Controversial Question!?

Question

Most everyone on here is well educated about their own bodies and how they ovulate, conception times, pregnancy etc.
I have a friend who has been going round and round with me about this question. Thought I would ask it on Yahoo and see what everyone thought.
I will use my pregnancy as an example. I had my last period on 7-19-06. It was a full period. Not anything NOT normal about it. It lasted 6 days. I got pregnant around the 3rd of August. I had an ultrasound and that date confirms with my LMP.
Anyways, my friend thinks you can still have your period a full blown period, with clots and cramps and the whole works and still get pregnant. She's told some people that I am farther along because I had a period. I think it's ridiculous and dumb. The ultrasound wouldn't lie like that. I trust it enough to not be off like 5 weeks. What do you think? It's getting annoying. I am enjoying my pregnancy and I know I am 26 weeks pregnant. Please advise me on what to say, I'm at a loss. Thanks.

Answer 1

During my wife's first pregnancy, the first ultrasound narrowed down the due date by 3 days (and ended up being correct.) At her 5 month ultrasound, the due date was still spot on. Besides, the dates you gave are pretty textbook, and especially if you know your own cycle.

I think it's rude that she's telling others that you're farther along with absolutely no expertise in medicine. It's not like she examined you. I'm assuming you already told her about the results of the ultrasound, so you have a few options:

1. Because she already invaded your privacy by sharing it with others, hand her the number of your OB/GYN (next time she brings it up) and say "I tell you what. You can give her a call and explain *your* theories on *my* pregnancy." You know she won't call. She'd feel too stupid and you will have made your point..... I hope.

2. You can propose a bet. Give yourself a span of 7 days before your due date and 10 days after. If she is off by 5 weeks then this time-frame will not seem strange- afterall, babies are rarely born on their due-dates, and are more likely to be a little late rather than early. You guys could bet money, or better yet, for her to help with chores and cooking around your house when baby does come.

Answer 2

Yes, I have heard of women having a period when they are pregnant, but they are generally lighter than normal. If there was any discrepancy on the gestational age of your baby, then there might be some question, but since your ultrasound confirms the age, then I would certainly believe that. Ultrasounds are used to confirm a gestational age of a fetus, especially if a woman has irregular periods. I believe at most they can be off by a week or so, but certainly not 5 weeks. I am having an ultrasound tonight, so I will be sure to ask the technician about discrepancies. If your question is still open tomorrow, I'll add to this answer. As far as your friend goes, some people believe what they want, so if she's not open to what your doctor has told you, then just ignore her comments. Don't stress over trying to make her believe what you know is true. Best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and baby.

Answer 3

Sounds like your friend just want to argue. Yes some people do go on to have a period but if you know your cycle and when you were tiring to get pregnant than you are obviously the expert here. Plus early ultrasound are fairly accurate at calculating the age of the fetus. They make monumental changes this early on an to be off by 5 Weeks this early is highly unlikely. A late ultrasound could be about that far off but not in this situation.

Tell your friend your due date and when she combates you on it tell her she will just have to wait and see and that enough talk about it. Plus play a game a t your shower were everyone gets to guess the baby's birth date, sex and weight an maybe when she sees everyone Else's realistic answers she will chill. Ignore Ignore Ignore it you are the mom and you know your body and if it make s you feel better plan on how you will get to say " I told you so"once the little one arrives.

There is also an on line game somewhere(It's been 3 years since I used it) that lets you invite family and friends to guess your due date weight sex and stuff and you can post updates on your pregnancy there to them, once the baby is born you type in the correct information and the program tallies it and list the "winners "by percentage. And you can post pictures and baby updates and family and friends can send well wishes. It was fun. I think its www.expectnet.com search it and see if you can find it.
Good Luck and enjoy.

Answer 4

My firend had periods all through her pregnancy. She didn't find out till she was almost 6 months. Thats when the baby was really starting to move and she was getting big then. Also my other friend was pregnant and didn't even know it til 71/2 months. You say yeah right, as I would but I happened. We kept asking her if she was and she said let me alone, I'm not but she was. With that sistuation we had to plan a very soon shower for her. Had no time to plan. Anyways it is not dumb that you could be futher along than the ultrasound is saying because ultrasounds are just esitmates. As for being off 5 weeks or so, is not very common, if at all with new scanning machines. I would tell your friend to just let you enjoys this pregnancy and stop bothering you. Good luck and wish you the best. Remember when your pregnant everyone else thinks they know everything and you know nothing. Been through it now for the 4th time.

Answer 5

I would ask her if she has a Doctorate. If she is an ordinary citizen with no medical agree, then she doesn't have a leg to stand on. However, when I was pregnant with my daughter now aged 21, I had a period every month for 7 months! I did have her 6 weeks early though. I know that you can get pregnant while on your period because I did. Nevertheless I would tell her that your Doctor has everything under control. Since you have already had an ultrasound then the baby has already been measured.

Answer 6

My OB told me that the ultrasound done within the first 13 weeks is the most accurate. Even more accurate than going by LMP.

I know how frustrating this can be. If it were me I would tell the person that they were getting on my nerves and to back off. That they should have gotten their medical degrees, and until that happens, I will listen to the more qualified person. (I could get away with that kind of stuff when I'm pregnant.) I guess I would probably just avoid them until after I had the baby (then you can say see I told you so.)

I hope everything works out and things get easier for you. Congrats.

Answer 7

Personally, I don't put a ton of faith into dating information drawn from ultrasounds. An ultrasound can be way off when it comes to measurements, which is how the dates are decided.

What I do have faith in, however, is a woman who has knowledge of her body and how it works. You say that your LMP was in July, and that it was a full period. I believe you. You know your body, your friend does not. You know your cycles, your periods and your sex life! You know when you got pregnant.

Your friend really doesn't know any of this. Now, why she feels the need to go round telling people when *she believes* you got pregnant is beyond me. It sounds like she is trying to cause trouble for you. Anyone who is taking any joy out of your pregnancy like this, well, that's a person you don't need in your life right now. You don't need stress, you don't need people gossiping about you, you don't need a *friend* who, for whatever reason, seems to be getting her jollies by telling people lies about you.

If she is going to go round telling tales about you, I would drop her. Maybe it's just me, but if she's going to tell stories about your pregnancy, about something so precious and so wonderful, she wouldn't be someone that I would want to share anything with.

Good luck.

Answer 8

You need to make it clear to your friend that the ultrasound is correct and she is wrong. Ultrasound date might be out be a couple of days but not by 5 weeks! Your friend is right, some people do have period while pregnant but I don't think this is the case with you.

Answer 9

Your friends is WRONG! For those of you who keep saying you can have an actual period are WRONG! You cannot have an actual period while pregnant, WHen your pregnant you dont ovulate, no ovulation no period. A period is to drain your mentrual blood, lining and eggs, which in pregnancy are needed to protect the fertilized egg or eggs. So there for you CAN NOT be pregnant and have your period. However you CAN have bleeding during pregnancy and THINK its your period, but it is only bleeding not an actual Menstral cycle. Heres is a link to read.
Please look things up and educate yourselves on these things before you answear a question with your opinion as fact.

http://www.babyhopes.com/articles/pregnantperiod.html

Answer 10

While it is possible to get pregnant and have a normal period, BUT that is not the norm and further more, excuse me for saying this, but where does your friend get off arguing with the doctor? You know your body, and even if you had the period and had gotten pregnant, you probably would have noticed some other symptoms, if you and your doctor thinking you got pregnant in August, than you did.