I've been with my partner for two months,and feel the time is right for us too be together..... but i worried about what friends & family will think!....who puts a time limit on these kind of things anyway!
2007-01-22 23:34:04 · 22 answers · asked by Lindy xx 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Only the two of you know when the right time is, do not worry about what family and friends might say as it is your decision and i am sure they will respect you no matter what - good luck and i hope it works out for you both
2007-01-22 23:38:21 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are absolutely right, who does put a time limit on these things.
I moved in with my partner when we'd been together for 9 months and even then people still made the odd clever comment "isn't it a bit soon". No matter what you do there will always be people who think you shouldn't or they will always have something to say.
What does your partner think about it? I assume he's as keen on the idea as you so stuff everyone else and go for it I say. All you can do is give it a go.
2007-01-23 00:07:44 · answer #2 · answered by fishbrain 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Me and my fiance move in with each other after two months and it worked fine for voer a year and then we went our seperate ways for a year and now we have bought a house together and couldn't be happier. I don't think there is ever a right time and who cares what friends and family say, they should be supporting you.
Make sure that you rent somewhere first before buying though because its alot easier to work out stuff if things do go wrong. Also try and come to an agreement of what will happen if you do split up such as, who stays in the house.
Go for it and gud luck!!
2007-01-22 23:40:53 · answer #3 · answered by smudge 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and your partner put the time limit on it. Only you and them can choose, and if you both feel ready, then why not try it? I would reccomend renting a house for a period of 6 - 12 months first, that way if you discover it was too soon, then you can change it quickly and easily, rather than buying straight away
2007-01-23 00:08:41 · answer #4 · answered by Need_to_know 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all....... 2 months is insanely early in the relationship to be thinking living together. 2nd, I decided to answer this question in hopes of saving you heartache and grief........based on my own experience. Don't give up your autonomy or your personal space by moving in together. It is never a good thing unless or until you are married....I have been married and divorced two times. Both times I co habitated before marriage becuz I was a firm believer in testing the waters before marriage. I was wrong. Your judgement can become very clouded when you live together. You can ignore the red flags and your gut instincts regarding the relationship......it happened to me. I wanted so badly for each of these realtionship's to work that I gave up who I am and began living for him.....in each case. It was subtle...pretty soon months and years went by. My second divorce ruined me financially and in looking back, had I not invited him to live with me in my home and kept our living arrangements separate.....I would have been objective enough to clearly see the red flags. With all due respect.........keep your own place, do not give that up. Because when you do you'll end up giving up what is important to you, yet you may not even realize it.
2007-01-23 01:15:13 · answer #5 · answered by Janet 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you both feel right, go for it. You will only really get to know someone once you've lived with them for a while. As for what the family thinks... with all due respect they aren't living your life. I moved in with my now wife the day I met her 7 years ago!!! and been married for 5 years!! So there is no wrong time to do it!
Good luck, I'm sure it will work out!
2007-01-22 23:42:31 · answer #6 · answered by Lucky Cat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two months? Are you mad? Have you lived with anyone before? How old are you? Sooooo many questions - but not nearly as many as your family will have ha ha. No one puts a time limit on these kind of things - it's entirely up to you. Good luck x
2007-01-22 23:47:54 · answer #7 · answered by Away With The Fairies 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know it's time to move in when there's no point in going to your own place because all of the things you need are at their place.
Another clue that it's time to move in, is if the only time you go home is to take care of pets.
Your friends and family don't have to live with your partner and they don't pay your rent. But if they do pay your rent, you're doing them a favor by moving in. So either way it's best if you move in.
2007-01-22 23:46:34 · answer #8 · answered by A. D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the time is right if you can pay half the bills for the place, and you have a stable income, and some money in the bank. what i mean by paying the bills is that you have it in righting. you wouldn't want him stiffing you if he decided to take off would you. do you have reliable transportation. are will you depend on him. does he have money coming in ? who cares what family and friends think are they going to bail you out if things don't work, well maybe . but not all of them, but they will be there to say i told you so. so make sure you can afford your share of the expenses then the time is right.
2007-01-23 04:24:13 · answer #9 · answered by devil weed 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess common sense would say that it may be too soon to move in with him - but only you know how far your feelings go for each other - if you feel in your heart that its right - then no one should prevent you from doing so.
Just be careful though - after 2 months there are lots of things you dont know about each other yet so just bear in mind that he may not be as perfect as you may think he is
Wishing you both luck though
xx
2007-01-22 23:39:23 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋