I have been dating this guy for little while now and everything is great however hes married and has children. He wants to be with me and has even asked his wife for a divorce but she refuses to give in thinking she can work this out. He dosnt know what to do and in the mean time I can get in trouble for dating him. But I know he wants to be with me and he also knows shes been cheating on him since hes left country. What should we do?
2007-01-23 00:49:31 · 19 answers · asked by angelsweet774 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Let him leave his wife, get together with you, and then wonder everyday of your life if he's doing the same thing to you that he did to his wife.
2007-01-23 01:00:41 · answer #1 · answered by Michelle *The Truth Hurts 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know he's married-so why did you get involved with him in the first place if you know you can get into trouble from it?
There's no "we" honey in this dilemma. Your man needs to figure out what he wants to do. If she won't divorce him why doesn't he apply for a divorce? If shes committing adultery I doubt highly she thinks this relationship will be fixed.
What I'm worried about is the children-you mention them casually like there a part of his former life. If you marry this man they come as a package deal. He may not have much to do with them now but in the long run he may choose to take them on full time/support them etc etc.
Divorce is often taken lightly these days-but if your involved with this guy anyway and didn't seem to mind the fact he was married when you got it on then why should he bother now to become free from his wife?
You've mentioned "left country".Is your man legally in the country you are in now? If so maybe he could seek legal advice on the matter.
Good Luck to him.
2007-01-23 00:59:11 · answer #2 · answered by princessofpop1983 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You may love this guy and you may want to be with him. But just wait. This is just the beginning of the drama. He has children involved, so he will ALWAYS be part of his wife/xwife. Either way she will be in your lives forever. Even if you moved in together, and tried to be happy , you will find you will not be able to. Someone I know has a husband that has a x-wife and a daughter. Do you realize the hell she sometimes goes through. She felt loved, adored, and everything in the beginning. Until they became married, and she has to deal with his past. Why? Cause it is there, and she can't change that. The wife is constantly finding ways to meet up with him to drop his daughter off or pick her up. She arranges it so this person isn't around or avail. The daughter now resents this person, caues the mother has poisoned her against her. Your drama is just beginning dear, if you truly want to feel blessed, happy, and the love of ones life, you must find one without a past! Goodluck Dear!
2007-01-23 00:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by Shannon 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow were you there when he ask his wife for a divorce or is that what he told you all married men say that if he is cheating on his wife why in the hell would she not give him a divorce. and take damm near every thing . that is just game he told you they will never split up .... have he moved in with you yet or is he at home with his wife and kids. let me guess she is holding a gun to his head so that he want come live with you either huh ..... well seems to me like you are just the sideline women
2007-01-23 00:56:19 · answer #4 · answered by slpry L 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i guess she's cheating on him KNOWING he's cheating on her. Staying with a married man that has kids is not the way to live* Youll always be "second" to him*
Let him try to work it out with his wife or wait till he files for divorce if that won't happen then you need to move on with your life as staying with him will only cause you heartache and headaches and in the long run.....you wont be together(whether he stays with his wife or leaves her he'll leave you also) MOVE ON
2007-01-23 00:54:31 · answer #5 · answered by friskymisty01 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all STOP DATING MARRIED MEN. I guess HE told you that he asked his wife for a divorce, and you believed him!
He's cheating on his wife, for goodness sake, why would you want to be with a CHEATER!
Let him go, and find you a guy who can be totally devoted to YOU and ONLY YOU.
2007-01-23 00:59:31 · answer #6 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well this is a hard question to answer , i have been in your shoe's , if you really love him hang in there but its hard , you really don't know if what he is telling you is the truth , i found out the hard way , you need to know if his wife really knows about you , being the other woman is hard and painful , just be careful if he really loves you he will leave her , you need to ask him alot of questions like when do you think we will be together , if he cant answer you watch out , it took 3 years before his wife found out about me , and after she did he tried to lie and say we were just friends . i wish you the best luck
2007-01-23 01:02:12 · answer #7 · answered by workingmom1223 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd just stay away from this guy. You are going to be up to your neck in horrible domestic and legal disputes and watching his family come apart and children be hurt. Do you really want to be a part of this?
2007-01-23 00:52:53 · answer #8 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Stop being a selfish ****. He has kids and is married, he deserves to be shot for deserting them like he is, and he would only do the same thing to you eventually, once he gets tied down with you and feels trapped again.
2007-01-23 00:52:49 · answer #9 · answered by poseidenneptune 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he should stay with his wife it says in the bible not to have a girlfriend if your married. in his wedding he said till death do us part he should follow that.
2007-01-23 01:01:28 · answer #10 · answered by A V 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋