2007-01-23 02:16:15 · 18 answers · asked by xoxo 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try acting like a girlfriend instead of a wife.
2007-01-23 02:56:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you can always feed him slop until sex night. After a few days of cold cereal he will get the point Especially when the vibrator get's to rest on a nice juicy steak.
The better solution: When he enters the bedroom after he gets home be at the closet getting undressed when he ask you where you have been just smile and go take a shower or a bath. Pause at the mirror a bit and fix your hair and proceed to take your bath or shower and change into your bed clothes and go to bed and tell him that you can't talk you are too tired and his dinner is in the microwave (make sure it is a tv dinner.) and go to bed. Repeat this step for a month and don't give in to him ( No, sex what so ever be strong.) Then one day cook yourself up a darn good meal be in you night clothes and be clearing the dishes when he comes home and tell him that his dinner is in the microwave (another tv dinner.) Stop at a mirror play with your hair fix it a bit and smooth done the night gown and announce that you are going for a bath. If he wants to talk just say you are rather tired and you need to conserve your energies for tomorrow. (side notes make sure the kids eat good and if daddy ask them a questions make sure they tell him they don't know the answer and that mom's has been smiling a lot.) He will be mad and just remind him in 2 weeks yall can do the nasty if you aren't too tired out and can remember it.
2007-01-23 10:36:11 · answer #2 · answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know most of the answers on here are "initiate it yourself" or "jump on him" but I do that with my husband and he still doesn't respond. We have only been married two years so I can't imagine what it will be like when we reach nine. My husband is 11 years older than I am, but I still would think he'd be interested in sex. I don't know. Maybe it's just sex with me that isn't working for him. We used to be crazy and wild 5 times a week and then it just plummetted. I tried to get him to go to counseling, but he refuses. I wish I had a better answer for you. Just know you aren't the only one dealing with this. Sometimes I feel like I'm the only gal in the world that can jump on her man and he asks her to to leave him alone. :( Have you thought about some counseling? Good luck.
2007-01-23 11:40:14 · answer #3 · answered by bettygirl1128 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take him. Don't ask.
Keep in mind that if you are (or were) regularly turning him down he'll stop trying. Or maybe you did/said something that made him feel bad (like told him his weiner was too small or that he sucked at sex) so he won't bother trying.
Hit on him. Big time. Reach into his pants.
If he fights it/pushes you away - give it a bit (30 min or so) and then calmly ask him what the problem is. Tell him you love him and his problems are your problems and you want to help so you can get back to a place where you are both happier.
2007-01-23 10:40:15 · answer #4 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can completely relate to your problem. I have been married for 15 years, and have been known to go close to a month with out sex. After talking with my husband, discovered he just wasn't as "turned on" with me as he use to be. (I have put on some weight) Intiating it worked for me, but wasn't very satisfying. I have now learned to accept it, and just make the best of it when It happens. when it has been a while, I leave subtle hints, such as notes, or suggestions, or even a porn picture on his computer. He usually comes looking for it. The best suggestion I got, was to show him what I want by example. It can take awhile, and can be tiring, but it works. Keep at it.
2007-01-23 14:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by dmarie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk with him about it. Maybe he's stressed from work and because of the stress has lost interest in sex.
Sit down and talk with him and ask him why he isn't as interested in sex with you. Tell him your not asking to start a fight, but that you would like to know, share your concerns with him.
If he's a loving husband he will want to try and work on this with you.
2007-01-23 10:26:26 · answer #6 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You might have to initiate it, jump in the shower with him and surprise him, or when he gets home, be wearing something sexy, and have him initiate it. If he can come home for lunch, surprise him at the door naked, you can be very creative. I sometimes don't understand guys (some) sometimes when they have a woman right in front of them and they don't advantage of making love every chance they get, even if its a quickie, or a longie.
2007-01-23 10:24:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wish I could tell you but my wife allows it once every 3-4 months.
2007-01-23 10:32:38 · answer #8 · answered by zax_fl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Initiate it. It's pretty simple. If you show an interest, he probably will. Men get tired of being told no, not right now, or whatever. Get excited about it and jump him. He'll be very delighted.
2007-01-23 10:27:26 · answer #9 · answered by Shannon L - Gavin's Mommy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Quit bit_hing, whining and complaining. You all do it, just admit it. You make us guys feel like crap and then sex is supposed to make it all better. It works for a while, but it gets old fast.
2007-01-27 08:23:11 · answer #10 · answered by The 5 pound Robin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋