My husband and i have been married 4-1/2yrs,been together for 13 now.He is currently in jail with 2 yrs left already been away 1-1/2yrs.Problem--We have had our share of ups and downs, arguements,things have not always been rosey at all,but we do love eachother. He has put me through alot but we've always worked it out. This is his 2nd time in jail,the 1st time was 10yrs ago for 4yrs that time,I have stuck by his side thru thick and thin but I am just very tired.He has not always appreciated me,or treated me as i deserve to be treated..But i mean there are alot of Great times we've had just the bad ones tend to really be bad and trying..We had spoke of divorce many times,but then he went to jail so i just sorta hung in there again.I just do not want to be a fool again.Now someone has shown intrest in me and is basically trying to sweep me off my feet and had asked would i ever get a divorce & part of me knows i deserve this type of prince charming,never had these feelings like i do now
2007-01-23 00:35:31 · 12 answers · asked by ccrazeegyrl 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Darling, you need to LIVE!
We only live once. Why be sent to prison along with a man who didn't respect you or your marriage to be so stupid to end up where he is AGAIN?
Move on. Get a life, BE HAPPY!
I'd be running to get a divorce TODAY if not YESTERDAY!
You can still love him, but PUSH him away from your life and enjoy a real man and a real love life.
2007-01-23 00:45:26 · answer #1 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think you should follow your heart.this man had lost u from the time he went to jail because whatever he did is more important than you because he cant seem to stay out of trouble to stay with u .girl u have been going thru this all these years,enough is enough,follow your heart life is to short to waste it with someone who is not even there,go on with your life u deserve better,and you may never know this new guy might be your prince for u will live happily ever after,so the point is don't settle for less than u deserve ,you seem to be a really good person so go live your life and don't wait for the jailbird .
2007-01-23 09:31:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You deserve the best. It's time to move on. But dont get jump into the new relationship with your eyes closed. Take your time.
But i have to say i believe you should leave the guy in jail. He sounds like a career criminal. Not judgeing, just observing.
Our history is what makes us who we are. I'm sure he made you happy at one point, but times change and so does people!
Good luck in life!
2007-01-23 09:19:44 · answer #3 · answered by LC 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kinda know where you are coming from,and know one needs to judge you for anything. You deserve to be happy,and to have a man that will treat you the way you need to be treated. My marriage lasted for five years,but together for seven and I feel like I waste those years of my life. We didn't get along all the time and was emotionally abusive towards me. We have three kids and his only son doesn't really know him all that well. He is in prison for a reason he shouldn't be in there. What he did was is fault but wasn't it is hard to explain. I honestly don't think someone can tell you what to do cause I think in your heart you already know what you want. I think you just want someone to tell you,and really it is up to you. Just follow your heart and listen to what it tells you. My opinion you should give yourself sometime think alone somewhere for a few days on your own. That may help with your decision about your future,and if you want to spend it with someone who appreciate you,or if you want to spend it with someone who doesn't. Good luck,and hope you find what you are looking for in your self. I will pray for you tonight to help out.
2007-01-23 09:52:28 · answer #4 · answered by Baby Doll 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't bring a new guy into it. This shouldn't be the driving force.
The only judgement I will vocalize is that you have wasted too much of your life with this guy. I don't know why he keeps getting sent to jail but I wouldn't stay with someone like that.
I'm sorry but I think you should divorce the dude. Don't jump straight into another guy. Get back on your feet and THEN you can look for another guy.
2007-01-23 08:41:58 · answer #5 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you have MORE than "paid your dues" to this man. He was, and is , a loser. Are you going to sacrifice your entire life for a guy that is in and out of jail? Please don't do that! There is a man that thinks the sun comes up on you in the morning......Have some happiness for once in your life! Start your divorce proceedings, and find happiness with this new man.Good Luck!! Please??
2007-01-23 09:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is not good to judge but we are told to know people by there fruit. Fruit is something that a person shows in their character. If you are okay with your husband's fruit/character then go ahead and stick it out but if you think that you are worthy of better treatment and a better life then move on. It's really up to what it is you want. Good Luck!
2007-01-23 08:49:41 · answer #7 · answered by MeHurdu 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hello, if he went to jail 2 times chances are he will go back. I have an idea leave him and go date a cop.()
2007-01-23 08:41:25 · answer #8 · answered by Saint 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you still love one another then yes stay and work it out. At least there is a part of you that still loves and cares for the man.You'll be happier if you stay.
2007-01-23 08:44:33 · answer #9 · answered by Sweetheart 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Go for it, you deserve to be happy.
2007-01-23 08:52:49 · answer #10 · answered by whateverhohum 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋