I have no idea what he does to me and I don't wake up while he is doing it and I know he has done things to me that I would not let him do if I was awake! I don't want to sleep in the same bed as him anymore, I feel like he has crossed the line. He began this 9 months ago, I've ask him to stop. Now I'm mad and I don't know what to do about it or who to talk to about it. He dosen't think he is doing anything wrong.
2007-01-23 01:06:55 · 41 answers · asked by tammi n 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Why don't you wake up? That part really baffles me. But essentially what he is doing is rape since you do not approve and can not tell him no since you are unconscious.
2007-01-23 01:11:37 · answer #1 · answered by shaman 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
thats funny ... how can u not wake up ? he doesnt think he did anything wrong bcos u didnt push him away while hes doing u .he might thinks that u actually likes it .but then again , how can u not wake up ? u wouldnt let him do u when u were awake ? my my ... something wrong here ... so , u have stop having sex with him ? r u being with him just out of comfort ? i think if it once in a while , probably he wants to spice it up in ur love life but if hes not getting any while u r awake , the best thing for him to get it is while u were sleeping since u didnt wake up .well, at least , hes still doing u .... i still cant believe u didnt wake up . hahahahahahahahaha ..........
2007-01-23 01:54:47 · answer #2 · answered by Trish S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a little hard to believe that you are that comatose as to not wake up when he starts having sex with you. You must be in a drug induced state or passed out drunk not to be able to wake up. If you do not like this, and you have told him you do not agree with it, this is the same thing as rape. You should break up with him press charges and move on. I would not stay with a person who did not take me seriously when I told him I did not agree with a something in the sexual relationship.
2007-01-23 01:12:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sparkles 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually guyz do this all the time it's like a fantasy to them...BUT r u sure he is not giving you those date rape drugs?? It's unusual for someone to sleep through the whole thing!! If he is drugging you then that's sick. Are you giving him enough sex?? Counteract this by "luving" him before sleeping...if he STILL shags you in your dreams he is slipping
something in your drink.
BTW...your "boyfriend" of 8 years should be your husband by June honey!! or move on!!
2007-01-23 01:29:30 · answer #4 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's hard to believe that he could have sex with you while you sleep and do things you'd NEVER let him do........and you don't wakeup*
I call that Unwanted sex/rape* You' said this has been goin on for 9months now.....and only now you're getting mad*
He needs to sleep elsewhere and put a lock on your door*! That's sick* If you don't wake up.......who knows what things he's doing to you.......what objects he could be putting into you......what video tapes of your sex he could be taping ......hell, he could even be inviting friends over to have their way with you and you'd never know it* Girl.........You need to speak to your doctor and find out why you're not waking up and you're into a too sound of a sleep. Are you taking sleeping pills that knocks you out completeley*??? WOW*
2007-01-23 01:12:46 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO its not okay for let him do you during you were sleeping. Its just that he uses you. 8 years, wow its been long time and you know him very well, dont you? now you have to face him and tell him that its not right of him do that, yes hes wrong to do it. If he still think its nothing to wrong to do it then take him to someone and have discuss about it to makehim realize that hes fool to do that. Its really mean of him to do that.
2007-01-23 01:11:41 · answer #6 · answered by MissGal 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Gurl u need to have a talk with him and tell him how u feel b/c if u r uncomfortable wit him doing that then u need to let him know. u deserve respect and when u let him do that to u without saying anything u are disrespecting urself so gain yo confidence and respect for urself back and let him know. I hope this helped. Good Luck!!!
2007-01-23 01:11:31 · answer #7 · answered by Cherri09 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first of all, It's wrong that he is even there in the place, when you go to sleep. What he does to you while you sleep, and have not concented too may be considered rape or some form of molestation
The guy's a pervert. Get rid of him, or stop bitching that he is taking advantage.
2007-01-23 01:14:43 · answer #8 · answered by duster 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a problem with it then yes. If you don't care, then no. I had a friend that would do that to his wife, and it was kind of a joke, she called him the midnight bandit when he did that. But she didn't have a problem with it. So it was ok. I wouldn't necessarily call it rape. Not that i don't think Rape occurs, but i think that word is thrown around alittle to freely!
2007-01-23 01:16:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats not rape, honey thats your husband and sometimes i guess the dog feels like humping. THAT doesn't make it right though. tell him that you want him to stop, i actually like being woke up in the middle of the night and being poked. But sit down and talk to him about it. But don't let anyone tell you that its rape.
2007-01-23 01:19:12 · answer #10 · answered by nishababe74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all how is he able to do that without you waking up?
Second, NO it's not ok!
He'll cause scratches and whatnot in you since you need to be at least a bit excited.
2007-01-23 01:12:33 · answer #11 · answered by Anosh 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋