Time for a change? Recovered alcoholic boss after one year is now is disarray.?

Question

worked for a company for 10+ yrs and assistant to the president of the company. After his one year aniversary of soberity, the disarray in business applications is causing my job to become varied in job description. I'm not getting much help or answers. You can't say anything about it, but it's not helping #1 for the work environment when 75% of my day is calming those who don't understand the scattered thoughts from him and the other 25% trying to resolve issues on my own, hoping I've made the right choices because I can't get answers. She disapears and takes many "mental health" days and works after hours so there is no human contact and thoughts can be clearer. Should I stick with it, move on, say something or just keeping on doing what I need to do to keep the business a float on my end? How do I know this???? The wife of a recovered alcoholic (I know everyone has a different experience), but it's like living with my husband after his first year. I LOVE my job, but need my sanity

Answer 1

Your responsibility isn't to keep the company afloat. That's the President's responsibility. It's surprising the company has stayed up for 10 years without any processes but some companies will succeed despite themselves.

Generally, I've found people tend to lack confidence when thinking about changing jobs. It's a hard thing to do, but far from impossible. Are you paid well? Do you not think you could get equal or better compensation elsewhere?

I guess my answer is - no job is worth being miserable. There are others out there.

Answer 2

I would suggest talking with your boss and asking for some clear cut directions that would help them be able to keep thing smoothe. Tell them exactly what the problems are WITHOUT blaming them for those problems. Come to a solution together and start the process from there.

Answer 3

Become her friend. Go to AA meetings with her. Go with her to get help. The main thing she needs right now is a friend. Or have your husband help her out, since he knows what she is going through. She is out of the "honeymoon" phase. I'm sure he will know what I'm talking about. She is basically going through withdrawls. Become a friend and an employee.