2007-01-23 02:12:05 · 97 answers · asked by Ditzy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I didn't snoop, the phone was there and the message was on the screen, then I looked. It is not explicit or anything, but lots of xxx's and smiley faces and miss you, etc. I have never had any reason to be worried, but I am now.
2007-01-23 02:26:55 · update #1
Yes, you should talk things over with him. Make sure everything is all right. Don't go behind his back, because it will make him feel like you don't trust him if it turns out that he isn't doing anything wrong.
2007-01-23 02:14:41 · answer #1 · answered by Fiona M 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yes l would but don't expect an honest answer from him especially if he is doing the wrong thing by you. Also he will try and put the blame on you for not trusting him. Why did you check his messages in the first place ? Did you suspect that he was up to no good ? A woman's intuition is a very powerful thing and usually very accurate. Go with your gut feelings. I would also suggest that you ring the other woman and make her aware that you know what's going on, l did, it didn't change anything to begin with but it certainly did in the long run and made me feel a lot better. she will know that she is not getting away with anything and it will certainly make her rethink her scheming ways. That was how l found out about my husband cheating and l too had always trusted him before then. Everything is fine now, but it was certainly a rocky road for a while. We both love each other and are working through our problems. Best of luck to you, l hope everything works out in your favour.
2007-01-23 02:31:27 · answer #2 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think the messages are of a personal nature and non-work related, you should bring up your concerns. Otherwise, this will be bugging you and you'll silently resent what you think could be occuring. Inappropriate contact with a member of the opposite sex through whatever means is a topic that should be discussed between two people in a marriage. Communication is an important ingredient in any relationship. You shouldn't try to suppress your concerns and/or questions as it will come through in other ways. Just try to remain calm when you ask him about it so that he feels free to talk openly and you'll find out the truth.
2007-01-23 02:22:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
F 'in "A" you should be worried and confront his cheating ***.
No married man should be getting those type of messages. If he's getting the "xoxoxo" and "miss you", he's already banged her.
Get access to the cell phone records (if you two have a joint cell account). If you both have cells with the same company and they are rolled into one joint bill, simply go to their site and set up an account. One logged in, you can see just how many cell calls and text messages he has received. He may be able to delete them from the phone, but once a call is made, it is cataloged with the cell company.
You should say something AND you should be concerned,
2007-01-23 16:42:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off, why were you snooping through your hubby's phone messages? Has he cheated on you before, or are you just insecure? Have you cheated on him and are now thinking that he might cheat on you? Either way, the decision to say something is up to you and you alone, but be aware that this could make him a little pissed at you for snooping through his phone messages and perhaps start an argument. Good luck with that.
2007-01-23 02:16:50 · answer #5 · answered by dragondave187 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i would but before you do say you had a phone call from 'say her name' and who is she and see what he says (act like it dont bother you and am just wondering, if he says anything to her and she denies it he will either do one of two things
1: think she is a lyin cow and causing trouble in trying to let you know and end it with her anyway
2: if he believes the other woman he will think the only way you must of found out about her is too look at his phone but he will ask you about it and all you do is stick to your guns and say 'no she called here asking for you' and at the end of the day, if you had looked at his phone you would of read things you wouldnt of liked and certainly wouldnt be still being nice to him, so once again he'll turn it around to be her lyin and causing trouble.
but thats if it is anything to worry about, wen you ask him who she is he may say ots a cousin or someone and you'll then understand why this person said miss you and it could still mean nothing.
good luck x x
2007-01-23 03:16:18 · answer #6 · answered by sweetness 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two things come to mind:
1. What caused you to review your husband's phone?
If there is doubt in your mind that your spouse is being
unfaithful,. you need to talk to him about it and maybe
suggest marriage therapy for you both.
2. What was the topic of the messages?
If they were from a co-worker saying "Bob, lets meet for lunch and talk about the Harrison account." then chances are that
your spouse was communicating work related information
via text messages.
However, if they went something like this "Bob, I bought a new
night gown and can't wait for our next business trip together 143"
then review option 1 and talk to him about your marriage and
how it can be improved and or put back on track.
A marriage is a living thing. It needs love, attention and most
of all effort from both parties to grow. It only dies if one or both
of you neglect it.
2007-01-23 02:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by jrhughes3068 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What were they? I found "I love my family but I really want to be with you" on my hubbys phone! And remarks to another girl about a nice butt. So I checked his email and found even more..... That was a rough few months! I talked to him, and contacted the women and got to the bottom of it. He felt very unloved by me for a while so he started to drift away. But after that he realized that he loved me and I love him, and with God, we are doing great now. He didn't have an affair but I think it would have gotten to that if I didn't jump in when I did. I would look for more evidence if I were you.
2007-01-23 02:18:47 · answer #8 · answered by stephanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
God,he's got one foot out the Door,talk to him now before it's all to late,burying your head in the sand will not make it or her go away.
If yous need your Marriage to carry on, communication is the thing
At least you will know where you stand
Sorry this is happening to you,but your not alone,I'm going through the same thing,i hope you get it sorted
Best of luck xxx
2007-01-27 02:20:20 · answer #9 · answered by live life 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should say something. If there is a number associated with the message, I would call that first. Your husband would ask you about it if he found it on your phone. Confront him and make him answer you quick. The longer he hesitates, the guiltier he is. Good luck and GOD bless.
2007-01-23 02:22:39 · answer #10 · answered by cookie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm just wondering why he left it out in the first place ?? he cant be worried about you seeing it then !! maybe there is nothing in it . this happened to me once, my boyfriend left his phone with me while he was at work and trying to sell his car. he got a text but there was also another text which said" thx for last weekend it was really kind of you and oh yes i did it, lots of love, Trish " my boyfriend was in Spain working and i rang the hotel and questioned him he said oh it was my aunt who ran a marathon for cancer research and i sponsored her, she ran it last weekend !!! what a fool i looked and when i saw the aunt she laughed at me for worrying !!!so im saying just be careful don't rush in you dont want him to think you dont trust him either !!
2007-01-23 03:50:32 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋