Going through tough breakup. As difficult as things were, we were able to work through and agree on a mutual beneficial parenting plan. Only had to have lawyers review but appeared to be formality.
Now somehow, parenting plan is not ok anymore, finanicial negotiations havent even commenced yet, and my wife and me are deteriorating further day by day. Each taking hard stance as per lawyers instructions, and everything seems to be going to the shitter...No trust anymore, both walking on eggshelss at home all the time, etc etc.
We both agreed on prenting plan, we both agreed to split all the belongings and bank accounts up, only need to work on home and one other issue.
But ever since lawyers were introduced to the situation, emotionally and future friendship has taken major toll.
All advice we get from lawyers are almost designed to cause conflict and pain.....
2007-01-23 02:09:40 · 10 answers · asked by Kaboom 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Lawyers are in it for the money, the more you two fight the longer the divorce drags on and the more money they get. You should sit down with your spouse and talk through it again, when you come to an agreement you are both happy with you should also agree not to take further advice from your lawyers. Your money would be better spent on your children than to lawyers. It sounds like you were on good terms, so there is a good chance you can talk this through.
2007-01-23 02:21:30 · answer #1 · answered by QT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course what lawyers do causes conflict and pain!!!!! --- hon, it's all about money, and the more rattled they keep the two of you, the more buckos they make. Fire them both. Then find a mediating attorney -- one that you both use. Look under Attorneys -- divorce -- mediating. You two already know what you want, and all the mediator does is fill out the paper work and file it... later if you two have differences, again agree to solve it yourself, and have the attorney adjust the papers....usually somewhere between $75-$300..... If you get into an adversarial stance, the only ones who come away with anything, are the two attorneys.. and they will drag it on as long as the two of you don't wake up.... About $6000 each!!!! ("what do they call 500 attorneys at the bottom of the ocean?????" ans: a good start)
2007-01-23 03:22:39 · answer #2 · answered by April 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know what you're going through....been there! I compliment you both on trying to remain friendly through these stressful times. Attorneys will cause you more grief and will not represent your true feelings half the time. It's their job (their income) to specialize in taking you and your wife's life savings and put you in debt at the same time.
They could care less about the emotional part of divorce.
Why would either of you need an attorney if you are sensible and fair about dividing your assets. YOU DO NOT NEED AN ATTORNEY, you need a "dissolution".
Your friendly people at the local Staples Store will help you buy the necessary forms (less than $10) that can easily be filled out. Here's what you do:
1. Get the right forms and you both fill them out together.
2. Call and set up a court date
3. Go before the judge and he will ask
each of you "Do you want to divorce (name)?"
This takes about 20 to 30 minutes and is called a "dissolution"..
When I went through it, the total cost was $250 paid from our joint checking. Good luck and trust me you will get through this.
2007-01-23 03:38:39 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The lawyer is just trying to get the best settlement for you and he is making the money while you and your wife are loosing money. If you 2 don't agree before you go before the judge, the judge will decide what is fair. Now who do you want making that decision?(Next the lawyer is going to ask for a mediator and that will cost you money again before it goes to the judge)
2007-01-23 02:32:02 · answer #4 · answered by justme 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
GET A LAWYER AND KEEP A LAWYER. There is no such thaing as a good divorce and one party will always try to get the other screwed, it's the nature of the beast. Divorce is bad, you MUST protect yourself and fight for your children.
2007-01-23 02:39:06 · answer #5 · answered by stratplayer1967 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no need for an attorney if u have settled things, lawyers are only in it for the money, and try to get people arguing so they can get more money out of u. an attorney is only needed if the couple can't agree.
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2016-10-15 23:48:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are very useful at taking vast amounts of money from you and causing friction that lasts a lifetime. You also tell them one thing and they say a totally different thing at court. I hope that helps.
2007-01-23 02:35:57 · answer #8 · answered by Closed Down 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately that happens sometimes....have a conversation with her and come to an agreement about things and then present to your lawyer...remember ..they are working for you...good luck
2007-01-23 02:19:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
They make great fertilizer in your garden. Of course they have to be composted first.
2007-01-23 02:17:33 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋