2007-01-23 02:30:23 · 47 answers · asked by Trish S 3 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
uhh, cause you HATE them??!!
2007-01-23 02:32:35 · answer #1 · answered by Tim 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First I believe you must forgive yourself for hating them. This is not an emotion we need in our lives. It will only serve to bring us down to a level we don't want to be on.
Rise above what you are feeling for the person you dislike.
Forgive them, no matter what it was.. This does not mean you ever have to be friends again, it just means you are taking the higher road. It's hard to move on in life, while dragging along excess baggage, and that is exactly what hate is.
You are right though, this can be difficult, why? Because we are only human, and it's easy to get hurt or be angry, and not know how best to deal with it.
If you need to write it all down on paper, then take the paper and place it in a small box, then place the small box under your bed, leave it there. This will be your " I don't like this person because box" .. Wait 6 months or 1 year, then dig it out, I'll bet by then you'll have moved on, and will be able to dump everything that is in the box.
Good Luck and God Bless
2007-01-23 02:43:46 · answer #2 · answered by Aunt Henny Penny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is more difficult to forgive someone that you truly dislike. But I wonder what would cause you to hate. Hate is such a strong emotion, it takes so much work to hate. Maybe you could start with finding at least one thing in that person that is genuinely good. Even if it is the way they smile, the color of their eyes. Find something positive in them, release the feelings of hate, they will only consume you. I think once you stop the hatred, it will be easier to forgive. You will probably never forget. You will feel a burden lifted from you when you release the feelings of hate. I am not saying you will become friends with this person, but for yourself, its is a much more peaceful life it you can live it with out hate. Hate is all too consuming. Do yourself a favor and let it go. I think you will feel more contentment with yourself. Good luck
2007-01-23 02:36:27 · answer #3 · answered by MommaSchmitt 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think the reason why its so hard cause the negative vibe is already there so that just adds to that. why forgive someone you hate i think it has allot to do with pride. i also think its easier to hate then forgive that person. but in the long run its better to forgive cause when you are angry u are harming yourself and causing yourself unnecessary drama. that doesn't mean be friends just let it go cause if they caused heartache pain or problems karma is a ***** and what comes around goes around. I also believe if u let it go they will be pissed even more cause they know they didn't get the best of you. And that alone is enough gratitude within it self.
2007-01-31 01:56:58 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Many people think that forgiving someone means that you are somehow saying that what they did was OK. That isn't forgiveness. Forgiveness is knowing that what they did was wrong but no longer are you going to hold it against them. Hating someone is a waist of energy and will get you know where. Just let it go.
2007-01-23 02:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by BAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because you know deep down that you can't trust this person. You also know that they are most likely going to do something to make you hate them again.
The other side of the coin is there is something about the person that you don't like in yourself. You see them as a threat and its easier to hate them than to hate yourself.
(I'm not a pyschology major infact I HATE it!!)
The bible does say forgive and forget, so maybe you could forgive them whatever they did and then move on? Don't let it be a roadblock!!
Good luck!
2007-01-23 02:39:12 · answer #6 · answered by ebay_convert 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all you should not hate anyone. That may be the core of the problem. By not seeing others as individuals and only as an object of your hatred, you cannot forgive them. This may have something more to do with the way you feel about yourself. It is always easier to hate than to love. But, by doing so we walk away with a better feeling about ourselves and others.
2007-01-29 07:44:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
because its a lot easier to hate them. the problem is that if you choose not to forgive them, the hatred will fester inside you like a desease and will never go away. You don't have to even tell the person you forgave them, they probably don't care anyway. But for your own Sanity, consider forgiving them in your own mind. Forgiveness here means that you will NEVER EVER want to bring up the issue again, it means that you have resolved it and put it to rest...even if the evil creep doesn't even know it, NOW you can go on merrily with your life.
2007-01-23 03:44:39 · answer #8 · answered by al b 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you should take the energy out on hating people. But I am going to give you some advice. You weight the pro's and con's. Then you ask yourself can you forget what happened to make you hate that person. I know that it is very difficult. Sometimes in life if you don't have to deal what that person then don't. If is is someone in your family then try. I wish you well.
2007-01-23 02:36:28 · answer #9 · answered by Jamonican 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
selfishness
because we will not forgive our selves. There for selfishness prevents us from forgiving another. The dicotomy of self. The dicotomy all dicotomies.
a contradicting statement that just may be true!
I believe it was ericlieus in around 400 bc stated ( will need help with name and date there, but not the quote)
" some times something is so unbelievable that the truth exscapes us."
2007-01-23 02:39:20 · answer #10 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be hard for you to forgive them because they hurt you and you may feel that if you give that person another chance they will burn you again..Now think about this,is God didn't forgive where would we be?He forgives all do why can't you?
2007-01-23 02:39:07 · answer #11 · answered by G 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋