Anyone who has had a traumatic birth experience, would you do it again for another baby?

Question

My cousin had an unplanned pregnancy and a no-pain-relief birth. She says she's never going to do that again. I'm surprised that there aren't more people who feel that way.

Answer 1

Absolutely, I want a house full. (I hemorrhaged and the nurses didn't have the meds I needed to stop bleeding. I eventually did get the meds I needed.) It is amazing how quickly you put these memories behind you when you are enveloped in the tender moment of holding your new child!!

Answer 2

The birth of my son was awful, they had to put a monitor on his head whilst he was still in the womb as his heart-rate dropped dangerously low. I thought I was going to lose him, my pregnancy too was unplanned

Now 19 months on and i can barely remember the pain and all I have now is a beautiful happy little boy, I would certainly feel anxious going through it again but I would do it again and I am planning to have another child in a few years time, once he is abit older

Answer 3

I had a horraible pregnancy with my daughter 3 yrs ago. During delievery she turned and i delivered her breech (butt first folded in half feet to head) vaginally she was 8 lbs even and it was horriable! I swore i never wanted to do it again, but as time passes you forgot about the pain and you see this child that you have and you actually cant wait to do it again! Luckly my 2nd was WAY eaisier!! Some women just simply dont want more kids and some truely are too scared, but it think for the most part the more time that passes the more you think you want to try again.

Answer 4

No, not for me, too many dangers. My last pregnancy was very high risk. I bled almost from day one, started going into labor at six months, had to have labor stopped several times with drugs. I was on total bed rest and medication that made me so sick, I couldn't get out of bed if I wanted to. My baby and I both almost died in the delivery room. His heart stopped beating a number of times during labor and my blood pressure went so low, I thought i was dead. It felt like being on top of the ceiling and watching the doctors and nurses work on me. I can still remember them calling my name and it seemed so far away.
I was very lucky my baby suffered no lasting effects, no brain damage or paraylsis, nothing from the drugs or heart stopping. I did however, come out of it with a greater love and apprication for him, knowing he was my last baby and I better love him with all I have.
I think the risk is for me, was too great to have another baby. But it all depends on point of view and what the problem was to begin with. For me, I already had several kids, and even though the plan was to have more, I knew it was my time to stop. I might have thought differently if he was my first, or it might have scared me so much I never would have had any more.
I think its all about your own personal situation, to be handled by both partners with thought, prayer and meditation.
Mom to four: girl 23, boy 22, boy 16, boy 13.

Answer 5

OH YES....It was actually a very traumatizing experience.I had to have a c-section and my daughter was breech so i had a c-setion.The doctor that did my delivery was a rookie and HE MESSED UP BAD.Aweek after getting out of the hospital i was havng this unimaginable stomach pain.I literally felt paralyzed with pain.I couldnt move cuz if i moved it felt like someone was taking my insides and ripping them apart.So i got rushed to the hospital and i started blacking in and out of conciousness bcuz the pain was soooo severe.I couldnt see anythiing,i could only hear and i heard the doctor tell my dad i might die and my dad started screaming.then they ripped my cut open (WITH NO PAIN MEDICINE IN ME) to start draining the infection(i had a 20 pound infetion in my stomach cuz the doctor didnt sew the inside layer correctly)Next thing you know i woke up and i was in the hospital with an open wound in my stimach that had to be changed with bandages 3 times a day for 2 months(i was inthe hospital for 2 months)I had to let the cut close and heal on its own.It was the worse pain i could have ever went through.i literally thought i was ganna die.BUT 6 yrs later i decided to have another baby (even though my doctor told me its really dangerous for me.)I had a beautiful baby boy (by c-section)And i was fine.I would go through everything all over again if i had to for my babies.

Answer 6

after a 12 hour labour (with no pain relief) my son had to be resuscitated an hour after he was born he went a very odd colour and stopped breathing, he's now 3 years old and i'm 18+ weeks with my second now. hoping for an easier birth this time round!

Answer 7

im not sure if you mean still birth.

i havent had a still birth but was close to it as at 16weeks pregnant i found out that my baby had a hole close to him bellybutton where all his bowles were hanging out and had to go liverpool from north wales and have scans and tests done every month.

they were going to induce me at 37 weeks as he had to have a life threatening op after he was born and wasnt 100% hed live.

i fell into labour through stress at 36weeks and when he came out the docs noticed that his liver was outside the body too, which made it worse. i never saw him for the rest of the day and wasnt till the next day that i was told he lived and was going to be ok.

i was put on the wards with people who had still births as i didnt have a baby by my side to go into main ward and felt really depressed and isolated.

i was so happy when he came home after 4weeks and accidently got pregnant after the pill let me down 3months after my first, but i went ahead and had a little girl whos now 9months old. i dont regret anything.

but if your on about a stillbirth and going to conceive again, i'd seriously think about getting over your first one.

Answer 8

Without a doubt, mine wasnt really traumatic, just alot went on and it was scary, every time I would have a contraction my babys heart rate would go doen to like 20!! So they put fluid back in me, thinking she was stressed b/c they broke my water, that didnt work, they put an internal monitor in me too, and put an oxygen mask on me, I was scared to death, and the bad part is my husband was outside smoking when this happened so when he came back I was plugged up to all this crap he flipped out, then they told me I had to have a c-section and I didnt want one at all I was scared, but I had to do it, my bones were too small for her to fit through, thats why I was having a hard time.It was really scary but she was definatley worth it.

Answer 9

Oh Yes!!! 3 years ago I had my son and we both almost died. Then after a week I was put back in the hospital again my blood pressure was shooting through the roof... I know it's just how things go and I think if I would never have gone through that then I would never have my beloved son. I would also never have realized how precious life is and how fast it can be taken away. So yes to your question!

Answer 10

yes i did, my first son was awful i had a 12 hour labour which was in my back he got stuck and was very distressed they tried the vontouse (sorry if spelt wrong) first with no luck but then managed to get him out with forceps when he was born they at to whisk him away because he wasn't breathing, but 5 minutes later he was brought back to me with no lasting damage. Then 3 years later i had my second son which was so easy in comparison i can honestly say that i enjoyed my labour. Don't let the bad experience put you off. Good Luck with whatever you decide.