iam 26 settled with my bloke and quite a few people around me are having babies - its made me think about my life and made me a little bit broody - the thought of pregnancy petrifies me - but i feel i am at a crossroads now where ive been o ut and had my fun and now its time for a new chapter? what do ya think ?
2007-01-22 23:57:57 · 26 answers · asked by Pebbles 2 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I'm in that same position. I feel your pain. I say have a few more years of fun and if you get pregnant then it was meant to be.
2007-01-23 00:02:08 · answer #1 · answered by pinwheelbandit 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can answer that question for you. I always said I'd never have children and at 39 years old I found myself pregnant. I didn't find out until I was 5 months along as I had not had any morning sickness or gained any weight. My boyfriend and I questioned if we were ready for a baby, but after having the first ultrasound and hearing his heartbeat, we knew we would make it work. I won't tell you that it's easy, because it's not. I think more than anything I miss sleep the most. I'm grateful that I have a wonderful boyfriend who's turning out to be a wonderful dad, because I honestly don't believe I could do it alone. I have absolutely no regrets - I had an easy pregnancy (I only gained 10 lbs) and delivery and have a healthy, beautiful baby boy. Honestly, I'd have another one in a heartbeat, but not unless we win the lottery! ;-)
2007-01-23 09:50:27 · answer #2 · answered by kybondgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
One can only know if there ready. You honestly can't say when a person is ready for a baby. It's a huge responsibility that never ends. I have two children and 1 on the way. I am never fully prepared. I am only human. I take things one day at a time and do the best I can. I never looked at it as am I ready. I wanted children, and a family. I knew this with all my heart. I mentally and physically prepared my self. Its really all one can do. I understand what your asking, but its really how you feel. It is very mature of you to look at your life and say I can do this. I guess to help you out. Are you financially able to do this? Do you have a long time spouse or partner? Make sure your baby has a loving secure home to grow up in. Leave the rest to one day at a time. Good Luck!
2007-01-23 08:08:15 · answer #3 · answered by WillsBroncoGal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're financially secure and think you and your partner will be together for good, you want to stop going out as much, not go on as many holidays and want to take an hour and a half just to pop to the shops then you're ready!
Having my kids was the best thing I ever did, but I was totally unprepared for the way they take over your WHOLE life, and your partners', although I'd still do it again at the same time in my life.
If you know someone with a baby, look after it for a night, it'll give you a little insight. Then do the same with a toddler because they need just as much looking after, but don't go to sleep between feeds and need constant stimulation so they're very tiring!
Good Luck :-)
2007-01-23 08:05:14 · answer #4 · answered by CrunchyCookies...Leeds...x 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was told (at age 26, no less) that you are never truly ready for a baby. You can plan your finances to the nth degree, you can set up a trust fund, you can find a work-at-home job, etc. But you are never truly prepared for the curve balls that life and a baby can throw at you. That being said, my wife and I still have no children of our own.
What do I think? I think you just need to sit down and think about WHY you want a baby.
No one realizes how life-changing a baby can be. Just as an example: My parents came to visit a few years ago, bringing my niece along with them. I thought it would be no big deal. She's four years old, she can handle herself. Well, not so. Every day for the whole week whatever we were doing had to be interruptedaround 3:00PM and we had to go back home to put her down for her nap. How easy is it to try to show a city to two adults when you have to interrupt halfway through the afternoon? And when she didn't take her nap, by 6:00 she was behaving like such a terror I was ready to slash my wrists. Horrible horrible time. And this was just a one-week stint with someone else's child! Halfway through the week I took a vacation from my vacation and went to work for a day. I was so sick of dealing with her. Now granted, she was no child of mine, but it still impacted my life rather strongly. After that incident my wife and I decided we would wait a few years longer to have a child.
So be sure you are ready for the good things....but remember that for every good thing you will likely see a bad one. You need to think about that, not just your biological urges.
With that said, I know that we will eventually raise kids ourselves. Just not yet. I'm sure it's worth it. No doubt about that. But having seen what it really is like firsthand I believe we are more prepared for it. At least we don't have a rosy view of the adventure.
2007-01-23 08:10:11 · answer #5 · answered by anon 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Age is not the issue when deciding to become pregnant. The question that one needs to ask ourself is:
1. Am I able to provide financial support, a stable home, a family with a good role model (mother and father), time (not that most of the baby's time will be spent with a babysitter because you have to either complete your studies or hold two jobs). Could I do all this without me or the baby being a burden on someone else?
2. Are you married? Why become someone's baby's mother as oppose to their wife? If you are good enough to be their baby's mother, why are you not good enough to be their wife? These are things that you have to think about in the event that you have a daughter - would you want her to just become someone's baby's mother?? - Therefore, the first role model that a child should have is = their parents.
That is why when these young teenage girls have these children, the problem is not the age is the fact that they have nothing to offer these kids and them and their child become a burden on the grandparents and these kids suffer and the pattern continues in life that these children grow up to be nobody's and with no real values or morals.
Therefore, you need to consider many factors and make sure that you are in a position in your life where you know that your child will be proud of the mother that he/she has. Good Luck.
2007-01-23 09:04:30 · answer #6 · answered by Snowwhite 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Listen, if you're financially capable of raising a child & are emotionally ready for this life time commitment, then do it, it's also good to have people around u who are going through it already & can help give u advise & support u.
But above all that, u should really want a child. Don't think "Oh, Im "supposed" to have one just coz my friends are having kids.. Never compair yourself with anyone when it comes to seriouse matters, if you love children & really do want to get pregnant & care for & love a child, then do it. All your baby will need is LOVE. so if you think u want to do it coz ur loving the thought of carying your own baby in your arms, do it. If not, wait till ur ready.
It's also good if u seek advise from your family or close friends about this, ask them what they think , they'll definitly know u much better than any of us & could tell u why u should or shouldn't.
Good Luck!
2007-01-23 08:06:19 · answer #7 · answered by CupCake 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you married? First is weather he is going to commit to you as the childs father and be there to help raise the child. Second, pregnancy is actually a fun journey as a woman because the bond is so deep with the new life inside. The fear is normal and it is best to find mothers you admire so you can get good advice . Being a new parent will be a little scary for both of you but it is well worth it if you both have the maturity to handle it. Best wishes
2007-01-23 08:05:24 · answer #8 · answered by java348 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You will know when you are ready for a baby, when you don't have to question it.
You and your partner will both feel it is the right thing to do without having to ask if you are ready.
Also consider having a stable home and income (and relationship) before taking the step, not just deciding you need something new to do in your life.
2007-01-23 08:10:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think if your asking the question, u must already want to start a family, I just know when i wanted to have my kids.
As long as your secure in your relationship and finances, i see no reason why not.
Just take a month or 2 to think about it, and by then you will no for sure.
My kids are the best choice i ever made, along with my husband.
2007-01-23 08:15:55 · answer #10 · answered by hayles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im 21 have a 1 yr old. I think it depends on u if u feel u could financially support your child and that u could cope then go for it!!! My daughter is the best thing thats ever happened to us!! make sure you both dicuss it and feel the same way about it before you do try but all the best im sure you'd make a fantastic mum!! x
2007-01-23 08:06:24 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋