Why did they let her keep him!!!???

Question

I work with this girl who just turned 21 and had a baby boy. Well her husband was a schizo and they started a divorced right after the baby came. Well the first time i saw the baby he seemed a little small to me and I asked if he was a preemie and she said no, so i thought maybe he was just small. Well a few weeks later child services started investigating her. Now she told me that the reason was because of her soon to be ex, which didn't seem right to me because if they were divorcing, her custody shouldn't have anything to do with her husband, right? Well anyways she wouldn't really talk about it after that and no one saw the baby for a while, i thought they took him. Well the ordeal is over now and I duno if they gave him back or never took him but I saw him yesterday, now 3 months old, and he's STILL smaller than most new borns!! I dunno if she doesn't feed him or if she did drugs but he is DEF failing to thrive. Why would they let her keep him? I feel so bad for this baby!

And she had him in a baby carrier and she was using a dirty towel for a blanket and everyone said the baby smelt really bad. It's obvious she doesn't want to be a mom...why did she try so hard to keep him just to treat him like a rag doll??? What is wrong with child services???

No he def was NOT a preemie because after i asked her that, she menchined he was born on oct 9th and they day i saw her was the 11th. If he was a preemie he'd be in the hospital.

Anyone who can justify using a DIRTY, MOLDY, GREY BUT SUPPOSED TO BE WHITE TOWEL for a baby blanket, must not know **** about kids. I have been around babies enough to know what a dirty diaper smells like and THAT def was not it. There is no excuse for the way she treats this baby. And YES it is our business when she decides to bring her baby to work to "show off" and treat him the way she does. It's one thing to do it at home but if she is doing it in public then she must not care what people say or think. When you see something like that you can't just SIT there and let it go on because then you are supporting her behavior. I have my reasons to say what I say about her and child services has nothing to do with it. If anyone could see what we see, you wouldn't be standing up for her. She is UNFIT.

Answer 1

The only thing you can do is keep reporting her to child protection services, good luck.

Answer 2

I believe that you should call CPS and start an investigation. My mother in law is a CPS worker so I know that once you get that going they'll interview her several times on her parenting, do random stop bys of her home and inspect it to make sure that its clean and that the child have what it needs, and they'll als o make sure that the baby is eating and being cared for properly. If after doing all that they decide that she's unable to care for the child they'll probobly give it to the father if he's fit or to another family member. From listening to stories my mother in law has told me, you don't want to wait to long to get things started for that baby. If she's neglecting it, the longer it goes, the more damage it'll have. There are to many cases where people wait to report it and its to late, so if I were you I'd call.

Answer 3

keep DOING YOUR PART BY CONTACTING PROTECTION SERVICES. The more you call the more your chances will be on getting a person that really cares. I know it is sad but the system does fail on the area of child protection. Many cases are not investigated as the worker sometimes does not follow Thur with the case. Some case loads are to big and get lost in the paper work. So please for the safety of the little child contact some one who can help. Is there any other family members that may help?

Answer 4

Keep calling the CPS. This baby's life could be in your hands. Don't listen to the people telling you this is none of your business. That is ridiculous. The welfare of a child is everyones business.

If you want to take this one step further, perhaps you can befriend this girl and help her. She sounds like she is in a real bad place right now and could use a friend. That baby could use a friend, too.

Thanks for being a good person. There are so few of you out there anymore.

Answer 5

You can always call the police and have them show up to do a welfare check on that child. They will do it. The police will take the child and get it checked out, they do it all the time!!

For the safety of that baby, please call the police and say you are afraid for the childs safety and welfare, it seems like it's not getting what it needs.

That child could be dead soon if you do not act now.

Answer 6

What the hell is rong with you? You have no idea why child service investigated mabye it was because she was living with a psycho and at least she made a good decision to get rid of him..instead of speculating why dont you ask her..OMG SHE USED A DIRTY TOWEL AS A BLANKET???? MABYE IT WAS CLEAN UNTIL THE BABY MADE IT DIRTY WITH SPIT UP OR FELL ON HER TRIP....and mabye the baby smelled because it had a poop and she was going to change it asap. You dont even have any facts except your own opinions and i wish you would stop your jealous complaining and help her out or else shut your useless mouth. biatch.

Answer 7

First of all you're not a doctor so you can't diagnose "failure to thrive". Second of all it's really none of your business. Thirdly you said it yourself, she really didn't talk about it which to me would mean she wanted her privacy about the matter and is ENTITLED to it. Since YOU have no clue as to what happened (It could be that this baby was a preemie but she just didn't want to say so...HER prerogative by the way), Neither you nor your co workers knows what is going on in her world so really you have no right to pass judgment on her. Since you don't know the truth you have no right to an opinion at all, really. And she, just like the rest of us is entitled to her privacy so stop being nosey.

Answer 8

Well this is heart breaking, But you may have the power to save him and help her become a better mom. You could become friends w/ her and be there to support her, maybe she will look to you for advice. Drop some advice but act like you talking about someone else. Be supportive and friend and you will feel sooo good because she will take it. Good Luck.

Answer 9

Report her yourself. Maybe even say something, like "Don't you have any baby blankets to use instead of that towel?" You are right. It is your business. That baby has no one to stick up for it. Someone has to! Good Luck!

Answer 10

A lot of people will not open to social services because of the taking away routine they will do everything to prevent that.could be post natal depression or a simple case not got a clue what to do if no friends or family about.If your a friend maybe you could help or steer her.