why is it that mom's end up doing everything for the kids, clean the house, wash the clothes and dishes, are in charge of paying the bills, blah, blah blah....yeah I'm bitching, but why?
2007-01-23 01:57:17 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I guess it's just in the way we are made or programed. It has always been a woman's job to give birth, raise, clean and cloth their children. As women can do many things at once and are a lot better at coping with everyday pressures, it is only natural that we would be expected to do almost everything that needs doing for our families. Give yourselves a pat on the back ladies, we are by far the stronger sex !!! So go ahead, do all the bitching you want to, you have earned that right !!!
2007-01-23 02:15:45 · answer #1 · answered by kazzadanni 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's not the way it is in my house, both my wife and I do things for the kids, we both clean the house and wash dishes and clothes, and we both pay the bills.
Sorry that you feel like your getting stuck with all the housework. I think that mom's need a break especially if they are home all the time with the kids, they need some me time away from the kids, and some quality adult time away from the kids.
2007-01-23 10:22:57 · answer #2 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mom's don't always have to do every thing. I'm a mom, but my kids clean their own room, their bathroom, and do the dishes. I do everything else. And I started them about four years old. Nothing major, just picking up their toys, then the chores got bigger as they got older. I know longer have to deal with "Mom! Where's my shoes, or homework, or what ever." They know where it is cause they put it up.
2007-01-23 10:09:06 · answer #3 · answered by Ydua R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Because they don't make the kids responsible for doing the chores. I was a single parent for many years and the one thing that I learned was that I had to make my children responsible for doing their own chores. This prepares them for becoming an adult. When I was first divorced, I did everything for them. Probably out of guilt knowing they were going through a rough time because of the divorce. I woke up one day after realizing that I was not doing them any favors by doing everything for them. I started slowly..they were all responsible for cleaning their rooms. One would do dishes one day and the other would have to sweep and mop. etc....
2007-01-23 10:06:01 · answer #4 · answered by saved_by_grace 7 · 3⤊ 1⤋
I don't know about that. If he works and you stay at home is it a big deal?
If you both work you both need to share the other jobs. BUT I bet you that YOU don't mow the lawn, do heavy lifting (why do women think men are endless fountains of strength? yeah we can move heavy stuff but then we are tired...) fix busted stuff in the house, and take care of disasters (busted toilet, overflowing garbage disposal etc) or stay up driving all night while he sleeps in the seat beside you.
Do you do those things too? If so he's a lazy jerk but otherwise maybe sometimes you have your jobs and he has his.
2007-01-23 10:06:19 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Not all moms have to do it all ... I dont... My husband pays the bill and he is in charge of the finances and he helps me around the house alot... He usually does most of the cooking... I do dishes and so does he we combine our work and efforts together around the house and we help each other alot.....
2007-01-23 10:37:27 · answer #6 · answered by Lady Hewitt 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you're just tired, and perhaps weren't ready for all of the responsibilities involved in being a mother. The only good news is that the kids will one day grow up, and then you'll have some free time.
2007-01-23 10:01:53 · answer #7 · answered by grandm 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
we are better at it. when a man is in charge of the bills, and you are barely making it financially, men cant take it. you will fight fight fight. and forget having sex...it also depends on what a womans employment status. my bf and i both work full time, and i have three kids and he has one - we share everything rather fairly bills, cooking, cleaning, laundry, taking care of the kids, etc. i am very lucky i know.
2007-01-23 10:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by wendyhannan0130 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's the way life goes. I would tell him that you need some help getting things done, because you get tired too. Straighten him out girl. I get aggravated to sometimes... I'm a single Mom, and I know how hard it gets.
2007-01-23 10:06:21 · answer #9 · answered by In love with Life 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Most man r lazy n selfish, tat's y. They wan 2 built a family together but didnt wan 2 maintain it together.
2007-01-23 10:19:04 · answer #10 · answered by Joy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋