I have no idea what he does to me and I don't wake up while he is doing it and I know he has done things to me that I would not let him do if I was awake! I don't want to sleep in the same bed as him anymore, I feel like he has crossed the line. He began this 9 months ago, I've ask him to stop. Now I'm mad and I don't know what to do about it or who to talk to about it. He dosen't think he is doing anything wrong.
2007-01-23 01:07:40 · 26 answers · asked by tammi n 1 in Politics & Government ➔ Law & Ethics
How can he be doing these things to you & you not wake up? Watch what you eat & drink before bedtime.
2007-01-23 01:27:35 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is difficult one to say because as much as I want to blame him I'm not so sure about you because it's weird that u managed to sleep through all this especially when you know this is happening and possibly some form of sexual intercourse which u normally wouldn't do. Have you thought he might be giving you something to knock u down or something? If that is the case then he is committing two crimes.
As bad as he is u've a lot to ans 2 ur self. My advice to u would be;
1) leave him (he's crossed the line so has to go)
2) Think about your own sexuality or explore any other issues u may 've around sex...
3) May be think of assertiveness course or something
By all means do not think i am blaming u at all but I felt even if u decide to get rid of him unless u sort out ur self u bound to fall the same type of man
2007-01-23 10:46:42 · answer #2 · answered by SMB 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are being screwed in more ways than one.
First, if you have told him you do not want him to do it and he does it, that is rape. It does not matter if he is your "boy friend" or not. NO means "NO."
Second, his doing this shows no respect for you or your wishes.
You got a great start to an abusive relationship. Lets assume you guys get married (highly doubtful). If he thinks he can ignore your wishes when he is your boy friend, imagine what liberties he will think he can take if he is your husband.
Third, it sounds like you have a live in boy friend. Besides the sex, do you do his laundry, cook for him, keep house and maybe even give him a little spending money? What exactly are YOU getting out of the relationship other than to have a steady boy friend?
It sounds to me like you got a jerk who is along for the ride and if you try to pin him down with marriage, he will run. Let him.
Marriage will only make your relationship worse than it already is.
2007-01-23 10:19:11 · answer #3 · answered by forgivebutdonotforget911 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
How do you sleep through this without waking up?and if so how do you know what if anything he is doing?and further if something is happening, how do you know you are not consenting in your sleep . One cannot consent when unconscious due to injury,disability,or intentional drugging...sleeping does not apply. I don't believe we're gettig the whole tale here. Simple answer is leave the relationship.
2007-01-23 10:35:01 · answer #4 · answered by baalberith11704 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Hand him a pillow and point to the living room couch until he promises to stop. I don't mean to make light of it because, as others have said, technically it's rape because you're not consenting. Maybe if you toss him out of your bedroom for a while he'll get the message.
2007-01-23 09:18:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Honey, that's just wrong! And yes it is rape. He needs counseling, if you care about him and your relationship, get the help. And yes I understand about the not waking up, I've been there. It leaves you feeling violated, and him not respecting your wishes also violates your trust.
2007-01-23 09:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by freddie 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Are you sleeping, or passed out? I can't imagine that you would just be able to sleep through full-blown intercourse.
Since you have to ask if it is okay, I would say yes it is okay since you know it is going on and you've made no effort to stop it. Also, if you can't rouse yourself enough to wake up to know whats going on, seriously, you need another lover honey
2007-01-23 09:17:40 · answer #7 · answered by Lane 4 · 6⤊ 0⤋
If you do not like it he has to stop!!!! Depending on why he is doing this and how much you want to be with him will determine what happens next. Has your relationship changed in the last 9 months? Do you want to understand why this happens? I think depending on your answers you will get your answer.
2007-01-23 09:15:59 · answer #8 · answered by tink 2 · 4⤊ 0⤋
It is very wrong. In fact it is illegal. It's called rape. I don't blame you for being upset. If I were you, I would dump him. He doesn't care about you at all. He only cares about himself. Leave now, before he starts drugging you to have sex, because that would be easier for him. He is a low life jerk. (Yahoo would edit, what I really think of him)
2007-01-23 09:17:23 · answer #9 · answered by ? 6 · 4⤊ 1⤋
I find it odd that you do not wake up while he is having sex with you. Are you sure he is not drugging you somehow so that you sleep through it. If he is it is date rape if it is not consensual.
2007-01-23 09:20:54 · answer #10 · answered by answerman 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋