I have been in a relationship for almost fifteen years. we have been together since i was 16 1/2. and he was 22. we are not married yet. we have one child together. she is almost twelve. What should i do? should i stay in the relationship or move on.
2007-01-23 00:26:08 · 18 answers · asked by mecarela 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
we been living together for almost thirteen years. and engaged since 2000. every time that i mention we should get married he stays quiet. like if he is unsure. we dont even have to have a big wedding we can go to city hall.
2007-01-23 02:20:51 · update #1
Get married. You'll have plenty of benefits for your child. Unless you two were just together for the fun, which sounds like it from what you tell us.
2007-01-23 00:54:42 · answer #1 · answered by M'lady 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it a good relationship? If you are happy, stay. If you want a piece of paper stating you are man and wife, ask for it or get over it. Unless he is abusive or treats you REAL bad, you almost have a duty to the child to make things work. There are SOME good reasons for separating but generally society is screwed up because walking away is too easy which leaves kids in broken houses. Make it work if you can.
2007-01-23 08:33:30 · answer #2 · answered by spedtrap 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been in this relationship for 15 years, and he hasn't even talked about marriage and if its something you really want, then obviously he isn't the one who will be the one. If you want something good to happen to you, you have to work at it. Obviously you love this man, if you didn't you wouldn't still be hanging around. But, you need to move on and see for yourself that you deserve better. I know you can do it!
2007-01-23 08:33:14 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is marriage that important to you? Its somthing you have to think about, but it sounds to me that you 2 have something very special together. Why not asking him how he feels about the sitiutian but if everything is working out all right why bother? sometimes marriage might not be the best for a couple. I wish the best of luck to both of you
2007-01-23 08:45:48 · answer #4 · answered by angelsweet774 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Moving on just because your bored or losing interest wouldn't help at all .you need to sit down and discuss the problem at hand. You would be hurting yourself and the other person and not to metion the child.Think before you act or you could be regreting your action slater down the road.
2007-01-23 08:38:34 · answer #5 · answered by Jackal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but there's not enough information on why you want to leave and what is wrong. People will tell you that your relationship is strong and really something, because it lasted 16 yrs and that you shouldn't break it too soon.
2007-01-23 08:36:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is there any reason to move on? I assume from the reference to marriage that you want to and he doesn't. I wouldn't end the relationship on that basis. If you are dissatisfied for a concrete reason maybe; but not just for that.
2007-01-23 08:34:03 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
more info needed. how do you feel about him? what do you want to do? is marriage what you want? whats going on in the relationship? any abuse or lack of communication? how is it with your child? best answer i can give from what info you gave is if you want to move on....then talk about it with your partner. give him reasons and see if they can be resolved, if you still want to move on then do so. sounds like you do though, since you brought it up online. but him is who you should be talking to
2007-01-23 08:33:13 · answer #8 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say what's wrong with the relationship, or are you just bored? A bit of information wouldn't go astray.
2007-01-23 08:31:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you love him and think that you get along with each other well. I can't find any reason for you to move on.
2007-01-23 08:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by petya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋