my problem is that i just cant bear rudeness not even 0.001%. help me in knowing how i could deal with this problem.
2007-01-23 02:15:37 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Other - Cultures & Groups
Rudeness in my opinion simply derives from unhappiness in people.
I think there is kind of bitterness in people when they see someone is happy in so many way, shape and form. Unhappy people naturally become so uneasy and anxious for something that are happy and free around them. And they really don't know how to deal with their unknown unexplainable eerie feeling inside their mind. Since they don't know how to deal with their own feeling inside their mind, they sort of like 'protect' themselves by being rude and harsh towards others.
Unconsciously, unhappy people like it when everybody else unhappy. Misery loves company. But try not to take rudeness too seriously, because at the of the end you can't let any of it mean anything to you, because it doesn't really matter. Just try to keep in mind that misery always loves company.
The question now is: do you want to accompany misery? As simply as that.
2007-01-23 04:16:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like you, I too have a hard time dealing with rudeness, but I think I probably have just a little bit less trouble with it than you do, although probably not much less.
At any rate, I've been thinking about this a little bit and I reckon our rudeness is still a part of our instinctive behaviour, a design flaw that I hope may one day evolve out of the human race.
Sadly, it would seem that this is the effect prolonged peace and wealth have on people. I'll wager that if you look back in history, you will always find a period of peace, followed by a steady increase in intolerance and general anti-social behaviour and rudeness, a large scale war, many people die, peace finally returns after a while, everyone swears they will never forget what happened during the war... and then the circle repeats itself.
I'd ask overly rude people: don't you have anything better to do than to hurt other ppl's feelings? The answer generally is no. There's no reason to value other people or their uniqueness anymore and for some people, that easily leads to a decline in moral standing.
Sad really.
Equally sad is what happens when you try to find a solution for this problem you're having. People will start telling you you need to toughen up or will advice you to go to an assertiveness training or something, like the problem lies with you. But you're not the one going around stepping on people's feelings and just generally ruining the atmosphere for kinder people, are you? Why should you be the one to change just to cope with a small number of uncultivated yahoos?
The only thing you can really do is just keep faith that there is still good in the world and that if you keep your eyes open, you will see it somewhere.
Be well.
2007-01-23 22:26:39 · answer #2 · answered by xane76 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What causes the rudeness, I wonder? Perhaps the person perceived as being rude is in the midst of trying circumstances, or of another culture.
On a recent visit to France, for example, I learned that the Parisians are accustomed to receiving a courteous greeting before being engaged in conversation. Here in New York, we are used to people dashing up to us and saying such things as "Hey, where's the E train?" If I were to approach someone in Paris in this manner I would be regarded as rude.
Generally speaking, as long as my attention is on myself and my opinion of what is correct, I will probably be disappointed in my fellow creatures' behavior. If I try to be of help to them, I'll likely be a lot more comfortable.
2007-01-23 02:24:04 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey, the next time someone is rude to you give them a great big teddy bear hug. This is called the 'HUG THERAPY' Believe me soon no one will be rude to you.
2007-01-23 07:12:46 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh! it's simplest. Behave rude with others and observe how they react to your rudeness. That is the parameter of bearing rudeness.
2007-01-23 03:50:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oi
2017-03-09 14:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
rudeness is first of all a weakness.it is an expression of cowardness.don't fear of it. try 2 understand those who have rudeness.avoid direct contact.oppose .
2007-01-23 02:30:21 · answer #7 · answered by myil 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Follow Mahatma Gandhi.You can not correct others forcefully, correct yourself.Guide ,motivate others to be polite as are you.
2007-01-23 02:46:22 · answer #8 · answered by thakursingh k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just ignore a rude person, and don't see his/her face at all
2007-01-24 20:59:15 · answer #9 · answered by manasi r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ignore the comments and then, if possible, avoid the person.
2007-01-23 02:23:37 · answer #10 · answered by ijcoffin 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋