I feel that it is... According to the Bible somewhere in the book of Matthew it says that if you look upon someone to lust after them then you already have commited adultery in your heart and mind. Same as doing it in person in God's eyes. Pornography is a sin and should not be watched at all or looked at.... Pornography is all about lust adultery and sick ways of sex and affairs... It is not about love and anything wholesome at all.... Do you ever see anyone being true to anyone in pornography and any real love there? I think not.
2007-01-23 02:21:09
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answered by Lady Hewitt 6
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I don't consider myself self righteous, but yes i do feel it is a form of infidelity,your lusting and when men watch porn, if they watch it all the time they get hooked on it and it is hard for them to have real intimatcy with a real person. And why lust after something you can't have, and news break-- those so called beautiful women on there have alot of work done on their bodies, so you are really lusting over fake wax people. And no kind of physical or emotional infidelity is good with me. It's all about true love, if they feel they have to go outside the marriage then they don't need to be with me, lol.
2007-01-23 01:53:01
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answered by sweetemtation_123 4
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It depends, if he's using porn as a replacement for sex or intimacy, then he's cheating....his wife/gf/ lover out of a fulfilling, satisfying sexual relationship.
Yes, it's just a movie, but if he needs porn, or prefers it to the real thing, he's got issues. I wouldn't want a man who preferred to look at a chick he'll never touch instead of the real,live, breathing, warm, sexy woman in bed with him.
If you're getting a physical or emotional need met by someone when you should be getting that need met by your wife or significant other, then you're cheating.
Everyone knows where the line is, and everyone knows when they've crossed it.
If you and your wife/g/f are watching porn together and you both enjoy it, nothing wrong with it, if you're watching it and keeping it in perspective as it's just a hot babe in a movie, there's nothing wrong with it, but like I said, if it's a substitute for the real thing, when there is a warm, willing partner waiting in the other room, then it's cheating. Because you're cheating them out of a part of you, a part of the relationship that should be shared with each other.
2007-01-23 01:51:19
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answered by Angeleyes 3
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First of all, I have a few problems with your wording. I don't "need" porn -- nobody does. Nobody would die if it ceased to exist. Furthermore, nobody would die if all sex stopped completely. Sex is not a need. It is a drive, however, stronger in some, weaker in others, non-existent in a minority too large to be ignored. It would be more accurate to ask, "So, what is the desire to watch pornography?" That said, pay attention now, because I am about to make a statement that many people find incomprehensible: I both want to have sex with women other than my wife, AND I want not to do so. Every day, whether in real life, on TV, or in the movies, I see attractive women and experience an involuntary emotional reaction called lust. Every day, however, I do not act on my lust to try to get those women to have sex with me. I made a vow to be faithful to my wife, and I both take that vow seriously and understand the importance of the institution of marriage and the importance of fidelity within it. "Your wife should be enough for you; you shouldn't want sex with other women." I don't want sex with other women. "But you just said that you do." I said I both do and do not. Accept and understand all of that sentence, not just one part of it, or you cannot understand my point of view. So where does porn relate to this? Porn arouses the sensation of lust I described when seeing attractive women. And that's it. It's like masturbating to the mental image of the checkout girl at the MacDonald's today, but better by being more visually stimulating, more varied, and more sexualized. Many of the females here might then assert, "You shouldn't need a fantasy girl in your mind when you're having sex with your wife." To that I can rightfully respond that, no, I don't need it. So why do I occasionally fantasize about others? Remember that part where I said I do want to have sex with women other than my wife? You can "should" all you want all over what other people do, but it doesn't change the fact that I do feel lust. If I felt no lust, I wouldn't have married at all, probably. And telling me that I "should" stop feeling lust for women other than my wife may make sense to you, but it does not, can not, change the reality of my involuntary emotional response.
2016-05-24 00:38:41
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answered by ? 4
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Porn isn't an affair, it is an addiction, and as such, is like any other addiction.... Addicts are emotionally unavailable for a relationship. They are already IN a relationship, it just isn't with the one they are married to or in a committed relationship with. Of all the addictions, it is the one least treatable...any counselor will tell you that they have better luck with alcohol, gambling, nicotine, etc., Porn? If someone is spending almost every waking hour in Fantasy land rather than with the real thing, that , hon, is a personality defect...addiction No one falls in love in the real sense with a porn person in the computer.
2007-01-23 01:47:35
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answered by April 6
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because porn is not the same a emotional affair involves a real person Porn involves a TV, picture, magazine... how could one even think that they are nearly alike , OK, an emotional affair is taking your love,stress,problems time, emotions and pushing them toward the other person instead of your husband wife ect. porn is not so involved its merely getting off getting excited.. what ever it does not involve real people only one real person the one who is watching.. but all this considered its up to you and how you feel about these issues the respect you have for your wife or husband , .. I don't know i am just the type that feel that there is a big difference between the two ..
2007-01-23 01:49:35
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answered by Anonymous
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Wow, this is an intersting thing. I never really thought about that. I think that these things should always be addressed case by case though. If a man wants to watch porn and his other half is fine by it then fine, but if she isnt...it should stop. I dont know why, but I feel like emotions are more important though. They seem more stable and constant to me. I dont know.
Id have to disagree with both I suppose.
2007-01-23 01:42:04
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answered by t_r_moore18 2
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As far as I am concerned, "emotional infidelity" is having an emotional connection. Talking to and confiding your deepest thoughts and feelings with a memeber of the other sex. I dont think there is anything emotional about porn... My husband and I watch porn together all of the time. And I dont think finding other people attractive is cheating... it is human nature.
2007-01-23 01:41:53
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answered by Anonymous
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I believe so, here's Dr. Phils view on pornography and it's also mine.
It is not OK behavior. It is a perverse and ridiculous intrusion into your relationship. It is an insult, it is disloyal and it is cheating.
Consider how it makes your partner feel. If it makes your partner feel ugly, hurt, deceived, lied to or inadequate, then it needs to stop. If it is eroding your relationship, it's gone too far.
Pornography isn't real, it's a fantasy. It's makeup, beauty lenses, hair extensions, camera angles, lighting and silicone! It's also somebody's daughter who has taken a really, really wrong turn. She's demeaning herself, debasing herself, humiliating herself and she's being exploited by people who are funded by you. It is a sick, demented, twisted world. It's not healthy, it's not natural and it's not normal.
Viewing Internet pornography or engaging in cybersex is a short step to taking cheating to the next level.
2007-01-23 09:31:41
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answered by me 6
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What a question anytime something takes your focus away from your partner that is a bad thing. When you commited yourself you became one with your partner.
But here is the long and short of it. Why don't you ask your partner and not try to chicken out by asking the self righteous people of YA? Smells like fear and a chicken IMHO.
2007-01-23 01:44:36
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answered by calmlikeatimebomb 6
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