is it ok to keep your friends of the opposite sex?
my bf says he'd be fine with that, but that's easy to say when we're single.
2007-01-22 23:56:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
well, legally single i guess
2007-01-23 00:01:24 · update #1
Yes it is, but better that you have mutual friends at least this way you both know them.
So if there just friends start by inviting them all out with you both and see then if there friends or not.
2007-01-23 01:03:57 · answer #1 · answered by LMH 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok.. this is how me and my husband handle that situation and just so u know his very best friend is a female..
Friends of the opposite sex are fine to have if there are boundries to that friendship.. My husband wont be caught alone with his best friend that is a woman, someone always has to be there, (his choice not mine) but it works, keeps from anyone ever even thinking that anything more could be happening.. insecurities will creep up at times and thats a way to avoid it.. so we agreed when it comes to the other sex and friendship that we dont every put our selves in any type of situation that can be misconstrude as anything other then friendship.. We were straight up front with our friends, that my husband and i have no secrets from each other and that if they have something that they dont want each of us to know then dont tell us.. And my husband and i also agreed..if at anytime they become a negative influence on our marriage they would have to go as it is up to us to protect our marriage from all negative influences.. And its really worked, ive become friends with his best friend, and we hang out together.. and i have zero fear of her...she doesnt intrude on our marriage, and she respects that his loyalties are to me first..
So if u set mature boundries..it can work..
2007-01-23 08:03:47 · answer #2 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This depends on how secure you/he are feeling in your relationship and how much you trust the other.
My husband and I both have friends that are the opposite sex but our best friend is each other. We have been married 13 year and dated for 4. So, we have had a long time to "figure" it out.
2007-01-23 08:02:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe in marriage your spouse should be first before your friends. Having friends of the oppostie sex could cause a lot of confusion in the long run. How would you feel if your husband was there to console another woman when he's suppose to be there consoling you, or vice versa. That's one of the reason why a lot of marriage end today, with communication being the #1 killer of a marriage.
2007-01-23 08:34:57 · answer #4 · answered by unknown 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
There's nothing wrong with having "friends" of the opposite sex while married....sometimes it helps in trying to figure your spouse out and why he does what he does-you can talk to your male friends about it!
Now....if they're the "friends with benefits"...then no...you can't keep THOSE ones! LOL
2007-01-23 07:59:54 · answer #5 · answered by secret_oktober_girl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Far in the distance, because it could cause trouble. You have chosen your man so now make him happy. A good book to read is one called Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. If you do what he suggests, you will have a great marriage.
2007-01-23 08:12:43 · answer #6 · answered by uniquechild 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As long as he does not have a problem with it, and YOU know where to draw the line, its okay.
But His feelings may change once you get married?
And then you may have to make an adjustment.
After all how would you feel about him having female friends, while you're married?
2007-01-23 08:49:46 · answer #7 · answered by Mommy of 3 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
single is single,married is maried.if u r married y u still want to go back single,then u married 4 what?to show off ur friends?
2007-01-23 08:03:58 · answer #8 · answered by robert KS LEE. 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
sure you can keep all your friends ,after marriage ,girl and men . Why not? Nothing will change the friendship to them if it's just friend ship . even after marriage .
2007-01-23 08:00:49 · answer #9 · answered by silverearth1 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes it should be ok....if you are with a guy that won't let you keep your true friends, run in the opposite direction...good luck
2007-01-23 08:02:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋