I thought i was bi but now i think i might be a lesbian. There are very few guys i like and when i like them i just find them very attractive but i don't wanna do anything with them, i have no desire to sleep with men, like none. and i don't wanna have a relationship with a guy, i don't dream about guys, when i think about getting married or having kids i think about a girl. and i still like getting attention from guys but don't straight girls like getting attention from gay girls too, i mean attention is always flattering no matter where it's coming from. I don't know should i call myself bi or a lesbian.
P.S i have had relationships with men in the past but none of them really worked out.
2007-01-23 00:31:27 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
thanks for the advice dgon i really appreciate it but i don't think a threeway is the answer to my problems
2007-01-23 01:52:29 · update #1
Don't feel you have to label yourself as anything.. or that you have to fit into society's definition as a lesbian or a bisexual. Just feel the way you feel and it's nobody's business unless they are dating you. I've know women who label themselves lesbians, but still have "sport sex" ocasionally with men. They only have relationships with women, though, and they call themsevles lesbians. On the other hand, I have a friend who refers to herself as bisexual and she has never had sex with a man. She is, however, attracted to them, and says she wants to leave her options open if she ever mmets one she finds attractive enough to date. So, just be comfortable with yourself, date someone you find attractive both mentally and physically, and screw what anyone else thinks you should call yourself.
And on a side note: I am gay, I am in a long term monogamous relationship with the love of my life, and I still love to flirt with men, both gay and straight. And, many of my straight female friends flirt with me. It's harmless and fun.
2007-01-23 01:05:53 · answer #1 · answered by Beth B 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Vanessa. You obviously are a bit confused. Look sweetie. I believe you may still are bisexual, but with stronger desire for women than for men. There's nothing wrong with that of course.
I believe that the problem is that in bed - with guys - you feel like if there's something missing. The missing part is a girl. You most likely need to be in bed with a guy and a girl to make you feel complete. Perhaps you should start exploring that possibility, but make sure that both (guy and girl) are truly interested in you other than sexually, and that you feel the same for each of them.
Remember that three-way relationships require a strong commitment from each party involved. Don't go just for people who only want to live a fantasy, instead go for those who really want to be part of your life and you want them to be part of their lives.
Best wishes and Happy Valentines, sweetie.
2007-01-23 08:50:36 · answer #2 · answered by David G 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I don't know what you are as you're the only one who could possibly know it; but I can tell you one thing, as far as I'm concerned you're wrong about one point: I'm straight and I don't like getting attention from gay girls.
2007-01-23 08:38:59 · answer #3 · answered by Love_my_Cornish_Knight❤️ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the same thing happened to me. when i was in the 9th grade i dated 2 boy s but it didnt work out. eventually i found myself. i know that i really like girls.
2007-01-23 10:41:49 · answer #4 · answered by SKITTLE 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You don't want to sleep with guys. Just women. I think you already answered your own question.
2007-01-23 13:31:36 · answer #5 · answered by carora13 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no one can answer this question for you except yourself... you know how you feel... if you never want to be with a guy again then you are a lesbian
2007-01-23 09:53:25 · answer #6 · answered by sexylilles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you've stated your case as a lesbian (perhaps a bi-curious one)
2007-01-23 08:35:56 · answer #7 · answered by unclefrunk 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You sound like your more lesbian.
Another thing, I'm hell straight and I don't like getting hit on by gay girls either!!
2007-01-23 08:41:46 · answer #8 · answered by melfromhell001 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just fall in love with who you fall in love with.....you dont have to explain yourself to anyone! I know EXACTLY what you are going through.....I had the EXACT same story!
2007-01-23 11:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by adriboho 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
sounds like you're lesbian to me.
2007-01-23 08:36:06 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋