He away on a Navy boat nd email me because he bored, I am single and a little lonely...we aren't hurting no body...what do you think
2007-01-23 01:01:47 · 34 answers · asked by Lovely B 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I do not see any thing wrong with keeping in touch with him, and I think it is good to help keep his moral up. But I do not think it is a good idea flirting with him, even if it is email. would you like someone to do that to you? Remember he is married. Talk to him, and say, I will email you, but we must just have more respect for each other. Have a great New Year!
2007-01-23 02:18:55 · answer #1 · answered by roseannetb@verizon.net 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ever heard of reaping what you sow or karma
There is a reason he is ex.
think gurl
it is hurting someone you
Use that energy to work on your issues exercise
get out mingle and have a good time
Good ole Dr. Phil has a great book loving smart;
Trust me it works! Aw some cool book!
Go forward not backward
Your ex is a dog. If you sleep with a dog you get fleas.
IF you cypher. you only think you are not hurting anyone. Life has a way of paying u back when u least expect it
Do What is right even when you think no one is looking!
because guess what?
God is watching!
p.s.
how do you know his shipmates are not all in on it and laughing at you. standing over his shoulder? Or how many other women he is cyphering.
sounds like you still have feelings here. Run like heck. you deserve better, get a life get out and live. have fun, make new friends
Go talk to someone like a pastor or counselor God bless take care
2007-01-23 01:17:11 · answer #2 · answered by tennessee 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not to be corny, but as Dr. phil always says, "Would he do or say those things if his spouse was sitting right next to him? Would you be comfortable doing and saying those things if you knew she was sitting right next to him, reading your exchange? If the answer is no, then it it wrong" I have been in the same boat, and done the wrong thing, and was very ashamed of the outcome. If you truly want to be his friend and important in his life, then you should respect the fact he is married. Even though he might be turned off by it, he will respect you for it, and you can have a clear conscious. Would you want your husband flirting with an x even if nothing came of it??
2007-01-23 01:41:21 · answer #3 · answered by JstMe 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you aren't with someone else, I don't see a problem, But if either of you is "attached", then it's considered cheating. And if he's an "ex", there must be a reason for it. I'd keep it purely on a friendship level, no intimacy. For all you know, he's got ten other "shipmates" standing over his shoulder reading, cracking dirty jokes, and putting their recommendations in. If you are lonely, find someone new. The ex should stay an ex.
2007-01-23 01:10:54 · answer #4 · answered by fishing66833 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it is wrong. Yes it is cheating.
He's an ex for a reason. He chose to marry someone else for a reason. He's only with you because he's bored, and you don't think he's cybering with his wife as well? Has it occurred to you that with access to the Internet he could have multiple cyber lovers? Don't kid yourself. You are hurting yourself because you're having an inappropriate relationship with a married man and not making yourself available to someone who you with whom you could be in a REAL relationship.
Yes, you are hurting someone: YOURSELF. Doesn't this strike you as being just a little sad, you being so lonely that you're having cybersex with your ex?
If you were OK with this, you wouldn't have asked other opinions.
2007-01-23 01:12:39 · answer #5 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to burst your bubble but it's wrong. It's emotionally cheating. He should be emailing his wife, not his ex. Also, what if she found out? Trust me, it hurts like being cheated on to find out your husband is having cyber with a real girl, not some robot internet porn start. even worse if he knows her...you can cyber with anyone, leave him alone...
one thing leads to another, and it's hard to distinguish where to draw the line. Would you want your b/f emailing his ex?
2007-01-23 01:05:59 · answer #6 · answered by Sweet Face 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the key pharse in your question was "my married EX." And so what is happening here is an emotional affair between you and your Ex. You are lonely, and he is not looking to his wife to fill his loneliness, he is looking to you, another women, who he is not married to. So you are hurting someone. You are hurting yourself mostly. Why do you not think you are worthy of an available man? Why don't you want an available man to date? Only ypu can answer that, but it sure is safe to have an Ex cruising along in a ship, way out in the ocean.....
I would suggest looking at why you are only interested in an unavailable man? Why did you divorce in the first place? I guarantee those issues still exist. But mostly, what is it in you that does not feel worthy of better?
2007-01-23 01:12:43 · answer #7 · answered by Suzanne 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cyber sex and firting are fine; with other single people. If you were still married to him, and he was having cyber sex and firting with another woman, would you consider it cheating?
2007-01-23 01:08:51 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes this is still cheating. If his wife found out then imagine how she would feel. There are plenty of fish in the sea so how come you are hanging on to someone just because they were in your past. You are either very needy or just too lazy to go out and find someone else.
2007-01-23 01:06:17 · answer #9 · answered by Bagpuss 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's wrong, and yes it's cheating.
You may be single, but you don't say that he is, and since you're questioning if it's cheating, then I'm guessing he's involved with someone. Put yourself in her shoes, how would you feel if he did that to you? Don't do to anyone else what you wouldn't want done to yourself.
2007-01-23 02:01:18 · answer #10 · answered by Angeleyes 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋