My separated roommate spent the last 3 days with his wife and daughter. He came back one night to our apartment because she didn't want him staying there (he stayed with her the other two).
He talked in circles. He told me that we don't have a future. Then he said that somedays he thinks they can work it out, other days he doesn't. He told me how great I am and then said he wanted to be with me and said "what am I going to do?".
He then talked about the financial aspect of it all. He actually wrote down a list of all of our expenses and showed that he couldn't afford to live here if they get a divorce. (he's getting a pay cut soon). He said he's afraid of being bankrupt. Is it just the money, or is this another lame excuse? What would happen if I got a good job and could cover the bills so he could pay alimony?
2007-01-23 01:14:43 · 9 answers · asked by torn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look this is amazingly a typical situation these days. To say the money isnt important is stupid these days. In my opinion your partner is caught with the money delema. Children are a real concern as they grow older and older the expenses increase accordingly I know as I have 4 children to two different wemen.
I am now living with a third woman who luckly is wealthy and Iam able to support all my childen comfortably with my own earnings. My New partner actually met My ex wife and the children and is involved with the extra burden this carries. You may need to involve yourself in his children also in a way to save your relationship.
Sorry darlin but you just have to accept that your man has serious finacnial concerns which will always affect his freedom and life style with yourself.
Good Luck
Hope the little i wrote helps you in your situation
2007-01-23 01:27:28 · answer #1 · answered by Interestingvariation 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-15 23:47:14 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
His wife kicked him out and it sounds as if he is now trying to make things work out with her. Most married men stay with their wives and kids, it is for many reasons, and money could be one of them but it is not all of it. As he told you, there is no future for you and him, he is telling you the truth. His excuses were only a way of him holding on to you in case things did not work out with his wife. Anyway if he can betray his wife he surely can betray you. Please maintain your self respect and do not let him con you into supporting him. Better to let him go now and get someone who will be free to love you only. You deserve better than he has to offer. If he really wanted to be with you, he would do anything to be with your, even if he has to take on two jobs, so see the truth as painful as it may be. Next time do not get involved with a married man, it is not worth it. My best to you!
2007-01-23 01:47:51 · answer #3 · answered by pictureshygirl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he is staying with her because divorce would mean alimony, loss of assetts, he may want to be with u but also has obligations to her. so he is slowly disconnecting from u, it has alot to do with money and assetts. he may think it just isn't worth it. even if u do get a job and can pay for his alimony, your just buying his love, your investing too much on a married man, who may not get a divorce anyway.
2007-01-23 01:42:03 · answer #4 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey he sounds like a LOSER! I would throw his butt to the curb! You don't need him! You have made it on your own till now! If he is going back and forth to his soon to be ex wife then he isn't the right man for you! He sounds like a BIG baby.
My brother is going through something like this right now with his soon to be ex and she is just like your "roommate". My brother finally WOKE up and realized she was just playing him for a fool!
Sounds like he is playing you in the same way!
Good luck!
2007-01-23 01:21:03 · answer #5 · answered by princessbummer 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little of both.Tell him to hit the bricks and save yourself some problems on down the road.
2007-01-23 01:19:12 · answer #6 · answered by Jim C 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh honey....don't go there...do not get into a situation where you are supporting him...that is bad business....he is going to go back to his family ...it doesn't matter what the reason is....make a clean break and send him packing ...you will end up the loser in this trust me....good luck to you
2007-01-23 01:18:43 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
right now, he is a married man. that should tell you something. you don't want him to support, do you?
2007-01-23 01:28:53 · answer #8 · answered by sinned 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont do that.....geesh!
2007-01-23 01:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by Emily 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋