they dont like her attitude, one called her sour faced. What do you make of that? They have called me in for an appointment next week to discuss this with me.
Why does being shy get taken as having a bad attitude?
She is 12 and started senior school 5 months ago, is that why its being classed as attitude and not being shy?
2007-01-22 23:55:46 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Well, I understand a little. I have been shy my entire life, was voted shyest girl in our class in jr & sr high! Also, in grade school, I got sent to "special friends" once cuz of my shyness - they thought there was something wrong with me!
I would just go and discuss the situation, and take things from there. I know as an older teen, sometimes shyness gets taken as snobbiness by others, so maybe they are just not understanding her.
2007-01-23 01:17:49 · answer #1 · answered by angelbaby 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have a 12 year old daughter who also started Senior school Sept, i am having problems with her doing p.e, she has no confidence and was locking herself in the loo during gym, we always tell he how lovely she is, she's pretty tall and slim, but just doesn't want to get changed in front of everyone. I think its the teachers who have the attitude, senior school is a huge change for juniors, some kids adjust quicker than others, her last year at juniors school her teacher Mr h brought he out of her shell and boosted her confidence, she joined the footy team and was scoring ha-tricks nearly every match, he said she was one of the best footy players he had ever seen including the boys. Now she has gone back into a shell, not interested in sports at all at this school, i have been up there on numerous occasions and have decided to make an appointment with the docs, maybe even get her a bit of counselling to help her with her confidence, no matter how much you praise a child and tell them how special they are, they have to learn to love themselves first it comes from within, i would go back up and tell the teaches you Ar disgusted with their comments, every child is an individual and they should be more understanding, maybe you could have a word with your doc, its worth a try, anyhow good luck i know what u going through, its been hell since she started senior school.
2007-01-23 10:15:27 · answer #2 · answered by mazza999 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It might be difficult to accept but maybe there is more to this than your daughter being shy. When she is at school she may act differently to how you know her. Go to the appointment and see what they have to say. Also make it clear that you are not happy about the teacher calling her sour faced - that is not acceptable. The teacher should stick to the facts to let you know what is going on and should not be name calling. For them to call you in it must be more serious than your daughter just being shy. Go in with an open mind and work together with the teachers to help your daughter with her shyness and whatever the problem is. Good luck
2007-01-23 09:39:15 · answer #3 · answered by clairelou_lane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
How does you daughter talk about the school at home? Does she seem to have a negative attitude about it? Or does she act like she likes it? This is a key thing: How is SHE reacting to the situation. Maybe she's not comfortable. Is there another school she could go to if that's the case? I wouldn't necessarily place all the blame on the teachers, but I agree with most previous posters that this is not the most professional way to handle the situation. Listen to what the teachers say at the meeting though, and try not to judge them too much. they see your child at a time when you don't, and you might gain some insight into what's really going on! Good luck. 12 is a hard age! (for her and for you)
2007-01-23 09:30:51 · answer #4 · answered by Gabby_Gabby_Purrsalot 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ahh. I had this problem (still do actually, Im painfully shy). Except none of the teachers had a problem with me. I was fine with adults, I just couldnt talk to other kids.
But, something Ive discovered is because Im so shy and I have a REALLY hard time talking to people, a LOT of people misinterpret that as being a snob or stuck up.
I would make your views very known to the school. But, LISTEN to them too. Find out WHY they think she has an attitude problem.
2007-01-23 12:09:16 · answer #5 · answered by jmnixon1981 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
zTell those teachers to f off. Thats very rude and unprofessinal of them. If they continue to harass her talk to the principle. Also ask your daughter if these teaches pick on her or piont her out in class. Find out if they call her sour face in front of kids. If so take action. DO not let adults pick on your child. Ask them exactly what about her attitude they do not like? What makes her a sour face? I bet if you call theif bluff and start pushing back they will think next time before they call you. If the princible does nothing go to the school board. If you want to be a big pain call up your local tv new station and let them do a piece on this. This is really screwed up. Do not punish her for this, these adults sound like children themselfs
2007-01-23 11:42:21 · answer #6 · answered by I hate stupid ppl like you 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think most parents would be surprised at how their children act at school. I have many shy students who are very quiet and do not participate much. I would never say I do not like their attitude or call them sour-faced. Its sounds to me she may not be acting shy, but may be giving them attitude. Teachers notice a lot when they are at the front of the classroom. She may be rolling her eyes, or always looking at the teachers like they are stupid. There are many shy students, so I do not think they would pick on her for that.
2007-01-23 10:05:39 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter sounds a lot like I was in high school. It's hell when you're in that situation, she really needs you to stand up for her and get this sorted out. If you attend a meeting with these teachers, kick up a fuss and still they're treating your daughter badly just because she isn't happy or brave enough to smile during school then I'd really advise moving her. It's incredibly demoralising when it feels like even the teachers are picking on you, and it can cause some long lasting problems. Please don't let your daughter suffer through a school like this throughout her school life, it will not be at all good for her.
2007-01-23 13:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Emily 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with another person on here, it may be more than just the fact that she is shy. I was difinitely wrong for them to call her sour faced and it should be brought to the principals attention.
Anyway does she not talk at school at all, because there is a condition called selective mute syndrome. It is a real condition that affects many children and children have a hard time learning because of it.
2007-01-23 10:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by trhwsh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter is shy also and had similar experiences. I encouraged her to do Drama to improve her confidence but her teacher took a dislike to her. At the next parent's evening I looked the teacher in the eye and said how pleased I was that she was doing Drama as so many people had bullied her in the past ('including you' I thought to myself). I said it was important that she had the opportunity to increase her confidence. The teacher must have taken my comments on board as from that day on she encouraged my daughter and gave her lots of opportunities which have opened doors for her. It's certainly worth complaining if you feel your daughter is getting bullied by her teachers - it has such an impact on them and bullying is not acceptable. School is a tough place for some - I'm glad my daughter has left (she's 17).
2007-01-23 08:42:51 · answer #10 · answered by judy b 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋