning this:
Should we tell our parents of destination wedding upon first meeting; they never met before .... tell them of our plans at first meeting?
My fiance and I have recently decided to have a destination wedding and not invite ANYONE, including our parents.
My parents divorced over 20 years ago and still HATE each other. Both have re-married since then. My fiance's parents are still married and would really like us to have a TRADITIONAL wedding, as would my mother and my grandmother.
While they have an idea of our plans, we are thinking of having them (my mother and stepfather and his parents) meet for the first time for dinner and announce our wedding plan.
We think that they are less likely to get overly upset in the presence of future in-laws, and this will allow them to let the news settle in for a little while.
Is this an ambush to spring it on them like this, or a good idea, so we don't get a guilt trip?
2007-01-23 02:58:27 · 3 answers · asked by Advice Please 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
We have been engaged for 5 months, have told them.
We don't want ANY money from anyone, and will have a small informal reception when we return with wedding pictures on display.
We just don't know how to crush their dreams of our wedding.
2007-01-23 03:01:32 · update #1
That is what my husband and I did, and we are glad we did. At first there were a few that didn't like the idea, but they soon got over it. We had a wonderful time just the two of us, and no stress about anything.
2007-01-23 03:14:37 · answer #1 · answered by Ellyn 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say wait until the very last minute (like the day before) to tell them of your wedding plans. by waiting until the last minute it doesn't give them any time to purchase tickets to join you. but when they ask why...tell them the truth. second...when they start asking for a date...just tell them that you are still thinking about it and have not decided on anything yet. either way...don't tell them and you and your husband will have to put your foot down and stand up. you are going to end up crushing their dreams for your wedding because it's what THEY want for you. not what you want for you. so...tell them of your final plans on the day before you leave for your desination wedding. because that way it doesn't give them any time to plan themselves.
2007-01-23 03:10:57 · answer #2 · answered by cfalways 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your day and if you feel they will all take it better this way, go for it. Parents don't mean to project their wishes on their kids but most times they do. If you want to elope do it, they will get over it.
2007-01-23 03:06:05 · answer #3 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋