If your spouse were to die, would you get remarried?

Question

Just curious to see how you all think about this? And have you and your spouse discussed this?

My wife and I have, and we have both felt that we would want each other to be happy and to remarry if one of us died.

These are great answers everyone.

I can understand where you all are coming from, those who say yes you would, or some who say no you wouldn't.

I think I would want to, but would wait a while. And whoever I would marry I would hope that my kids would accept that woman on their own terms. I wouldn't try to make my kids accept them.

Answer 1

We have talked about it. We are still young (33/32) so if one were to die the other would have a long life still ahead of them.

I would. My wife says she wouldn't. I don't understand why. She says she could never love another. Romantic, yes, but I have a hard time believing it. I believe (and hope) she could love another if I were to die. I wouldn't want her to be unhappy for 40-50 years just because she felt she owed my dead body something.

I would give it a few years and then seek out another.

Hopefully by the time one of us dies we are both real real old and there is little life for the other to live alone.

I DO think this is a great question. I also think people need to know what they are getting into when they marry someone who's husband or wife died, as it is different from a divorce for sure. You need to contend with the fact that your new spouse still and always will (although obsession is bad) cherish the memory of their past love. You shouldn't be jealous of it, but I'm sure it's hard not to sometimes.

I remember someone who called Dr. Laura - a woman who divorced her husband later married a guy (about 40) who's wife of 16 years and five children died suddenly about 4 years before. She was mad because he still had a few family pictures around the house with her in them (the kids still all lived with him), their wedding album etc. It's not like he had a seven-foot portrait of her in the living room, although there was one fairly big family picture of them with the kids, but it was somewhat out of the way. She wanted them all thrown away. What a monster.

Answer 2

We've talked about it and we both feel the same way, our marriage is so good, and so loving, it would be hard to not want that again, but we also both are realistic enough to realize that sometimes lightening doesn't strike twice.
Remarrying after a death doesn't diminish the first marriage, we both think it shows how really good the first marriage was, so good that you looked for the same qualities and wanted to find them again, but the person would have to be very, very special for either of us to marry again, someone who would love us unconditionally, yet someone who would understand, that our first love was the greatest love we'd ever known, and would always, always have a piece of our heart.
Impossible to replace each other, but possible to hold a different, but just as special, place in our heart and life.
Great question!!

Answer 3

It's always hard to move on or picture your spouse with someone else. I think for this reason alone couples have a hard time talking about it. But, yes, I think I would get remarried if I was lucky enough to find love again. I don't think my husband (we've only been married for a year so we haven't really had this discussion) would want me to spend the rest of my life mourning him. I know I would want him to move on and be happy.

Answer 4

I am 60 years old and I have been married to the same woman for 36 years now. My wife thinks that I should find someone should she pass on, but what she fails to realize, I do not want anyone else when she is gone (I would always compare the next one to her and they would come up short). I have no problem with her finding someone else, but I am pretty sure she feels the same as I do. We have plenty of Grandkids to keep me busy and to help extend my life span without terrorizing another woman. The bottom line is, we both want the other to be happy whatever it takes, and who knows, I might change my mind should the time ever come, but for now, I'll enjoy the woman I fell in love with and not worry about the future what if's.

Answer 5

I'm sure I wouldn't. I might be open to having a companion, but I wouldn't remarry or live with someone. I married late in life (at 39) and lived independently for a long time. I adore my husband, and what we have can't be duplicated. Also, as much as I love him, every once in a while I miss my single life...not the dating scene, but being able to make decisions based on what I want, not what's good for the whole. I have a good marriage, but my single life was fine too.

Also, there's no guaranty that remarrying would make me happy or that I'd be unhappy alone.

I'm not sure if my husband would remarry or not. I think that men tend to remarry after divorce or death sooner than women because they are a little less capable of taking care of themselves emotionally and otherwise. Sorry guys, but I've seen it in action and it boggles the mind.

Answer 6

My wife and I discussed this as well and we decided to remarry too but i would have to take a few years off and go very slow And I know in my heart no one could ever replace my wife , but they would be nice to spend time with and such ...

Answer 7

I haven't met my spouse yet, but I would say that great minds think alike and he would agree that if either one of us was to die at an early age then we should both remarry.

Answer 8

We feel the same as you do BUT I told him if he went
and got married too quickly I'd come back and haunt him!!
I would like him to wait at least a couple of years.

I couldn,t see mysel remarrying though. It's too much
like hard work!

Answer 9

I would consider remarrying and I would want my spouse to remarry in order to have companionship again and someone who can help raise the children.

Answer 10

i think of the solutions to which will selection reckoning on toddlers, age, and a large style of different factors. i think of i could remarry if my companion died, whether I enjoyed them and concept they have been my soulmate. this is complicated to pass by existence on my own, or to be in relationships that have not have been given a capacity destiny. You companion ought to on no account pass away your heart and the thoughts ought to on no account fade. i could make beneficial that the guy i could remarry to could understand that my deceased companion could constantly be an element of my existence.