ther r 2 lovers(girl n boy).the girl ran from her house wit d boy.got married n they spent more than a week together after marriage away from ther houses.but the girl's family(brothers) deceive them,saying that the boy shld first earn money n they took d girl along wit them promising of grand celebration of ther marriage.few days after her brothers got a written note saying that she dont want to continue wit the boy anymore(signed by the girl itself) they both are my friends what should i do to help them.the girl still loves that boy but what made her to do that god knows.her family is not even allowing her to talk to the boy not even to her friends.the girls family are planning to get them seperated by divorce.please answer my questions and help me to help them.
2007-01-22 23:47:59 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well its possible that she might have written that not due to th pressure from her family..........or sh might have ben frightned of th consquences.....or probably som other reason.......u reeally will have to find out.......coz writing a note of not to live with th eguy and still loving him is not possible as both ar controdictry things.
Scondly if they are over 18(as said BALIG in indian law) then they havee the right to live together and i guess if thy are adults i mean more then 18 thn theey might have done court marrig or marrige in arya samaj.....thn the families of both boy andf girl cant raise a finger. They can sek police and judicial protection. You can consoult a lawyer and can seek judicial help.
But if any of them is not over 18 years of age then they can get into trouble. As you might have read a lots of cases in news paper that after such couple being caught are put behid bars and that too only the boy have to go through all these. As the family of girl pushes charges of rape and take and run away the girl from house etc etc and that can create a huge problem.
But if they are adults ui mean over 18 then they have the right to think of their own and can marry anyone they wich to. No body can stop them. If you think you and those two are doing right thenm always stand with them and always be with them but if they are not adults yet then please wait untill they become 18.
and do talk to both of them seperatly without getting other one know about it and talk with them that whats the problem among them. As if they 2 are not happy with each other then theres no use to oppose the families and theres no use to stand against their families and declare war.
sort out the problem between them, and if they are adults they can marry in court or in arya samaj and noone can be a hurdle and then you can seek police and judical help.
and tell the boy to be financially secure too.
good luck.
2007-01-23 00:29:36 · answer #1 · answered by Vijay Agarwal 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is truly a romantic story but I do admit that they rushed into things. Divorce happens largely due to irrational and rash behaviour of 2 lovers. There has to be a reason as to why the girl doesnt want to live with the boy anymore. If you're a good friend, and since you can't talk with the girl, you could try finding out why from the boy. If it were truly true love, there shouldn't be a problem. If I were you, I would still be their friends and stick by them. If you do think that they belong together, you should do everything in your means to keep it that way. Remind them of the good times they had together and how happy they are when they are with each other and how their relationship affects the people around them, namely you. Good luck and I hope you do the right thing.
2007-01-23 07:58:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
ok
try to reach her with her (girl) friend and try to know the truth
i am sure if they r not allowing anyone to meet her than there is some problem yaar
u side that they left each other just when boy start earning with such a small reason that girl will not do this
so try to find out the truth
try to take help of law or police if needed
no one has a right to destroy others life
best of luck yaar good to hear this u want to help them
if u and your friends love is true than god will help you
so byeeeeeeeee
do your level best to meet them again
2007-01-23 08:15:46 · answer #3 · answered by priya 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Is this you man!
Don't worry boy try to contact the girl, & find what is wrong with her, if girl is not willing then its all over & if she is willing then boy & girl both have to fight hard to get their respctive loves. & if the boy is not earning then why he wants to start the family, it wil create so many problems, why don't the boy try to talk with girl's family & try to understood them that please wait for some time, & in mean time build yourself stronger to take any challenge.
Best of luck to Boy & Girl both.
2007-01-23 07:57:11 · answer #4 · answered by satish k 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well...you don't say how old they are but if they were able to get married, then she is able to leave and be with him...if she is of age then all she has to do is leave her house and be with her husband...if she is not of age then she needs to talk to a lawyer or the police and see what the law says about the situation
2007-01-23 07:55:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
How old are they, 13 or something? They're grown adults and they can take responsibility for their own actions.
2007-01-23 07:54:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
make ur parents understand that he is good person,
tell ur huby to start earning and show them that he is best
2007-01-23 08:04:02 · answer #7 · answered by nikky m 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
it depends on their age........well now the gul needs to take a bold decision, provided she is quite confident that the boy is financially secure, to take care of her.
2007-01-23 08:08:25 · answer #8 · answered by Ramya R 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
god says no divorce
2007-01-23 08:03:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
WHAT? where in the world are you ? ??? WHAT?
2007-01-23 08:02:19 · answer #10 · answered by swimmyfishy 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋