2007-01-23 00:08:58 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Not to sound religious, but i truly feel that's the way things were "meant" to be. In bible times, the men worked & the women took care of the household.
In this day and age so many women have entered the career world and left the "taking care of the household" to other women.
Could this be "part" of the reason for so many failed marraiges, afterall, What kind of relationship can you have if one or both partners is always at work. When would you spend time together?
Also, what kind of values can we be teaching our children, if someone else is raising them?
I truly believe in being a homemaker and hope that me and my husband can manage it once our child comes.
2007-01-23 00:27:45 · answer #1 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 2⤊ 1⤋
To Mr. "50/50":
The contributions to a marriage are not to just be measured in dollars. A woman who chooses to make a warm and loving home for her husband and children is contributing a lot. If the husband is not a jerk, he understands this.
They SHOULD be educated and at least have an idea how to make it on their own, should the need arise (he leaves, he dies, other disaster etc). But there is nothing wrong when one partner goes and is the breadwinner and the other runs the home.
People should discuss this before they get married. Being a homemaker is NOT a slavery role. And it's not MEN making it out this way - it's the feminist agenda.
Ask ANYONE who's mother stayed home to raise them if they are better off for it. Unless she was neglectful/alcoholic/abusive etc they will say YES.
Thanks M'lady
2007-01-23 08:24:02 · answer #2 · answered by fucose_man 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hi,
yes in this day and time it is.there once was a time when being a homemaker and leaving the finances up to the husband was a good idea.in the here and the now it would not be to smart. you have to protect yourself make share you have some kind of finance of your own to fall back on if something were to go wrong in you marriage.with the divorce rate like it is, women outliving there husband dew to the war, or just to make sure that you know what is going on if he was to get ill and can not do it anymore. you need to understand how the finances work so that if you need to take over you can.
2007-01-23 08:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Sonya K 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No, there are some women out there who find it an honor to be a stay at home mom to take care of the kids, or just be a home maker. Some husbands are in good jobs where they make enough money to provide for their family so thier wives don't have to work outside the home.
My wife has been a stay at home mom in the past and she loved it.
In fact I've been a stay at home dad for a while, and I loved it.
Hey fucose_man, you hit the nail on the head BIG TIME!!! My mom when I was younger was a stay at home mom, and early on when I started school worked part time, so I got to spend alot of quality time with my mom, and I think she did a great job.
I know if my wife and I could afford to, she would stay home with the kids.
2007-01-23 09:03:45 · answer #4 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, the home is an important job. Years I put my nursing career before everything and I have one missed up child and one failed marriage. But God slowed me down with a serous sickness and I finally saw what was important, helping my family emotionally and not with just money even though I am sick I spend a lot of time with my 2nd husband and our kids and realize they are the most important job a woman(or man) can ever have: To support her husband & make him & the children feel loved. It may not be this way for everyone but when something bad happens you finally get the big picture.
2007-01-23 08:24:36 · answer #5 · answered by livlafluv 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not "crazy" . . . but certainly risky. Having a family is indeed a full time job and it's not surprising that those who can afford to have that job alone chose to do so. The problem is that the situation is an unfortunate case of the woman putting all her eggs in one basket. If her husband dies or leaves her and she has no marketable skills, she can end up in a terrible situation.
2007-01-23 08:26:41 · answer #6 · answered by Helen W. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Being a homemaker is one of the most difficult jobs and men need to share in the responsibility of raising their children. Its good for them and the kids. Also, it's good for a woman to have some time, friends, and money of her own.
2007-01-23 08:20:42 · answer #7 · answered by ropemancometh 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not at all. Women can earn money from home too. I used to teach Calligraphy and earn a lot of money and then in school holidays I held classes for children.
Is it fair for a woman to have babies, clean the house, hold a job. come home, cook, clean, see to the children and have an identity? Oh and attend to the husband as well and still have energy left for sex and keep the home fires burning? URhum?
2007-01-23 08:16:24 · answer #8 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
no, i don't think their crazy. marriage is all about trust. i do hope that before they became homemakers they had a plan and money saved for just in case the husband isn't trustworthy.
lets stop blaming victims here. its the husbands who are crazy if they are not supporting their wife.
2007-01-23 08:15:57 · answer #9 · answered by Miki 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't call them crazy. But, i would encourage all women to get an education and a career, as marriages don't seem to last like they did in the good old days.
It's best if they have something to fall back on if marriage ends or the husband dies or is otherwise disabled and unable to work.
2007-01-23 08:13:37 · answer #10 · answered by michael_trussell 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋