Any one have an unwanted pregnancy and miss the life they had before the baby?

Question

'They' all say that when you have a baby, even if you never wanted one, that your opinion changes and that your kid becomes the best thing in your life and you don't miss the great life you had when you were childfree. Are they right or wrong?

I am not pregnant!!! and have never had a child. I'm trying ot decide whether to get my tubes tied because I don't ever want one.

Answer 1

I have 4 children,and miss the freedom I once had...but never regret having my kids.

Answer 2

I had a child when I was 15 and another when I was 18. I am now nearing 30 with 2 boys. I love my life, it's great. I would not change it for the world. My advice would be if you have the choice wait.... If you don't have a choice and you are already in the situation I think you are. It is not the end of the world. I hold down a full time job, and am a full time single mother to 2 adorable boys. I own a car and have my own mortgage. It is hard work, but every time I get down in the dumps I just have to look at the faces of my sons and realise the gift of life I have in them. You don't have to stop living but you will at times feel suffocated. Maybe want to rebel... I had my fair share of wanting my teenage years back. I had very little input from the father. not the best way to start life at 15 but I damn well made the most of it. Everybody has choices in life, whatever choice you make just make sure you hold your head up high and never give up. Life will always be a battle and there will always be people ready to judge you whatever you do. You don't have to be a statistic. Good luck

Answer 3

I had two miscarriages in the past and was devastated. Eventually, I gave birth to a daughter who is almost 10. Three years later, I gave birth to a son and felt my family was complete. Two and a half years later, I became pregnant again (while on the pill). I didn't want any more children nor did my husband plus we couldn't afford another one. I didn't want an abortion but my husband told me I would have to since he was the breadwinner. I made the appointment, had an ultrasound at 6 1/2 weeks pregnant and scheduled the appointment for an abortion. I cried and cried not wanting to kill the little innocent life growing inside of me. The morning of the appointment, the doctor called and said my insurance wouldn't cover the cost of an abortion and I needed to pay $500 cash if I wanted it done. We didn't have that kind of money so we had the baby. I was so relieved. I am so happy I had my precious daughter, who looks exactly like me and is as sweet. Abortion is wrong. If you can't be responsible then don't have sex.

Answer 4

I think everyone misses the life they once had a little, but look at your child(ren). They completely depend on you and love you for who you are. They do not judge you and they look up to you. It is an unconditional love that can never be replaced. It is not easy growing up and moving into reality but it is life. If you need a break, ask someone to babysit so you can get away for a couple days. That might help. But just remember you have someone completely innocent that needs you! Focus on what you have, not what you don't have. There are so many people who can't have children and would love to be in your place even though parenting is one of the hardest things ever. Good Luck!

Answer 5

They are not regretting. Before a person is alive and before you know that person (old lady, baby, teenager etc.) you have no feelings for him/her. Once it's there and you got to know him/her you don't wish for her/him to disappear. Just think of a sister or a friend. People in general don't wish that other other people never existed, if we thought this way then killing another human being would be really easy for us. I think a lot of parents miss the carefree life they had before their kids came along but it is wrong to feel that kind of thing against an innocent child who's never asked to be born. I don't think parents dare to admit that they wish they had that carefree life again because it would be viewed as immoral (so even if they feel like that they would not admit it to you here). My advice is that people should only commit to a child if they sincerely wish that and they want their life to change.

Answer 6

Having a baby would mean, commitment, time, energy, money, patience and a lot more. It sure is great to have a kid.But you and your man are the ones who need to decide when the right time is. Every one would want to give their advice. Go for it only when you think you are ready as it is only you who is going to take care.
Remember you will never be ready . new things pop up often. Priorities change. But try not to postpone it wherein you age and put you and child to risk.

Answer 7

Ma'm, I have three Children. And Two Grandchilren. And I can say, without ANY hesitation. You are in for the biggest awakiening of your Young Life. You are gonna be so amazed at how wonderful Life can really be. Once you have someone, depending on you. someone that believes in you. And someone that wants you to be happy. If this Angel, isn't wanted. Be sure to give it to ones that can give him/her/ the Life that they want. As well as deserve.

Answer 8

You may miss certain aspects of your life before kids, but having kids brings so much more to your life that it makes it so much more worthwhile.

Answer 9

you should had listen to everyone. you lay down and got the baby you need to raise it.you must had been very young when you got pregant. you are responsible for the baby now .baby has to sulfer because of you.

Answer 10

right for some people and wrong for others wrong for me i cannot imagine being without them dunno where i would be now if it wasnt for my kids